“So, what are you doing tonight?”

Hezzawithkids

Nothing unusual in that at all. It's usually the young singles who profess to be out & about all the time.

OH & I were talking about this just the other day, how we used to be so socially active at weekends and usually during the week too. We still have a regular sports, clubs, hobby-type things to do but by the weekend we are too knackered to contemplate much, when we do go out and have a late night I'm very tired the next day! We love our Saturday nights in: a nice meal in front of the TV, bottle of wine and a DVD or catch-up tv to watch.

kettlefish

I don't think anyone really goes out every single night living the high life once they've left the family home, partly due to lack of money and partly because once you've worked hard to make your house into a home, it's normal to actually want to spend some time in it!

You'll probably find that people initiate this conversation on the days they happen to have evening plans, so you'll have to ask them in return - making you feel like they must do it often, and them happy to have been able to share details of their only night out in months!:rotfl:

no-oneknowsme

Your life sounds perfectly normal to me!

Once my Hubby and I are both home from work - around 6ish - we see to the dinner together , sort out homeworks and uniforms for the kids for school the next day , pack pe kits , do the washing up and then from around 7.30 we are all sat done with everything done ready to watch whatever happens to be on the telly.

We dont go out much or socialise , we are just happy to spend evenings at home with our family.

You sound perfectly happy (and normal) to me.

Frith

I've been a single parent for 7 years (from the age of 29) and live miles from anywhere so I don't think anyone asks me what I am doing anymore!

This evening I shall be making 2 boys do their homework (due in tomorrow...) and the highlight of Tuesdays is watching Holby City on iplayer when I have gone to bed!

I do think it is much worse in the winter though - even my sons don't want to do anything much when they come home from school.

Birdie85

You're certainly normal!

My DH works evenings and doesn't finish work 'till 10 so I don't even have someone to do anything with during the week. I make my tea, clean up, watch a bit of TV, faff about on the internet, maybe a bit of crafting, maybe a bit of exercise... I pretty much just fill the time 'till DH comes home and I've got someone to talk to! Every 2/3 weeks I have some friends round for dinner and I go to my parent's once a week. Exciting! TBH when you work full time it's nice to have quiet evenings in to relax and recharge, I'd hate being busy every night!

newcook

We tend to have these conversations in our office – my usual response is ‘chilling out by cracking open a bottle of wine, having a candle-lit bath then watching a film/soaps’

Normal reply back is ‘oooh, I wish I was doing that – ive got to go to in-laws/walk the dog/meet friends etc’

tea_lover

I think that's perfectly normal. I kind of feel the same but it's my OH who's often busy. Usually only a couple of nights a week but I probably go out one night a fortnight, if that! Am just happy at home, I love a bit of peace of quiet, bit of knitting, bit of xbox - I'm easily pleased.

red_devil

its a winter thing. I should think most people just stay in and relax with cold dark nights. Different in the summer.

Judith_W

I also think that if you're not living with anyone, you make more plans with people as you would otherwise be home alone, whereas if you're living with someone then the company is there but you don't have to plan anything special.

Lotus-eater

Wait till you have kids