No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

LaineyT

Can only echo what Candlelight has said Lyn, you always know exactly the right thing to say to sooth a troubled heart, bless yours.
Yes, I am so my mothers daughter in many ways right down to that indefatigable streak of stubbornness :A

LaineyT

Thank you Monna, that is a beautiful verse and literally brought a lump to my throat.

No, not everyone who wants to be, gets to be a Mum in the exact sense of the word, myself included. It's been a constant hurt in my heart for many years, BUT I have learnt to keep that heart open to whatever kind of love comes my way, whether that's for my beloved animals or my darling stepsons, in that I have been truly blessed x

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So, whenever you look in the mirror, not just today or tomorrow but your whole lives through you can see your darling Mum, each and every day for as long as YOU live and you can smile and see her smile back at you xxx.

fuddle

Mother's Day isn't difficult for me but I suspect that years worth of difficulties with Mam. Our relationship was tottered with negatives and I personally suffered because of my mam's mental health and parenting style. Mother's Day in my life has always focused on me trying to be a better mam than my mam was able to be and I guess that will continue. Of course I think about her but it's no different to the normal every day feelings I have about missing the better times with her. I'm grateful I can mourn losing the better times because I believed that after her death I wouldn't be able to appreciate that because of years of sustained pain. It has worked like that thankfully but I am pleased to be able to smile so I'm not going to beat myself up about not feel devastation on a day that maybe I'm supposed to.

I suspect that was all as clear as mud eh?

Well we've had a lovely start to the day... We awoke to a lot of snow and had a whale of a time down the hill! It's nearly gone now as warmed up quite quickly but I can appreciate just how bad it will get in the depths of colder weather.

I'm appreciating the calmness today and awoke to that hot potato gone from my throat. I just hope that penicillin is enough to kick the bacteria's bottom because ordinarily stronger antibiotics don't quite do the trick. But as it stands I am fighting fit and no concerns. I'm going to bed at 8.30 and making sure I'm relaxed to drift off to sleep early as thinking sleep is in my armour too.

I've cottage pie gubbings in my slow cooker to assemble later with mashed potato and I fancy baking cheese scones for supper. Taking it slow though, I'm doing what I want as opposed to stressed with need to do jobs.

monnagran

Fuddle, glad to hear that the hot potato is no more. Fingers crossed that the penicillin does its job.

You are absolutely right, sleep is truly the unravelling of cares, (I'm on a Shakespeare jag at the moment. He spoke such a lot of sense.) There is nothing as healing and energizing as a good night's sleep and if you can get that you are well on the way to recovery.

Enjoy your cottage pie. I picked up two chicken kievs a couple of weeks ago that were on their last bb date. Not something I would normally do but there was a fantastic mark down for 30p for the two. I couldn't resist, so popped them in the freezer. Today one of them will make a good meal for me with lots of vegetables that I already have. A great meal for 15p!

It has been blowing a Gale, dark and wet today so far. However the sun has just come out and makes me rethink my plan of spending the afternoon knitting. It seems wrong to waste the sunshine. I may take one of the dogs for a walk. My preference will be slow, old Millie. She and I do a happy stroll. Dora reqires a lot more energetic participation on my part.

Just read back. Why does my tablet always think that Gale reqires a capital G? Am I missing something?

x

scottishminnie

Well, it didn't get any warmer here, in fact yesterday we had snow Nd my daffodils were well and truly flattened. Today it is just cold and windy so I was delighted to be heading to London where I thought it would be warmer. It was wet and wild then, just as I was heading for the airport, came the news of the attack on Westminster. My heart goes out to everyone involved in this but I am so glad to be home safe and well. Unfortunately I'm back down again next week but I'll just have to stay on my guard and hope for the best.

Fuddle - fingers crossed you are on the road to recovery now.

Lainey- it's hard when Mother's Day is so soon after losing your mum. I hope you can remember happy mothers days in the past.

although I have a reasonable relationship with my own mother I simply go through the motions on Mother's Day - my mother in law never misses a chance to remind my husband of how I failed him in that respect so I don't expect this year to be any different and my own mother now seems to think it's ok to make sharp remarks about how she never expected she wouldn't have any grandchildren. Seems age makes you immune to other people's feelings sometimes:(

monnagran - what a bargain meal - very impressive!

Floss

SM & Lainey i'm sad that motherhood passed you by - however I am sure that others will have benefitted from your love and care for them.

Mothers Day will be just another Sunday for DH and I, as we have both lost both parents, and I don't feel the need to be reminded of my boys, as I am lucky in that they show me their love all year around.

Just enjoying a sneaky midweek glass of red with our spag & freezer-bol

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There doesn't have to be a specially designated day to 'celebrate' being a mum, it doesn't matter if you are married, single or any of the alternatives, there don't have to be children you're mum as much to the kittens and dogletts and horses and ferrets and all other of Gods creature creations who bring their love to us in so many ways, what we really should celebrate in bucketloads is the love that is in relationships with humans, furries, scalies and featheries even fishies sometimes even the plants we have in the garden. Love of all and any kinds is what makes the world go around, appreciation of the wonderful things we see, do and experience each and every day including things as mundane and everyday as the first cuppa of the day should be worth a song or two and being happy in the small things in life should be celebrated most of all. Lets use Mothering Sunday to widen the scope of 'mother' and celebrate all the things that make us happy so top of my list after the family is you lot, life would be so much less fun without you!!!

monnagran

SM, oh, I do hope you are right and age makes you immune to other people's feelings. There are one or two people who I would love to tell what I really think of them without worrying about upsetting them.
Perhaps I'm not quite old enough yet.

It amazes me that people should feel themselves entitled to pronounce on something as private and personal as whether or not you have children. Particularly when they don't know whether this was a choice or a sadness.
Anyway, no-one has a right to grandchildren. It makes me wonder what your DM and DMIL have done with their lives that they are so empty without grandchildren.
I am infatuated with all of mine but if my sons had elected to remain childless I wouldn't have thought my life had been ruined.

Ever considered a swift punch on the nose in response to the next barbed remark?

x

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I dreamed of Docky last night, he came bundling towards me and pinged up and down and turned himself into his usual pretzel shape rubbing on my knees. He was well, waggy, happy, pleased to see me, full of love and without his tumour and then he was gone.....I woke up smiling!