Son home from Uni and driving me nuts!!!

BitterAndTwisted

It's every teenager's role in life to do precisely what they want when they want and if you don't like it you're the one who's in the wrong because you're a horrible, nagging old harpy with no sense of fun or any tolerance. This attitude sometimes resolves itself in about 5 to 7 years if you're lucky.

Lincoln_Imp

Sounds exactly like my lad ,he has been home for about 2 weeks and another week to go before i take him back
They get used to living how they want to im afraid and not having anyone else telling them what and when to do it

Just grin and bare it ..not long now

patchwork_cat

My DS went back today to get on with some work, got tests in the new term. I miss him again, already!

Had a few hairy moments with him being selfish, but overall not too bad. Perhaps it is very wise of him to go back early!!

They only have to fend for themselves at Uni and are used to just doing what they want and eat what they want etc.. It is a hard habit to break!

ciderwithrosie_2

My son's like this when he comes home from Uni - he wants some tlc. Quite capable of cooking, washing his clothes, ironing etc all term but likes me to do it. To be honest, I don't mind too much as I still have the other 3 to cook and clean for and miss him when he's not here and of course no one's better than mum are they?

Oldernotwiser

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

of course no one's better than mum are they?

Only when there's nobody better (or more stupid) on the horizon.:(

ciderwithrosie_2

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Only when there's nobody better (or more stupid) on the horizon.:(

Well I don't see it as being 'stupid' to want to carry on caring for my children, big as they are. Doesn't mean they've been spoilt and don't know how to do anything for themselves, quite the contrary.

Savvy_Sue

BTW, on the small wash issue, that isn't something I could let pass.

My boys learned to do their own washing in 6th form, but when they're home for a short time (like now) I do see if they've got a few bits to do whenever I put a load in, but I also ask them to check our heap if they've not quite got a full load. We've even had two boys put their stuff in together!!! Fortunately they have different tastes in pants and socks ...

BugglyB

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

Well I don't see it as being 'stupid' to want to carry on caring for my children, big as they are. Doesn't mean they've been spoilt and don't know how to do anything for themselves, quite the contrary.

Surely its about their attitude too though? My mum used to wash and cook for me when I got home from uni. But i used to give her loads of hugs and kisses, take her out for lunch with my wages, and make sure she overheard me on the phone to my friends saying how happy I was to be home and how shes the best mum in the world.

OP describes their son as sarky and selfish and immature - I wouldn't be too happy about washing his smalls either!

OP - for what its worth - I knew a lot of guys like your son at uni - they tended to sort themselves out after living in real houses for a while!

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

It's every teenager's role in life to do precisely what they want when they want and if you don't like it you're the one who's in the wrong because you're a horrible, nagging old harpy with no sense of fun or any tolerance. This attitude sometimes resolves itself in about 5 to 7 years if you're lucky.

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Would have to agree with BitterAndTwisted.
Funnily enough we(me and my three adult daughters) were all having a laugh over Christmas about how "!!!!!y" they were when they would come home from uni and how it used to drive me and their dad mad.
I think its hard but it will get better,you just have to bite your lip and give it time :rotfl:.

silvercar

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

My son's like this when he comes home from Uni - he wants some tlc. Quite capable of cooking, washing his clothes, ironing etc all term but likes me to do it. To be honest, I don't mind too much as I still have the other 3 to cook and clean for and miss him when he's not here and of course no one's better than mum are they?

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

Well I don't see it as being 'stupid' to want to carry on caring for my children, big as they are. Doesn't mean they've been spoilt and don't know how to do anything for themselves, quite the contrary.

Totally agree.

When DS comes home it is logical for all his washing to go in with rest of the family washing. At least I know when he goes back he is starting off with clean clothes etc.

It is hard for them to adjust between being at uni and independent and being part of the family again. TBH when he comes home I want him to spend time with his brother rather than washing and ironing.

They also suffer jet lag coming home, uni life being in a totally different time zone.