He has done it again :(

Birdy12

missbishi wrote: »

Reminds me of Bill Clinton and his "Yes I smoked a joint but I didn't inhale" stories.

Along with 'I did not have sexual relations with that woman'. :cool: Define sexual relations...

missbishi

Birdy12 wrote: »

Along with 'I did not have sexual relations with that woman'. :cool: Define sexual relations...

OMG, totally forgot about that one! BC obviously does not class making an "officers mess" on his interns dress as sexual relations!

Wendy5704

sohurtandlost wrote: »

I posted a thread in 2010 about my fiance (feel free to read it).

Well unfortunately its 2012 and im in that place again.

I trusted him and we were fine. Had another baby and learned to communicate.

He still rang a few sexlines but i was fine with that!

But...then i found out he was looking up local escorts. He didnt meet any, just rang them. We rowed, we talked and thought we were moving forward.

Not the case...he went out over christmas, got drunk and came home. I believed him. Curiousity got the better of me so i checked his phone records again. He phoned escorts, none answered so he went to a massage parlour instead. He didnt have sex, he was too drunk but the fact is, he went and he tried.

He had made an appointment with a therapist to address his issues now which is a step but its still made me take a huge knock.

Im not even angry! Just disappointed! I want to understand and help!

Blimey, reading back i think what a mug. Love hurts and is a complete head f***!!!!!

Dont know what i want to achieve by posting and i know most will say get rid!

Sorry for the long post xxx

Unfortunately to say this has recently happened to a family member. She gave him a chance and he did it again so she had to get rid. Things were never going to change.

Not saying your partner wouldnt but If it was me I would get rid.
Its really not a nice situation to be in and it will take time to get over whichever way you go but sometimes you have to do what is best for you.

Gingham_R

What makes you believe him that he didn't have sex?

Regardless of whether he did on that occasion or not, he's certainly trying to. Again.

Good luck. And make him wear a condom when you have sex.

flutterby_lil

sohurtandlost wrote: »

Basically he was too drunk to get it up. She tried!!

Did he tell you this?

claire16c

OP make sure you go to the docs or a clinic and get tests done to check he hasnt passed anything on to you.

purple.sarah

Unless you were in the room, you only have his word that he didn't go through with it and his word that he hasn't visited other prostitutes, even though he's contacted them. What is his word worth to you now, after all the times he's lied? Please get checked for STDs and realise he is putting your health at risk.

Your post in 2010 says you had already forgiven him once for sleeping with a prostitute then found out he'd been phoning prostitutes again. Then you forgave him. Now he's done it again. You have given him more than enough time to change, how much more of your life are you willing to waste? Maybe he has problems but only he can change and you leaving might be the push he needs.

Ellejmorgan

How did you find out what he did ?..
The fact he tried is as bad as the act itself..
Any man that puts his d*ck before his family isn't a man sorry but it can't work..I know it's hard [forgive the expression] but you deserve better.