The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

<3lessthanthree<3

Hello, I have been drinking too much lately so I would like to join.

Having a dry June so far and would like to aim for 29 alcohol free days this month.

MarkMan

<3lessthanthree<3 wrote: »

Hello, I have been drinking too much lately so I would like to join.

Having a dry June so far and would like to aim for 29 alcohol free days this month.

:wave: I think everyone here knows the feeling. Check out Shaggy's monthly challenge posts further down and remember to post your AF days and targets in bold red text so Shaggy can find them easily in amongst all the other info here.

You'll find people here are very understanding and helpful, and it always gives me a long of strength.

Enjoy:D

missrlr

Ok guys hope your plans are all working out ok. I'm about to indulge in the first of my nonAF days this month, all planned and letting the train take the strain. Really am determined I am only going to drink a modest amount so let's see how much will powere I can muster.
Best of British to you all!

CuppaTea

Im out of the blocks too so have 1AF day please shaggy.

That is all as I am currently in from work and indulging, was a busy busy day, but the overtime will be great on payday.

DH and the kids decorated the house whilst i worked and it looks fab for our jubilee party tomorrow. I won't be AF then and its unrealistic for me to say otherwise. We are hosting a party for family, friends and neighbours and i've spent a lot of time planning and preparing, so in my mind i have justified the alcohol. But at the same token of breath, I won't go mad, will pace myself and drink soft drinks when I feel the effects kicking in. Well that is the plan.

I've also been feeling quite stressed, for that last 6-8 months my marriage hast been deterioting and DH has been unhappy. It is nothing to do with my drinking but lots of other stuff. I have made changes in many ways and done everything expected of me to save our relationship. In fact DH recognises this, so i know its not me imagining this. He admits that he is saying he will change and make more effort, but this never happens and its now got to the point where I am fed up of being the only way trying to make it work.

I've been patient, understanding but ultimately its always me that is coming up with the ideas and implementing them, then they fall by the wayside as he doesn't keep his end of the discussion. A couple of weeks ago I said he needed to work out what he wanted as I wasn't prepared to keep being the household dormat. I want the decent relationship we once had and to be respected and wanted. None of which I have had for many months.

His decision time is tuesday, after our party, we didn't want to spoil that. He says he loves me, he isn't depressed but he doesn't know what he wants. I have said its affecting me now and i can't live like this indefinitely. I think that is why my drinking has increased over the last 6 months and why i came here. I thought if i presented myself as "perfect", well that's never going to happen, but "new and improved", then he'll realise how lucky he actually is.

To the outsider, no-one would ever realise we come across as the perfect loving couple with great kids, but its at home behind closed doors the cracks appear. We are more like friends than lovers.

But I'm going to put that behind me, enjoy tomorrow and see what tuesday brings.

Didn't mean to vent that much, sorry.

MarkMan

I've just PM'd you but I don't know if it went. Let me know.

Mark

ManPants

May was a bit of a washout for me as had many social functions plus a holiday but have completed 1 AF day for June last night!

Working Bank Hol as well so that should stop any wine!!

Stupotstu!

Bismarck

MarkMan wrote: »

Oh, I will have a few drinks, it's just that more and more recently we complete a full round, making Saturday morning a hungover one, making going to the gym even less attractive, making going to the pub for lunch MUCH more attractive, and of course, one can't stay in on a Saturday night, and well, its a Bank Holiday Sunday, with TWO days to recover, so what the hell...... and so the whole cycle begins again, and when Wed morning comes, its a long way down.:(:(:(:(:(:(

Sorry to go on - I think I am just starting to get an idea of the process that is taking what used to be (just) a couple of nights of drinking too much, and turning it into the start of a full binge, ending in at best, a painful come down, at worst.....

My drinking weekend used to start on a Saturday and finish on a Sunday morning ....then a Friday ending on a Sunday night...then a Thursday (!) ending on a Sunday....every week a bigger comedown ...ugh...Mondays...

In the end, years later I had to change the majority of my socialising behaviours.
Doing what's right for you is hard, I'm afraid and will raise suspicions...especially if others have an expectation of your behaviour...

MarkMan

Thanks Bismarck, I know what you are saying.

Well, we kept the beer/wine in the fridge until the evening, and there was no beer garden calling because of the weather, so feeling fine and ready for the gym today.

I hope everyone remained AF if intended and have a great Bank Holiday!:j

tracy_36

No more AF for me to report - had a great night out, so all planned
We are off to a local Jubilee party in a field now - lovely weather for it, not! Have a few beers packed, but its really a hot choc day so will see how it goes - def back on the wagon tomorrow

ManPants

Morning!

Last night was another AF night for me taking me to 2 AF already this month!

I feel so great when I wake up in the morning I wish I'd remember this!

Have a great Jubilee Day everyone!


Stupotstu X