Facebook and children

dizziblonde

sunshine__ wrote: »

I think it's wrong tbh and don't think children should have profiles made for them, it's inappropriate, there's too many awful people out there that can easily access these sites and so on. Somebody I know has made a profile for her unborn baby and has a scan picture of the baby's first scan as the display picture. Personally i don't agree with scan pictures being on there either as it's quite a special, personal moment but as we know it's down to the person's own opinion i guess, but i wouldn't do it x

I don't have scan photos on mine - I've got a fair few friends via miscarriage groups and I remember how utterly upsetting I used to find it when friends posted theirs (and the fact it gets bumped back into your own news feed after every single comment means they kept popping up for weeks)... I'll email them to those who want to see them but that's it - I'm not going to thrust them in the faces of people who might be having rough times and upset by them - and I know I have some on my friends list who might if it hit them on a bad day.

When the baby comes - I'll put one or two on there (untagged cos I'm too lazy to tag crap anyway) for far flung relatives to see - but cataloguing the entire life and jamming news feeds massively with every individual moment of life is just annoying anyway.

I've defriended people who've made FBs for their kids - because they always try to add all THEIR friends on the baby's FB account and it gets annoying either avoiding the request, melodramatic when you say no, or vomit-inducing when they start posting AS the baby (sorry I don't want to read "I love you very much mummy, so I'm going to do a huge poo in my nappy to show you this" etc etc). Can't help but wonder when these kids are grown up and employers look to see what's online about them and get photos of them in the bath naked aged 2 months!

merlot123

bylromarha wrote: »

And this is why Facebook is so wrong...

Why is Facebook so wrong?

It can be a great place to meet up with old friends etc. FB has different levels of security to allow others to see or not see profiles etc.

With FB you are in control of what people see, with many forums you are not, anyone who has got a log in can view your profile on a forum like this one. (granted not many people put too much detail onto profiles on this forum).

You just have to google facebook and children and this thread will appear in the google search, that doesn't happen when you post a comment on FB.

bigmomma051204

jellyhead wrote: »

I've put pictures of my kids (fully clothed) on facebook, but for friends only. I insisted that my sister either remove a pic of my toddler naked in a cage that she made public.

I don't see the point of giving kids a facebook profile. My kids are just tagged as me or their father. My eldest is 15 and by the time they are old enough to have a facebook account (is it 13?) they really don't want all of those baby and holiday pictures being tagged as them, all they want are pictures of them and their friends, taken by them and their friends. It's THEIR facebook and they don't want their parents embarrassing them.

What?!?!?!?!!?!!?! :eek:

Tigsteroonie

I'm one of those Mums who post pictures of their kids on FB. I had the scan photos & my bump; photos of Andrew in his incubator; and now have photos of him growing up. He did have his own FB profile (yes, I lied about his DOB to create it) but that got reported & closed down (quite rightly given that we'd contravened FB rules) and so he now has a fan page instead. The photos are accessible to friends only, and we find FB a very good tool for sharing photos around distant family members.

I have also posted occasional photos of him on here, because some of our son's honorary aunties & uncles are on MSE but not FB.

I'm not sure what the problem is? Yes there are p*edophiles out there, but those people will find photos by various mechanisms and if they find our son's photos, we won't know. I doubt anybody would get s*xual gratification from looking at photos of my son fully clothed - far more internet weirdos would get similar gratification from some of the risque & revealing photos of drunken women that appear on FB. (You know the type I mean)

jellyhead

heretolearn wrote: »

'a pic of my toddler naked in a cage'

What?! there's got to be a story there...

Not really. It was summer and 2 toddlers were in the paddling pool, water slide etc. in sister's large garden. Her rabbit hutch and run was enormous, and the toddlers (mine just turned 2, hers was younger) took off their swim nappies (no idea why!) and crawled into the run to play with the bunnies.

There were no rabbits in the pics though, and she had commented about naked caged children. Somebody else had said they were gorgeous with their silky curls, and 'cherub' build. I just didn't want people stumbling across that and seeing all of her other details ... I know you can be too paranoid about that sort of thing and I'm not worried about any friends seeing it but she had everything public and open to everyone, with her address details.

Carl31

If !!!!!s want pictures of kids, im pretty sure Facebook is pretty low on the hit list

!!!!!s can photograph kids in the park using a mobile phone camera, better stop your kids leaving the house next!

jellyhead

Carl31 wrote: »

If !!!!!s want pictures of kids, im pretty sure Facebook is pretty low on the hit list

!!!!!s can photograph kids in the park using a mobile phone camera, better stop your kids leaving the house next!

Is this in response to me? My kids play in the water at the park, on beaches etc. wearing almost nothing but that's different - they are not identifiable.

I don't think I'm being over the top for not wanting my naked child on facebook.

Carl31

jellyhead wrote: »

Is this in response to me? My kids play in the water at the park, on beaches etc. wearing almost nothing but that's different - they are not identifiable.

I don't think I'm being over the top for not wanting my naked child on facebook.

sorry, no just a general response

I find the whole connection of the internet to peadoughs rather old fashioned and tiresome

Gleeful

I wasn't on about !!!!!philes actually. It makes me uncomfortable because that child was ill, and its mother decided that posting a picture of him unwell on Facebook was a good idea.

sweetme

bylromarha wrote: »

And this is why Facebook is so wrong...

Facebook isn't wrong. And there is no "wrong" way to use it, each to their own. However, I do think posting pictures of your children whilst ill is a little odd.