should i continue to buy presents for my nieces??

Noctu

If we were talking about all adults in this situation then I'd say don't bother anymore.

However as they are kids (and it's not really their fault), I'd get one token gift (inexpensive) and a card. That way you don't feel guilty, the kids still get something, but you're not spending loads of money and time on gifts for no acknowledgement in return.

bonjovibel_729

hi there thanks for the replies i dont feel like i can actually say anything to my sister as we dont really get on that well and i dont want her gettin the hump with me and not letting me see the children as things are we hardly ever talk and i only see her when i go see my mum as she is alllllllways there....think i will just carry on buying for the kids..her kids are four and one and mine are 8 12 and 4...my kids dont even expect anythin from her anymore and them they are not disappointed

Abbafan1972

bonjovibel_729 wrote: »

hi there thanks for the replies i dont feel like i can actually say anything to my sister as we dont really get on that well and i dont want her gettin the hump with me and not letting me see the children as things are we hardly ever talk and i only see her when i go see my mum as she is alllllllways there....think i will just carry on buying for the kids..her kids are four and one and mine are 8 12 and 4...my kids dont even expect anythin from her anymore and them they are not disappointed

If that's the case then why did you bother coming on here and asking for advice in the first place?

kaylee*

Err, she came her for advice and opinions. This a a place for people to come to get help.

Why reply, if you don't have anything constructive to say?

BitterAndTwisted

I've got something constructive to say. And it's that I would continue to buy a present for the children because they're so young. This situation is do with your relationship with your sister and not your relationship with her children. However, I would ensure that they are modest little gifts. Tokens, really.

faerie~spangles

Kids don't take notice about who bought them a gift or not.


Parents cause the drama.

POPPYOSCAR

faerie~spangles wrote: »

Kids don't take notice about who bought them a gift or not.


Parents cause the drama.

I have to disagree with you. My children most certainly do notice, and my nieces have told me now that they are older, that they appreciate that I continued to remember them on their birthdays and christmas.It is not about getting a present in itself, it is the being thought of that counts to both my own children and my nieces.

cabbage

I had the same situation but there was a huge age gap and my kids were much younger. I continued to buy for the kids until they reached 18/left home/started work but also put £20 in my kids accounts on their birthdays from their aunties/uncles. I agree with all the comments, its not the kids' fault. Buy them something but not an expensive present or card and put the difference in your own kids bank account as a present from their auntie.

Kids remember these things and as others said, its not their fault

NAR

faerie~spangles wrote: »

Kids don't take notice about who bought them a gift or not.
Parents cause the drama.

Jeez what a sad family you have!

Deffo buy presents until they are say 16; they will remember who thought so much of them.

property.advert

If you aren't close enough to talk about this and need to ask strangers on the internet then perhaps you should stop buying presents, unless of course you want to buy us all presents as well ?