Relationship break down help and advice needed please

littlejaffa

It seems really obvious to me - and i'm surprised no-one else has mentioned it. But is this not just normal cold feet, terrified of commitment stuff?

If he's been honest enough to tell you about a work night kiss, I think at least you can trust him to be honest with you, and ease up on the paranoia. Better he feels he can tell you, communication is soo important to any relationship.

I did wonder - why when he said he wanted space, you say you 'left him to it' it sounded like you weren't trying at that time, and when he came back and complained he couldn't try anymore your not happy.

I hope he gets over his fear (if that's what it is) and can see the positive of realising now this isn't the relationship he wants, before the marriage if it's not that straight forward.

Good luck

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

'you shouldn't have to try' = 'I can't be bothered with you'

'I realised it was you I really wanted' = 'I turned up at her door and she told me to shove off, I wasn't moving in with her'


'it was just a silly kiss, we can never be more than friends' = 'she refused the return shag match until I have forced the sale of our house so me and her can live happily ever after, going clubbing and never ever ever growing up'

Broken_hearted_loserkid

littlejaffa wrote: »

It seems really obvious to me - and i'm surprised no-one else has mentioned it. But is this not just normal cold feet, terrified of commitment stuff?

If he's been honest enough to tell you about a work night kiss, I think at least you can trust him to be honest with you, and ease up on the paranoia. Better he feels he can tell you, communication is soo important to any relationship.

I did wonder - why when he said he wanted space, you say you 'left him to it' it sounded like you weren't trying at that time, and when he came back and complained he couldn't try anymore your not happy.

I hope he gets over his fear (if that's what it is) and can see the positive of realising now this isn't the relationship he wants, before the marriage if it's not that straight forward.

Good luck

That was what I thought but it turns out he had made his decision. He said it's been too !!!! for too long and that things were bad before we got engaged! Why propose then!!! Obvious he wants a relationship with this new girl. Im devastated.

Sorry for the late reply