Basic divorce advice desperately needed please.

Inforapennyinforapound

I am now in a position of accepting that my wife wants a divorce and is leaving imminently.
All the upset and emotions have been dealt with and i am badly hurt.However i will feel happier now knowing what is going to happen and can get on with my life.

We were both divorced when we met.She came from a foreign country with nothing and has since gained UK Nationality.I dont have an issue with this.

At that time,7 years ago,i owned a flat with a mortgage.We got married and after 2 years we bought a house.The house was bought with all the proceeds from the flat sale and an increase in the mortgage.

Both our names are on the mortgage and the house deeds.However i have paid totally for the mortgage and still do.

She has found someone else(who apparently owns a house) and wants to leave.I want the divorce so i can resume my life.

She tells me that all she wants is a small financial settlement and i need not worry over the house.

I am really starting to panic,although i do believe her(but you never know)

We are very amicable and there are no 'joint' children involved.

As far as i can see(and my mind has been very irrational recently) the major part of our house was bought with the proceeds of MY flat and a joint mortagae which i have paid(and bank statements can prove).

I doubt that she is actually entitled to much at all (and she keeps saying that she still cares and will not 'ruin' me).We both want to move on and be happy without Court cases/costs interfering.

Please please does anyone have any sort of legal advice or knowledge or ideas.It does seem reasonably straightforward and we are both adult reasonable people.

Thank you all so much:(

CH27

Go & see a solicitor ASAP.

Nobody on here knows all the details of your situation so cannot advise correctly.

Marisco

CH27 wrote: »

Go & see a solicitor ASAP.

Nobody on here knows all the details of your situation so cannot advise correctly.

Totally agree with the above. However, if it's opinions you're after, mine is she shouldn't get a thing! She came to the marriage with nowt, paid for nowt, so she should leave with nowt!

DUTR

Inforapennyinforapound wrote: »

I am now in a position of accepting that my wife wants a divorce and is leaving imminently.
All the upset and emotions have been dealt with and i am badly hurt.However i will feel happier now knowing what is going to happen and can get on with my life.

We were both divorced when we met.She came from a foreign country with nothing and has since gained UK Nationality.I dont have an issue with this.

At that time,7 years ago,i owned a flat with a mortgage.We got married and after 2 years we bought a house.The house was bought with all the proceeds from the flat sale and an increase in the mortgage.

Both our names are on the mortgage and the house deeds.However i have paid totally for the mortgage and still do.

She has found someone else(who apparently owns a house) and wants to leave.I want the divorce so i can resume my life.

She tells me that all she wants is a small financial settlement and i need not worry over the house.

I am really starting to panic,although i do believe her(but you never know)

We are very amicable and there are no 'joint' children involved.

As far as i can see(and my mind has been very irrational recently) the major part of our house was bought with the proceeds of MY flat and a joint mortagae which i have paid(and bank statements can prove).

I doubt that she is actually entitled to much at all (and she keeps saying that she still cares and will not 'ruin' me).We both want to move on and be happy without Court cases/costs interfering.

Please please does anyone have any sort of legal advice or knowledge or ideas.It does seem reasonably straightforward and we are both adult reasonable people.

Thank you all so much:(

Dpends what she calls a small financial settlement, yes sometimes that can work, a previous GF had her own house and paid for, a childhood sweetheart appeared on the scene and they got married, it didn't work out and she had to give him a couple of grand as settlement, this was many years ago, but a lawyer will be able to advise on your own circumstance, as the outcome at worst could be HALF and in best case NOTHING, chances are it will end up somewhere in between those figures

Inforapennyinforapound

Thanks so much for all the replies.You people have probably 'been there',as it were,and i know nothing is set in stone.

We want to still be friends(if that is possible) and she has lots of possessions here so needs to return to collect.

I am going to draft an agreement later for us both to sign to state that whatever we settle on will be a full and final agreement on divorce.I want this divorce a.s.a.p.

She has committed adultery(her admission) but will not divulge his details.Will this have any bearing on costs or the grounds?

DUTR

Inforapennyinforapound wrote: »

Thanks so much for all the replies.You people have probably 'been there',as it were,and i know nothing is set in stone.

We want to still be friends(if that is possible) and she has lots of possessions here so needs to return to collect.

I am going to draft an agreement later for us both to sign to state that whatever we settle on will be a full and final agreement on divorce.I want this divorce a.s.a.p.

She has committed adultery(her admission) but will not divulge his details.Will this have any bearing on costs or the grounds?

Your draft may not be valid in law, get an half hour consultation with a brief to be sure, it should/may work out all well, not sure if adultery is grounds for divorce anymore

curlytop12

solicitor asap.
being amicable may not last!
adultery is not grounds for divorce itself-irretrievable(?spelling) breakdown due to adultery is,so you don't need third party details.
you'll need to find out what consequences both your names being on mortgage/deeds will be.
good luck.

Inforapennyinforapound

I agree that being amicable may not last but she has no reason for bitterness.She wants this other person and i have accepted the situation.I could be nasty.I dont see the point,it causes more grief all round

WelshRugbFan99

Sorry but you are playing with fire - after being married for 7 years and despite her alleged adultery technically she is probably entitled to 50% of all liquid assets and 7 years of pension build up - get legal advice asap however be prepared for a costly exercise...

Sitting back and expecting things to remain amicable will comeback and bit you...

Inforapennyinforapound

Yes,i understand.There is no pension build up now as i am on a full work pension which i was getting prior to our meeting.I am not sure about the 50% so i will need some advice i guess.My issue is that if i begin to see a solicitor then she may do the same

DUTR

Inforapennyinforapound wrote: »

Yes,i understand.There is no pension build up now as i am on a full work pension which i was getting prior to our meeting.I am not sure about the 50% so i will need some advice i guess.My issue is that if i begin to see a solicitor then she may do the same

Seeing a solicitor does not necessarily mean a replication of action, you are seeing the solicitor to find out the facts of your position initially.