Struggling with my daughter :-(

Itsadogslife_2

I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone who posted, it made me feel so much better and the next day I felt much more positive. Since then she has actually been quite good (well very good actually) and I have been using a lot of the tips that people gave me. I will see if I can get the books mentioned out of the library (:money:) and will always keep in my mind that it is just a phase and it will pass, and not to rise to it.

Thanks again, I really appreciate it :A

JulieGeorgiana

Well done. It's very hard to remember 'its a phase' at times and feel like you can't stop it...

I wish you well x

Butterfliesarepretty

Op dont worry you are doing the right things. Stick to the house rules and its your daughter trying to push the boundaries. She will learn each time that its not worth her trying to get attention.

My daughter is 13 (doesnt live with me) but last month I caught her coming downstairs at 1am sneaking the internet back on so she could chat to her boyfriend. I told her to go back to bed and she lied saying she was getting a drink (yet she had switched the internet box on) after I had switched it off at 10.30pm.

The next day she was on the laptop from 8am till 11pm and would not go and get showered and dressed ready for her riding lesson later at 2.30pm 40 miles away from me near her house. I told her three times to leave the laptop with me while it saved the game and she said no, so I took the laptop off her and shut it and then locked it in the boot of my car so she could not have it until back home. She turned her whole room upside down to try and upset me.
I told her off for her awful behaviour and the fact she had said to my face 'why would i want a mother like you' reinforced my discipline on her so I took her straight home to her dads and told her she didnt deserve a riding lesson after her behaviour towards me. Her dad agreed she should apologise but he then took her to riding lesson and she has not visited since. I then invited her to a memorial service for all people who donated their bodies to science (including her grandads name who will be mentioned) and she replied she would not go without her dad. I told her dad that he cannot go because of his previous threats to my mum in the past. She could have gone with me but she refuses to go with him.
I later received a text message from her saying 'why would I want to go with you' which I ignored.
She is a very angry tall 13 year old but she will come round in about six months.

WhiteHorse

Check her diet and eliminate as many additives as you can. Then review what television she watches. Lastly, check what's going on at school.

jackomdj

This could have been us writing about our eldest (who was 7 at the end of Oct)

Yesterday she was amazing, behaved well all day, shared with her little sister.

Today she was the opposite! After lots of bits the day ended with her not wanting her turkey on her plate as it had some skin on so she threw it across the table to her sister, so I removed her dinner and threw it in the bin!

Let's hope tomorrow is easier.

FloFlo

foxymum1977 wrote: »

dont think you're a bad parent hun ((hugs)) we all have our own struggles with our children,we have 3, our 10 year old DS sounds a bit like your daughter, i have to ask him repeatedly to do things, such as bedtime, brush teeth, get dressed etc before he actually does it!
i havnt got any real advise im afraid, hopefully someone else with better advise will come along and help you, i just wanted to let you know you are not alone,and we all think the thoughts you did regarding being a childless couple, but we dont really mean it, its all fun and games being a family buy bloody hard work most of the time, i always think the hard work out weighs the laughter in our house and that worried me but im sure its quite normal ( i hope lol) xx

Me three , DD10 is like this, everything is an argument, from brushing teeth, hair, bathing, bed time. I do think she is getting worse due to hormones but to be honest she has always been cheeky at home - good in school though. I am on permanent repition when asking her to do things and then she goes upstairs you think she and then she is doing something completely different :mad:. We were married 12 years before we had her (I was 30) and it was a big change :eek: I am a totally overprotective parent but she still drives me nuts most days.

So I can't really offer advice apart from don't be too hard on yourself.