MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Errata

Anyway just had the Post Adoption team ring me back and they have siad that they have no worries.

That's excellent, so nothing to worry about from them.
I wonder - could it be someone who belongs the FB group that has been making disparaging remarks about you? Have you mentioned your possible future plans about an overnight stay to any of them, or to anyone else involved in the shop?

minimoneysaver

I don't see what the problem is with DGD spending a night with her mum. The point was that DGD's mum struggled to organise herself and therefore DGD when she was a baby, which of course meant a lack of routine etc. I am sure that her mum's carer will ensure that the flat is clean & safe in order for the overnight visit to take place. All her mum will have to do is feed her dinner (maybe not even that), get her ready for bed, including teeth etc and put her to bed.

I really hope that you manage to get it sorted. Sod other people and their wicked opinions. They have no right doing something like that behind your back. Social services clearly don't think that there is a reason to be concerned, that's all that matters.

Savvy_sewing

I have had another call back from the Social Services, and this time they disclosed who told them the problem. Now I am absolutely flabbergasted to find its HER OWN CARER!!! The one who is supposed to be makeing sure that its ok, or I wouldnt let it go ahead.!!! The one who has been encouraging the occassion in the first place.
I am afraid as I am also now involved with the charity, I have put in an official complaint against the carer. That she couldnt come to me, when it was arranged that she could/should tell me if there was a problem first. It also appears that she has not even gone to her own line manager either.!!
Her complaint is that the place is not tidy enough, and that she found condoms in the bedroom etc when cleaning it up!. Well wasnt she supposed to be helping her with the cleaning of it up in the first place. Wasnt she the one who told me on Tuesday that it was fine.
ARGH ARGH ARGH.
I have never been so angry.
I will even silently have to appologies to the family from hell as i pressumed it was one of them.
If the place was a mess then I would not have left DGD there in the first place. So why did she feel the need to go to the Childrens services at all?

If the people that are supposed to be helping my family are the very people that are hurting us, then where do we turn to for help?
I have little faith in anyone anymore.
I am exhausted and reduced to tears now. The anger and fight has worn me completely out.

minimoneysaver

She sounds like a disgrace to the caring profession!

As a compromise, could your daughter, have DGD at your home in the meantime? It would mean that maybe you can go to a coffee shop/dinner with a friend in the evening. That way you are there over night, in case DGD wakes.

Savvy_sewing

Twin1 has been here with DGD many many times and I have been distancing my self over time. She has coped well enough here, and has been with her Mum at her flat longer and longer over time. I beleive that she is fine to go for an evening/night and come home the next day. We have all the back up with family around. My parents are just around the corner if they were needed. twin2 is working in the Pizza place around the corner this evening and was going to check in before and afterwards. I was going to call a few times.
I have been to the flat this morning, and looked it over. It is now not in the state the woman has reported, and with the washing up done, its fine. Nothing unsafe about. Twin1 knows not to let anyone else into the house when she has DGD except family. So I think that its safe enough. If DGD is to keep her bond with her Mum and we are to continue as a family in other ways I feel that its a minimal risk of mess thats worth the bonding of a family. She is not at any direct safety risk at all.
Anyway, I have enough to do without all of this stress alas.
Today I have DGD2 as well. She is fine, but is really in need of a sleep now, just as its time to get ready to go to school to collect DGD. I will have to go and get the buggie out of the car.
Catch up when I am childfree this evening. (when they are asleep.).

Savvy_sewing

Well I had a good night with the baby here. For her first time sleeping over, I was only woken once. She woke early at 5.45 and I just brought her into bed with me, and she went back to sleep until 7.30 so I cannot complain.
She is happily watching Zingzilla's and dancing now.
She eats well, and has been as happy as larry. Which is great. Biggest of Mooloo should be proud of her. I certainly am.
I had a letter back about my complaint. Of course it just says that they cannot tell me as its Client Confidentiality. Its OK for me to get the help sorted out, and to discuss everything else, but suddenly they have closed ranks and said its their policy.
So I would like to know if its thier policy for them to tell lies to the twins, and if its not policy to discuss thier situation with me, why have they been????
Oh well, I will just steam away inside for now. As I supppose in the grand scheme of things it was meant for the best. However I personally am not happy. But I do not want to ruin the "working" relationship that I have just got with them and want to be able to still do the work for the shop etc. If I continue to follow my lines of enquiry I fear that I will not be able to continue. So best I just let it go. But I will not be talking to the said carer about anything again. I want to also ask if its thier policy to give false hope to the twins, especially twin2 about getting her boys back.
I wrote it all down on the back of thier letter in pencil. My initial response to thier letter. Then I can "put it away" for now. Probably wont write it up and send it. But I needed to get it off of my chest/out of my head to start with.
Right its time to get us all dressed and pop out. Its rather dull and yukky here. The parking once again is a nightmare and my car is on the other side of the road. Which will make it very difficult to get the baby and her stuff into the car. She will have to be taken over first and strapped in, then I will have to walk back for the bags etc. Such a nuisance. all because the neighbour runs a buisness from the back of his house, which I am sure is not a registered business. But if I complain then it will probably cuase more trouble and as I am in a Council home, I will not be able to do anything about it. I know that I do not own the place outside my house, but when he/and his friends/customers vehicles reach 7 and 8, I feel rather agreived.

