Renting a room to an ex co-worker

Tigsteroonie

yvonne13 wrote: »

Thats another thing getting him to come round is like getting blood out of a stone, he has never been to my house nor seen the room.

So I guess the firm talk will have to take place the day he moves in.

If he wants the room, then he'll make the effort to come around and discuss all terms & rules before moving in. I would strongly advise against waiting until he moves in before having that discussion - if he is as awkward as he seems, you could face a battle of wills to get him to move out again when the friendship sours.

edit. Crossposted with Duchy

Badger_Lady

Yvonne, only go ahead with this if you feel comfortable with it. Don't let him pressure you! If he's only 'given notice', then he still has time to find somewhere else. But if you feel intimidated now, don't let it move in with you.

If you do decide to go ahead, here are some useful documents - I originally wrote them but loads of us on MSE use the same ones (or an edited version) for lodgers

Application Form, House Rules and Standing Order Mandate
Houseshare Agreement (licence)

yvonne13_2

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

If he wants the room, then he'll make the effort to come around and discuss all terms & rules before moving in. I would strongly advise against waiting until he moves in before having that discussion - if he is as awkward as he seems, you could face a battle of wills to get him to move out again when the friendship sours.

edit. Crossposted with Duchy

The first time he was supposed to come round he fell down some stairs and spent the night in hospital.
The second time he said his tutor called him so he had to go to uni.
Now he is blaiming the weather!!!

Right I am going to be assertive and text him straight if he doesn't come over by Saturday my kindness with be withdrawn and he will have to look elsewhere to live.

yvonne13_2

Badger_Lady wrote: »

Yvonne, only go ahead with this if you feel comfortable with it. Don't let him pressure you! If he's only 'given notice', then he still has time to find somewhere else. But if you feel intimidated now, don't let it move in with you.

If you do decide to go ahead, here are some useful documents - I originally wrote them but loads of us on MSE use the same ones (or an edited version) for lodgers

Application Form, House Rules and Standing Order Mandate
Houseshare Agreement (licence)

Thank you so much these documents are great :j

BigAunty

Is he in employment? I'm not sure that part-time students get much in the way of grants or loans, could be wrong. Just wondering how he can afford his rent with you.

yvonne13_2

BigAunty wrote: »

Is he in employment? I'm not sure that part-time students get much in the way of grants or loans, could be wrong. Just wondering how he can afford his rent with you.

He works part time for a large utility company and to be honest I'm not conserned how he can afford the rent as he currently pays £500 a month for his bedsit and will only be paying £352 when he moves into mine.

ukmaggie45

yvonne13 wrote: »

He works part time for a large utility company and to be honest I'm not conserned how he can afford the rent as he currently pays £500 a month for his bedsit and will only be paying £352 when he moves into mine.

But didn't you say in your first post he couldn't afford the rent which was why he wanted to move? Are you sure he can afford to pay your rent?

I see BadgerLady has given you some links, I suggest you take a look at her thread about having lodgers in her home.

rentergirl

I think you both need a trial period, and for you speak openly about your worries that he 'rushed' you. he is feeling insecure (tenants always feel this way). It could well work, but you have to make it clear, verbally and in writing, that this is a trial.

getmore4less

Bedsit to to the run of a 4 bed house

I see trouble ahead

I would make sure this is on your terms.

How long before the other spare rooms are accomadating mates.

DVardysShadow

yvonne13 wrote: »

The first time he was supposed to come round he fell down some stairs and spent the night in hospital.
The second time he said his tutor called him so he had to go to uni.
Now he is blaiming the weather!!!

Right I am going to be assertive and text him straight if he doesn't come over by Saturday my kindness with be withdrawn and he will have to look elsewhere to live.

That is not assertive. Far from it. It is actually weak submission to him telling you the score disguised with a token gesture to make you look tough, mainly to yourself.

This guy is pushing you around [in that he told you what his rent would be] and not engaging with your needs in the situation [by making excuses not to visit].

This will be the pattern for him as a lodger. If you would be happy with this fine. If not, then tell him there is no deal and you won't even have him temporarily. Because that will be the next thing when you tell him no. And then you will be stuck with him.