When does extended breastfeeding become weird....

RubyRue

poet123 wrote: »

You have echoed everything I have said on this thread and what I believe.

Why is it that it is acceptable to post negative remarks about bottle feeding but not breast feeding?

Out of interest how would you feel if having reached this decision you were told formula was on prescription only from herein and you had to have a medical reason for wanting to bottlefeed?

Honestly, disgusted. Breastfeeding isn't mandatory. There is alot of press about breastfeeding mothers being almost discriminated against for feeding their child, say in cafe's, and rightly they fight back. There have been many things put in place to make it easier for breastfeeding women to feed their child, isn't it illegal to prevent a woman from breastfeeding their child in public??

Why then is it ok to almost discriminate against my choice to bottle feed and put barriers in place? All this time there has been movements to remove the barriers to breastfeeding. Surely it is just as bad and almost hypocritcal that on one hand we are striving to make society more breastfeeding friendly but on the other hand almost punishing those who choose to bottle feed if we say you can only bottle feed if there is a medical reason.

I would have a bottle feeding flash mob on the go outside the GP :rotfl:

Person_one

Shepherd1 wrote: »

How would you feel about being questioned about your decision to be child free by choice

Like any of my choices, I am happy to explain my reasoning.

I understand why Rubyrue doesn't want to get into it here, but Ruby if you wanted to PM me I'd still love to hear your reasons, I promise you won't get any criticism of them for me, I'm just genuinely wanting to understand the choice. No pressure though!

FatVonD

blabberwort wrote: »

Okay now you've finally confused me :undecided I dont understand your point at all. I thought (and your posts led me to believe) that we were discussing in this instance toddlers being bf in a cafe/restaraunt, but now your saying it's unlikely a toddler would be anyway. I dont get your point. I assumed all this time that were debating based on if they were.

I have personally never BF a toddler in a cafe or restaurant nor have I ever seen anyone else do it but I would defend the right of someone to do so if they wished. You were often referring though to cafes/public places and I have fed my son on a grass verge at Thorpe Park which is pretty public

blabberwort wrote: »

That doesnt mean it's appropriate to have a toddler climbing on mummys lap and bf in the same place though where other people may be left feeling uncomfortable, especially when there are alternatives.

If other people feel uncomfortable then that is their problem, not the BF mother's, particularly when your idea of an alternative is to express when you don't need to.

blabberwort wrote: »

I'd be interested to hear from any mother that chooses bf purely for the convenience. I always assumed that the main reason was because it's meant to be best for your child. Hence the whole debate about how long is too long to bf a child. I think (yet again) i should mention i have no problem with women bf, I do feel however think that once the child can drink from a cup it is unnecessary.

We'll have to agree to disagree ... oops, sorry, home time...

Shepherd1

Person_one wrote: »

Like any of my choices, I am happy to explain my reasoning.

I understand why Rubyrue doesn't want to get into it here, but Ruby if you wanted to PM me I'd still love to hear your reasons, I promise you won't get any criticism of them for me, I'm just genuinely wanting to understand the choice. No pressure though!

And there is the important word choice. No one is telling you what you should do with your womb but yet you want to take away other womens choices of what they should do with their body

poet123

Person_one wrote: »

Like any of my choices, I am happy to explain my reasoning.

I understand why Rubyrue doesn't want to get into it here, but Ruby if you wanted to PM me I'd still love to hear your reasons, I promise you won't get any criticism of them for me, I'm just genuinely wanting to understand the choice. No pressure though!

What if someone said you couldn't actually have a choice?

No criticism? You have been doing exactly that all through the thread. Think back to your comments re "having to do things we don't want to do when we have a child"....like using a car seat, changing nappies, getting up in the night, "tough" was your reaction, and you applied that same sentiment to those not wanting to breastfeed.

Why should you want to understand the choice,?why does it matter to you?.

If and when you have a child of your own you can make your own choice, all you have to understand is the concept of choice, and leave everyone to make theirs without advocating draconian measures to prevent them doing so.

Person_one

Shepherd1 wrote: »

And there is the important word choice. No one is telling you what you should do with your womb but yet you want to take away other womens choices of what they should do with their body

Seriously, read the whole thread, don't take Poet's word for it on what I've said.

Shepherd1

Person_one wrote: »

Seriously, read the whole thread, don't take Poet's word for it on what I've said.

Seriously maybe you should read the thread I was the first person to respond to your post that formula should be prescription only

Person_one

Shepherd1 wrote: »

Seriously maybe you should read the thread I was the first person to respond to your post that formula should be prescription only

Have you read anything since then?

Ugh, I should have stayed out of this thread when I said I would. I reserve the right to detest Nestle and all the other formula manufacturers for the insane influence they've had on the world though, and all the profit they've made out of generations of women.

poet123

Person_one wrote: »

Its only seen as a lifestyle choice because we've allowed that to happen, mainly driven by the manufacturers that profit from it!

Formula is a wonderful invention and an invaluable resource to lots of women who can't breastfeed, but there is no denying that its a second best after breastmilk.

I'm saying it should be seen as the solution to a medical problem, even if that medical problem is that the woman's mental health is suffering. Then they can get it for free on prescription.

Person_one wrote: »

If things had panned out like I wish they had, none of those would be an issue.

Perhaps there should be classes/counselling/sessions etc. for these parents (both parents) if that sort of thing is affecting their decisions before the baby is even born.

Person_one wrote: »

Hmm, lots of things about having a baby are awkward, or don't fit in with certain 'lifestyles' but are just accepted as part of having a baby and they must be done.

If you don't want to change nappies, tough you still have to. If you don't want to get up in the middle of the night, tough you still have to. If you don't want to use a car seat, tough you still have to.

No, don't take my word for it.......

poet123

Person_one wrote: »

Have you read anything since then?

Ugh, I should have stayed out of this thread when I said I would. I reserve the right to detest Nestle and all the other formula manufacturers for the insane influence they've had on the world though, and all the profit they've made out of generations of women.

You can reserve the right to do whatever as long as you allow others the same right.