Time to raise above the frustrrations of the day and enjoy the children.

Savvy_sewing

Had a good weekend. All in all. We went to Salcey Forest for a walk along the Treetop walk on Saturday afternoon. Had plenty of contact with Biggest of Mooloo. She rang at one stage. Dad of DGD2 was feeling guilty that he had said no to having her, and that he realised he wasnt going to see her, (He thought she would still be at his house with his mum. he didnt think about me having her). Anyway he wanted to have her Sunday night, but that would have meant that Mum wouldnt see her until Tuesday afternoon. So she wasnt happy about that. I said that it was fine for him to have DGD2 Saturday when we were on our way back from our afternoon out. So it meant that it was a much easier weekend then it may well have been if not.
Yesterday we went for a walk down the town and back, stopping at the park etc for DGD to play.
I am still not well. Coughing a lot, sore throat, and in bed before the results show for X factor. etc.
I think its going to be similar today.
I did go into the shop for half an hour, introduce myself to the volunteers that were working today, (they didnt come to the meeting), and then went to sort out more stock. Got stopped by the lady in the office about the incident over DGD and twin1.
I wasnt going to do much about it, having calmed down etc.
But I did talk to her as she asked me into the office.
I told her that i was confussed as to why one minute they talk to me and the next they dont. She was also surprised about that too. She asked me how we could sort things out. I said that perhaps if they have a letter from Twin1 on record that says that if there are any concerns they can talk to me, before calling the authorities, or as well as calling the authorities if they needed too. So we will see.
I told her that I still want to do the work, etc with them but that If they are not supposed to discuss things with me, then why did the said carer talk to me, while looking after her other clients in the shop? Anyway thats up to them to plug that loop hole.
I am moving on. I dont need stress to make me ill. I already still am.
I was planning on catching up with Molly today, but that way laid me, and anyway, I cannot go and see her when I am coughing or I would make her ill.
Next I must contact her to let her know the day I have had. I only came on here first as I had a pm. to answer.
Time for me to serve up the dinner. It was in the slow cooker so it wont be hard to do. I had a beef brisket in. Should have done it over the weekend but had forgotten to defrost it.

Errata

Hope you start to feel better soon, everyone seems to be hit by the rotten cold that's going round at the moment.
The shop seems to be more trouble than it's worth. Is there a manager? Who has responsibility for making sure it's run properly? Or is everyone at the charity just faffing around with it?

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

Hope you start to feel better soon, everyone seems to be hit by the rotten cold that's going round at the moment.
The shop seems to be more trouble than it's worth. Is there a manager? Who has responsibility for making sure it's run properly? Or is everyone at the charity just faffing around with it?

Thanks, I hope so too. Certainly been dragging on this time.

The shop has been left to its own devices really. Nobody had taken the time to do much since a couple of charities had mearged. Originally, some 20 years ago it was the only charity shop in the area, run for Evenly Hall, which was a home for children and those with disabilites. Then as the charity has mearged with Grooms and Shaftsbury it was swallowed up really, and there has been no direction. The shop just exists. So I wanted to do my bit and see if we can make it work again.
I am now, so to speak the "manager" as of last week, I am going to use my skills from my days at BHF, to see if we can get it to be profitable. Its only been breaking even the last two or three years, and nobody really knows what to do with it.
So I am going to see if there is a way forward. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
I managed to double the takings last month, (which was not that hard to do) and so I am hoping that I can still improve on it, and get some awareness about it. As all the funds that are made there are spent here in the county. The Service users, of the charity get to draw on the Amenities funds, so things like a replacement car has been the latest thing, but all the fund raising goes in to the same pot, for this area.
I would like to hope that its worth my efforts. If it doesnt work then I can walk away. I am a volunteer after all.
So its up to me how much effort I put in or not.
What will I get out of it?
Getting back into the swing of working, a chance to use my skills and lead myself back into the workforce, as I conquer my ills. something to put on the CV and hopefully a reference at the end of it all.

Now that I am weening myself off of some of the medication, I am not quite so muddle headed as I was, and so the desire to work is stronger again.
I would love to say that I could have sewn my way back to work, but to be honest I couldnt earn enough to make it be more than a hobby.

Tonight I have been playing around with some fabrics and making a few bits and bobs for fun. But I am tired so will go to bed and see if i can sleep better tonight.

Errata

Sounds like a nightmare. Any policies and procedures, health and safety stuff, accident book, complaints procedure, lines of reporting, and etc and etc and etc ?