Sister being bullied

katerinasol

babymoo wrote: »

I was very much the un cool kid in my secondary school, far to indivudual for that. I got bullied by everyone through all my school life until year 9. I then snapped at the main bully and made it very plain that I wasn't going to take more carp from her. I told her I would rather be me on my own any day and be an individual than a sheep who follows the crowd and thinks she looks good. Everyone was so shocked by me standing up for myself that they started laughing at the main bully straight away and I got left alone from then on.

Far as i'm concerned your sister is the kool kid for being herself, now who other people want her to be. It is tough being bullied, I would go to pastoral care, I would also get your sister to get the head teacher involved and make sure the bullies are moved away from her. I thought it was supposed to be zero tolerancy on bullying nowadays, its not a petty little argument if your sister is getting this worked up over it. Demand that something is done, don't take it lying down. She and you will probably feel the better for standing up and being the one to get things sorted.

Good luck to your sister, she's better than them and they are only doing it because they can't be like her because theyre afraid of not being "popular".

I completely agree, I was the 'weird' kid at school too but I made it clear to everyone that I was going to do what I liked and if they didn't like it then they didn't have to be friends with me. I hope she's going to learn to do the same eventually.

It just makes me so angry that they think they can talk to someone this way. I wish I could go up to one of them and say, 'Listen, I'm older and smarter than you. I know where people like you end up. The ugly fat geeks end up being your managers later on in life and they won't forget you and they won't make life easy for you. Think about that while you're trowelling on the Tango fake tan and going out to drink Three Hammers in the park.'

jokeyjo

i feel for your sister i really do my nephew has been bullied all his secondary school and my sister went down the proper school routes which has ended up with my nephew now in year9 having his arm broken in 2 places by this particular bully school dont give a monkeys as he didnt mean to hurt him and the police were rubbish my nephew has some learning difficulties and is deaf so wasnt one of the popular kids id go down whichever route you need to to put a stop to it now before it goes any further if school are no help go higher like the governing body the education department and however high and far you need to go

meritaten

the screenshot advice is good! I really would tell the parents tho! ok so your mum is meek and mild, and your dad is a scrapper......so? tell them now and they have the holidays for your dad to calm down and your mum to (with your encouragement) grow a spine! your sis needs them to know hun, if they are the only people that the school will talk to!
explain to dad that his forcefulness is exactly what the kid needs right now - but to use it in a 'restrained' way! he may surprise you! after all its 'his' child who is getting bullied and I really think your parents need to know! your mums calmer character may well help in that she can keep the situation from escalating.

This should be nipped in the bud now! before your sis is put under too much stress - it can hardly be helping her schoolwork can it?
The steps your dad should take are
see her form tutor and explain the situation and ask for a copy of the schools anti-bullying policy and to show her the screen dumps of the bullying.
ask EXACTLY how the bullies will be dealt with and to monitor the situation and make sure that they are dealt with!
if no joy - then he sees the Headteacher and demands the situation is dealt with.
if this doesnt do the trick then post back hun - lots of us have dealt with this and will be able to advise you further.

ska_lover

She should block these skanks on facebook. If she gets asked about it, she could tell them she has deactivated her account, because she has a real life.

I feel so bad for you, must be mega frustrating

Poppy9

Can I ask how old your sister is?

You may find the school unhelpful with cyber bullying as they can say it's outside school hours/premises.

If you know these girls who are bullying you could consider showing the screen shots to their parents and this may be more effective!

Agree you should talk to the school though and police if necessary.

Also if she is feeling brave enough she could set up a folder in her photos of all the bullying in boxes (I bet they don't contain themselves to wall posts) and comments on her posts and label the folder "My bullies".

I remember DD saying someone posted a screen shot of some girls !!!!!ing badly and it went a bit viral on FB and they had a lot of stick for being !!!!!es.

marywooyeah

how old is she? if she's year 11 she wont have to put up for much longer.

I was bullied at school for being fat and not very pretty too but all those girls got carp gcse results and now all still live in the same town, have a couple of kids and live off benefits having never worked or working menial jobs. I on the other hand kept my head down studying and am well on my way to my goal of becoming a solicitor, happily married with a wonderful son and getting on well financially. Somehow I see the same thing happening to your clever sister who will get good results and go to college, while these bullies are too busy slapping on fake tan and mocking others to realise that oppurtunities are passing them by.

A good phrase for your sister to remember: she who laughs last, laughs longest

meritaten

marywooyeah wrote: »

how old is she? if she's year 11 she wont have to put up for much longer.

I was bullied at school for being fat and not very pretty too but all those girls got carp gcse results and now all still live in the same town, have a couple of kids and live off benefits having never worked or working menial jobs. I on the other hand kept my head down studying and am well on my way to my goal of becoming a solicitor, happily married with a wonderful son and getting on well financially. Somehow I see the same thing happening to your clever sister who will get good results and go to college, while these bullies are too busy slapping on fake tan and mocking others to realise that oppurtunities are passing them by.

A good phrase for your sister to remember: she who laughs last, laughs longest

this post resonates with me - I can relate to it as I live in a fairly small village. The biggest slapper in school who was a bit of a bully had her comeuppance in that she married a bigger bully than her! last I heard she had about five kids and lived on benefits. The quietest kid in our class who was bullies regular target is now head of English at a very exclusive girls school! I am so proud of her because she is my cousin! Yes, I did stick up for her because I was never intimidated and I liked my cousin! didnt make me popular either - but I didnt care! being considered strange anyway!

Twinklebear

Hi katerinasol, both my sons are/were bullied so I know how it can affect them long term. There are lot of anti bullying websites you and your sister could visit who have forums/live chat with mentors both adults and children who will talk to you both, listen and advise and they sometimes will go into schools. They are on facebook or have there own websites. Bullies Out is one such website. Please try and do as much as you can as the consequences of not getting this sorted can be quite appalling.

meritaten

sorry - The OPs parents NEED to know! The OP may judge them to be either too confrontational or too insipid - BUT, they are the kids parents and they SHOULD be told!

Tropez

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