Sometimes I really dislike my DH

Caroline73_2

Bonnie_dog wrote: »

I know I am now thinking of different versions of the D in DH I can't print most of them,
He is really doing my head in, and I am starving cos I told him to stuff his tea (he had made Chicken Roast)

Did you slam the door and stamp your feet too?

BitterAndTwisted

If he's a git who's taking you for a ride but getting sarky when you bring it up, give him a kicking. And then think about chucking him out.

If he's a defensive git who's doing everything in his power to find work but is hitting a brick wall and you can't take a joke or a lighthearted deflection because you're a humourless martyr, then cut him some bloody slack.

OneWickedSon

Put it behind you. Catch him doing something right, and comment positively. Massage his ego and you will by rights find yourself in a better place.

If he is used to working, he may be psychologically lower than you think. If you're pushing away his efforts, no matter how trivial you believe they are, then no argument will go your way.

Presuming, of course, you love him. That being the case, see the good in him.

CKhalvashi

Bonnie_dog wrote: »

its not much but its blown out of proportion he is not working and I am full time so today I sat down after the ironing and he took the dog out I was still sitting down when he got back, I am now the lazyist person in history, I just mentioned that maybe I deserved to do nothing one day a week and all hell broke loose

We’re both working our backsides off now to have businesses, whilst both sitting on three councils, however DW has taken 5 years from work (just bought the bar we drank in before having children), and the arguments we has were not particularly pleasant.

What I didn’t tend to appreciate was that whilst I was working 80h/week to bring the money in, I was not only missing valuable time with 2 young girls, but also not appreciative of the fact that she’s doing school runs, sorting various parks/taxi companies/potholes, as Parks/Enforcement/Highways are useless at the best of times (!)

It’s a case of give and take in any marriage, and whilst I can’t help you directly, I hope for you it gets better, and you have our full support! :beer:

pinkclouds

Bonnie_dog wrote: »

its blown out of proportion

^You said it yourself.

I hope you feel better for writing it down. This is a good place to vent. It's not nice being stuck in a role reversal when you're craving your previous normality. If he's used to being out at work and doing fewer chores then he's probably hating it too. I bet you were both a bit snippy to each other and it just escalated. Well, tomorrow is another day. Try to remember his good points and start the day afresh. You're a team and you will get there.

I hope he finds a job soon. Maybe you should let the house standards slip a little until then? I'm guessing he doesn't see the same amount of dust as you when you're at home.

victory

It is just heat of the moment stuf, frustration he has no job, a bit of anger, resentment, just a few negative feelings he has pent up ones that he is taking out on you, let it go unless it happens often and is escalating and when it is all calm sit down and listen to each other

JustinCredibleGillespie

Myself & my OH were at that stage last week, I had to tell them to go & we needed a few days apart. It didnt go down too well. OH left on Wednesday and came back on Sat. It was the best thing ever, it now feels like the honeymoon period all over again and I was grateful of the peace & quiet.

''Its hard when you miss someone so much, and you can't do anything about it, because having that space between the two of you is the only way to make things right''

JCG

xx

Caroline73_2

JustinCredibleGillespie wrote: »

Myself & my OH were at that stage last week, I had to tell them to go & we needed a few days apart. It didnt go down too well. OH left on Wednesday and came back on Sat. It was the best thing ever, it now feels like the honeymoon period all over again and I was grateful of the peace & quiet.

''Its hard when you miss someone so much, and you can't do anything about it, because having that space between the two of you is the only way to make things right''

JCG

xx

Surely you should have left if you felt you felt you needed a few days apart?

Whatever happened to talking problems through like mature adults?

victory

Oh Caroline if only life was that simple

Caroline73_2

victory wrote: »

Oh Caroline if only life was that simple

Life is only as dramatic as you choose to make it.:D