Grrr - vent

skypie123_2

I would have been delighted with your presents.
I was brought up to believe shop-bought is all very nice but hand-made is so much more personal. She should have been thrilled. She behaved disgustingly instead.
Had she been my step-mother she would have been wearing the chutney!

Errata

If your dad is so spineless that he stands by whilst his current wife insults you in front of his guests, don't expect things to change.

Oldernotwiser

I wouldn't expect to give or receive presents from your step mother's children, who are no relatives of yours.

yesican

camNolliesMUMMY wrote: »

i would get wound up with her childish comments especially infront of people, how embarrasing and i would have said that too her as well to make her feel an inch tall and i would have walked out too, i would also only buy my dad a gift and not bother with hers or her kids.
I know how you feel ive had to do some shoppng today because of paydayand we normally see everyone else boxing day onwards.

dont worry about it but remember that for next time round id buy either nothing for her or something CHEAP! lol

I second this!!!!!!

hermanmunster_3

How about recycling a present for next year...

on the other hand - stick to card and flowers (pref bunch from tesco / asda) and something homemade for xmas.

For the "kids" - if they are treated as kids then jelly babies or christmas selection packs (about a quid at the supermarket) are just right for "kids"!!;)

anyone ungrateful for for gifts from me - and it has happened before - simply gets less next year and I put less thought into it

marywooyeah

OP thats awful! I'd take solace in the fact that she made herself look a complete witch in front of all her guests by embarrasing you like that. I would also take up her hypocrisy with her re the kids. what a cowbag!

marywooyeah

hermanmunster wrote: »

anyone ungrateful for for gifts from me - and it has happened before - simply gets less next year and I put less thought into it

yup same for me. None of OH's ungrateful family got presents from me this year and I told them it was because I've spent loads in previous years and never had them acknowledged let alone thanked so I wasnt wasting anymore money on them. For some reason they took it quite badly :rotfl:

elantan

i wouldnt even bother getting her or her kids anything ever again ... put it this way she bad mouthed you when you did ... she's gonna bad mouth you when you dont ... either way your gonna get bad mouthed ... buy yourself something lovely instead as a reward for putting up with her crap ...

i also doubt if the people she is bad mouthing you to really give a rats a$$, they probably know exactly what she is like

Spendless

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I wouldn't expect to give or receive presents from your step mother's children, who are no relatives of yours.

I was wondering along those lines. My guess is that they have been in the OP life for a few years and live with their mum and her husband (OP dad) as such they have received presents as 'children of the family'. In our family not everyone who receives a present from us, gives one in return eg we buy for our adult neice (a Uni student with a p-time job) but she doesn't buy for us. Her mum (hubby's sister) buys gifts for me, hubby and our kids from herself and our neice, no different to what step-mum is doing when writing 'from kids' on the label. That doesn't mean I think SM being rude to OP is acceptable.

Torry_Quine

Although I don't think your step-mother behave well, your father should have said something. While still at home I wouldn't expect a gift from my step-sibling and the other has just started uni so probably doesn't have much to spend. Remember you shouldn't give presents just to receive back.