Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

DS is a fussy eater, and I sometimes find it stressful taking him to people's houses if he doesn't want to eat what they offer him. At your house, with a varied selection on the table and the freedom for us all to help ourselves, he was happy and I felt relieved and grateful. :T

You were even gracious to me after I'd expressed myself a little too vehemently (before lunch) about what I considered to be the idiocy of a friend who wastes perfectly good cake by contaminating it with courgette.... and your courgette cake was actually rather nice, although I still won't be putting any courgette in any cakes I make myself.

I thought that was hilarious! Fwiw, i thought both your children coped excellently with eating at a strange home.

There is a theory that having tried something a certain number of times one dislikes then one gets a taste for it. For me it hasn't exactly worked...e.g. I do not seek out fennel. But i have found it easier and easier to eat. Its certainly a protocol i would follow with kids if i had them.....taste it each time it appears on the ate,but don't finish it. Trying is enough imo, and better than forcing kids to eat stuff and having the terrible faces gone through.

Today my friend and her baby took me to lunch. He tried some of everything we both had..he always does. He has never liked lettuce...its hard to eat when your teeth are few, but today ate a nice crunchy cos leaf base he had tried from my plate. Next time he might think..oh that stuff was. Alright last time, i 'll try it again. He also ate beetroot, venison, a little bit of chicken, a tiny taste of marinated anchovy ! That wa a fail, and a bit of gerkin failed too...but he tried everything. No one expected him to finish. It seems to be the simplest way to encourage breadth of palate.

Also, only a fool offers kids something not accompanied by bread. That your children liked ham so much was a happy coincidence, but they wouldn't have been hungry with bread and some fruit and they would have had sopmething to eaty without feling awkward and rude.

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

I know I'm not a fussy eater. I will eat everything put in front of me.

steak yes
cinnamon yes (but not too much)
mushroom yes yes yes

can't remember what else was being said, I'm really tired from work

Warm bath and early night? Poor you.

sss555s

Wheezy wrote: »

Whenever there's a NP meet-up, you guys can sit at the big table and eat quorn, lentils and hummus.
I'll be sitting at the kiddies table with davesnave, zagubov, sss555s and chewie and we'll eat nice juicy steak.

Fillet for me and we best get 12 bottles of cab and 12 bottles of blanc which should keep us all happy. :beer:

silvercar wrote: »

We know differing NPs views on mushrooms, but what about cinnamon?

All of us (4) adore its flavour and I happily add it to loads of desserts, until I found the taste was not universally appreciated.

Cinnamon is good to go but hold the mushrooms. I keep noticing damn Jukes now grrr

lostinrates wrote: »

By my last post, i will sit where i am put and eat whiat i am given. I may or may not enjoy it, but noone would know if i dislike it i hope.

We will all end up at the same table, till the wine is finished :beer:

Davesnave

SingleSue wrote: »

I'll be with you Wheezy.......

Looks like I'm already there, in which case can my steak be Devon Red, please?

Some of my friends here could so easily be meat, so I try to buy responsibly and get stuff that's been nicely reared, but I sometimes fail, notably with trashy curries.

'Quorn' sounds rude, so I don't go there. I'm so old I've probably only had the prototype, but I can hang before trying the modern version for a bit longer yet.

Cinnamon - yup

Seafood - yup, and don't forget seaweed....yum!

Mushrooms - yes, all the time, but I baulked at a puffball after having too much of one last year.

Like misskool, I'm not fussy and remain unsurprised by lir's observations about male pickiness and their 'lurve quotient.' Stands to reason, dunnit? :A

.....Oh, hang on! Just remembering someone I shared a house with in London, who ate nothing but pie & chips every day. He had more women than the rest of us put together. I don't suppose looking like a tanned Swede had anything to do with it? That's a Swede from Sweden, you understand, not a mangel wurzel from Devon. :rotfl:

lostinrates

Davesnave wrote: »

.....Oh, hang on! Just remembering someone I shared a house with in London, who ate nothing but pie & chips every day. He had more women than the rest of us put together. I don't suppose looking like a tanned Swede had anything to do with it? That's a Swede from Sweden, you understand, not a mangel wurzel from Devon. :rotfl:

Looks gets people once or twice, abilty gets them coming back. So your chap with high numbers confirms my standpoint really. There is more explanation behind the theory as it may or may not pertain to swedish pie eater, but its simply too not nice for the nice people.

Davesnave

lostinrates wrote: »

I would probably struggle goven eel, which dh likes. I have managed turtle, which was imo vile.

I put back the only turtle (terrapin) I ever caught in British waters. It was living not far from your old place and weighed a good 5lbs. Must admit, I wouldn't have fancied it. _pale_

Did eel once. It wouldn't stop jumping around in the pan, and it was already in 3" pieces! :rotfl:I didn't really like its rich taste that much.

ATM I'm pheasanted-out & praying there won't be any more on the door handle till next season.

misskool

Davesnave wrote: »

ATM I'm pheasanted-out & praying there won't be any more on the door handle till next season.

We have to buy our pheasants

Davesnave

misskool wrote: »

We have to buy our pheasants

Although ours are free, they do arrive in quite a raw state, and of course need to be hung in the garage for a 3-5 days, so not exactly instant grub!

chewmylegoff

lostinrates wrote: »

I wouldn't want anyone to eat anything they didn't want to. For this reason i tend to bring out plates/platters and let people help them selves. It is less elegant, but it seems to me the most diplomatic way to deal with the issue, only the rudest peor refuse everything offered (presuming they are not allergic or culturally - religion, vegetarianism. At the very least there is bread and salad usually on the table.

One of the reasons dh and i struggle atm with our friend's unlikable boyfriend is his rude fussieness. He is a vegetarian who dilikes veg. What he means is he wants to live on junk carbs...his choice is fine, but not if expecting to eat at other peoples houses without causing offence to someone eventually. He once ate all the stuffing out of my stuffed aubergines, because he dislikes aubergines so couldn't eat them...fair enough...but the aubergines were stuffed with......aubergine. He was going on anout how yummy it was....and another friend and i got thie giggles over thie washing up.

Edit: i think the thing that really i find very unappealing about fussy men in particular is that in my own extensive research in youth they tend to make less good and adveturous lovers. My friend has confirmed the research this with the fussy bf. if eating a diet of crisps primed men for being caring, superb lovers with the stamina,desire and appetite for mutually satisfactory relations maybe i could view it as a sacrifice. Living abroad when i was little in different cultures taught me just how important eationg something offered can be. It can make up for a difficult social or language barrier amd make a good first impression. E.g. The idea of chickens feet repulses me, i see where they walk and how hard they would be to clean, but if offered them in the home of someone else i would at least try a taste of one. I have a very sensitve gag reflex, yet manage to eat things that at home would send me straight out of the room in the name of good manners. I wouldn't want someone to feel like that in my home, but neither would i like none of the effort made to be appreciated...that lead to the idea of meat platter serving dishes etc.

I'm extremely unfussy in pretty much every regard, but I'm also grumpy, painfully antisocial, rude, stubborn, selfish, immature, fickle, particularly unadventurous, and rubbish in bed so it seems your theory is not borne out!

I do at least know my principle character faults though.

michaels

I was about to type something else but decided it was too rude so I will just agree. Funnily enough in most other things I am a fussy eater.

My kids always 'try' some of everything and funnily even the things they state they don't like normally get finished in the end...

lostinrates wrote: »

Looks gets people once or twice, abilty gets them coming back. So your chap with high numbers confirms my standpoint really. There is more explanation behind the theory as it may or may not pertain to swedish pie eater, but its simply too not nice for the nice people.