should i continue to buy presents for my nieces??

faerie~spangles

NAR wrote: »

Jeez what a sad family you have!

Now, now, now. no need for personal attacks. :beer:

andygb

bonjovibel_729 wrote: »

hiya just wondered what ppls opinions were on this....i have two nieces and every year for xmas and birthdays i make sure i make a fuss of them buying them presents and a nice card etc not once have i ever forgotten...however i also have 3 children of my own and my sister hardly if ever buys them even a card.....my 8yr olds birthday was just after xmas and she didnt even get a card.....i thought this was quite mean of my sister as i bought quite a lot for her daughters for xmas.....

my husband is of the opinion if shes not buying for our kids we shudnt buy for hers...but i dont want her kids to miss out and for them to think of me the way my kids think of her....

what d u think shud i continue buying presents for her kids or not??

I don't think giving is a "one way street", and from the sound of it you have been more than generous in the past. I think it may be time for you to cut back and simply send cards in future. If anything is said, then you can explain to the aggrieved party - in as nice a way as possible of course;)

plumtreebabe

My child doesn't assess the quality of her relationship with friends/family members by whether or not they send her cards or presents; she very much enjoys receiving presents and will remember that, but I have never encouraged her to think negatively of anyone who doesn't. We enjoy spending time with family and friends and would never judge them on whether they buy her a present or not! Family and friends are much more important than presents!

supersuzie50

Do you receive thank you notes or any acknowledgement from your sister's children ? If the answer is yes, I would continue giving them presents but if I did not receive any acknowledgement from the children, I would stop sending them gifts.

NAR

faerie~spangles wrote: »

Now, now, now. no need for personal attacks. :beer:

Not a personal attack, but a reflection on how children in your family have been raised to show respect towards gifts.