Family & Xmas..joy

ClareEmily

Well another update I recently emailed my dad with some photos of my son and to inform him that he has an operation soon, got this in reply after 7 months of non contact, made me feel really !!!!!! to be honest:

Thank you for photo's. Not too sure of the reason you sent them, as we
are still reeling from your outburst before Christmas, and also taking
Marion of your Face Book page, where we could kept up with news of insert my son's name.

Marion has always tried her best for you and insert hubbys name, spending a lot of time looking for gluten free ingredients to make the Christmas meal as good for insert hubbys name as the rest of us.

We also spent time and effort getting a cot back from Gloucestershire that you said you would like, only to be told your friend was giving you an all singing and dancing one. This was a complete lie as it was insert sister's name who bought it. The truth would have been easier to accept.

As for Marion not talking on the phone to you when you rang, we are both aware that money is tight, and didn't want to run your bill up.

I would like to think you have got the guts apologise to Marion for your
intolerable behaviour and inexcuseable rudeness.

Over to you......................... Dad

whitewing

Well you could apologise but I don't think I would.

It sounds to me though that everything is getting out of hand because too much is being done by facebook and email, and not enough talking and thanking and giving compliments on both sides.

I am more on your side than theirs though, it has to be said. But your dad has to live with her.

Any

How do you feel about the points that were made?

pawsies

I would apologise just to keep the peace. Also dogs should never never never never ever be left with kids! It's asking for an accident, if you know he is a food aggressive dog I would not let your child interact with him. If the dog has to be in the room then I would keep the child away to prevent issues. Btw I am a dog fanatic and have a dog that doesn't like kids!
But I think both dog and child should be safe and secure in the situation.

I would recommend showing your son this http://www.safetyarounddogs.org.uk/ to prevent any issues.

I realise this is too late now probably but might help someone else.

onlyroz

The question is do you actually want a relationship with your dad? If you do then perhaps it's worth swallowing your pride and saying you're sorry for any unintentional hurt that you might have caused. At this stage there is little point in attempting to figure out who has wronged who the most.

Noctu

ClareEmily wrote: »

Well another update I recently emailed my dad with some photos of my son and to inform him that he has an operation soon, got this in reply after 7 months of non contact, made me feel really !!!!!! to be honest:

Thank you for photo's. Not too sure of the reason you sent them, as we
are still reeling from your outburst before Christmas, and also taking
Marion of your Face Book page, where we could kept up with news of insert my son's name.

Marion has always tried her best for you and insert hubbys name, spending a lot of time looking for gluten free ingredients to make the Christmas meal as good for insert hubbys name as the rest of us.

We also spent time and effort getting a cot back from Gloucestershire that you said you would like, only to be told your friend was giving you an all singing and dancing one. This was a complete lie as it was insert sister's name who bought it. The truth would have been easier to accept.

As for Marion not talking on the phone to you when you rang, we are both aware that money is tight, and didn't want to run your bill up.

I would like to think you have got the guts apologise to Marion for your
intolerable behaviour and inexcuseable rudeness.

Over to you......................... Dad

Mmm. Whilst I get the impression that your Dad is trying to reach out to you in that email, I also feel from reading the above that he's simply trying to get ammunition against you (gluten free ingredients? A cot? Really?)

If you want to have a better relationship with your dad then maybe the best thing would be to say sorry, you weren't aware that you had offended them and that you hadn't meant to. Assuming that is the case...!

Mojisola

ClareEmily wrote: »

as we are still reeling from your outburst before Christmas

Honestly - still reeling after eight months? They don't have much going on in their lives do they?

onlyroz wrote: »

The question is do you actually want a relationship with your dad? If you do then perhaps it's worth swallowing your pride and saying you're sorry for any unintentional hurt that you might have caused. At this stage there is little point in attempting to figure out who has wronged who the most.

This is the crux of the matter. Do you want to keep trying with someone who has rejected the olive branch you have offered?