Realtionship needs help!!

victory

Agree with everyone else, don't open yourself up to anymore pain, you will get hurt, time to walk away

Stephb1986_2

Walk away now before you get hurt even more, there is someone out there for you

Good luck

Steph x

balletshoes

from what you've said OP, I don't think your gf (ex-gf, whichever title fits her just now) has misled you totally. She might get on great with you, feel comfortable around you etc etc and still not want to be with you as in a romantic committed relationship.
I suspect she's never wanted to be romantically committed with you, and yes, she clearly has issues in her own family/career which take up her time and her energy. Those are her issues, she has the right and the responsibility to deal with them in her own way.

And you know, she could also have been telling you the truth when she said she doesn't need a man in her life.

Devi

you sound like a lovely, caring guy and i agree with previous posters that you should walk away for your own sanity's sake.

maybe once you're no longer there, she'll realise that she's finally got a good man and will try and make things work, in which case you should insist she gets professional help before making a further committment.

Jezminda

Take everyones advice. She isn't going to change, and harsh as it sounds, she doesn't care enough about you to try.

whitewing

Wonder of there is something going wrong with her menstrual cycle because of the recurring regularity of the issues with you?

There obviously are other issues going on too though, so solving some won't necessarily give you the happy ending you'd like.

Molly41

Im glad my Kid's Dad did not walk away from me. It took years for me to trust again and I still have bad days.

suki1001

I think you are being too nice. Whether it is a good thing or a bad thing you are in her life, what is probably true is that you are the only person she probably feels comfortable around enough to be angry with you and treat you in a way that is hurtful. She cannot do that to anyone else, epsecially not toe people who hurt her.

I don't think though, as she can treat you like this and you let her, that this is a good thing. She needs to feel safe when doing it, but that means giving her boundaries. Being the nice guy, doesn't really make for a good relationship. She won't respect you, if you let yourself get walked all over. She needs someone emotionally strong in her life. While it is lovely that you are patient, it is not going to help her build up a "normal" relationship. However, she probably really needed someone like you, if you are the only person who has actually been nice to her. Good on you for your patience, find someone who will really appreciate it.