Getting nose rubbed in it.

Muscle750

Ok slaughter me if you want, but im getting pretty fed up with having my nose rubbed in it by a close family member. They are very wealthy own many properties and want for nothing. And whilst one half of the couple has done very well and enabled them to achieve what theyve got the other half who is the close relation hasnt worked in 30 years.
Our daughter got married a few months back and the night before i got a phone call saying they werent coming because and i quote "shes tired". This really upset me and my daughter still weve got over it and look upon it as their lose. All their four
children have been in private education all paid for by the taxpayer due to the parents living "overseas" and his "public sector employment".
Last week i got a phone call from them basically letting me know that hes landed a "after dinner speaking job" upon one of the biggest transalantic shipping companies and that they were both going as it was free etc.and to good a oppourtunity no to go
When we lost our mother she made a list of the things she wanted me and the "family member" to have our father is still alive hes 94. I also made up at cost and had printed a book of old photos of family members dating back to 1900 i had one copy printed let them have a look at it and i havent seen it in two years nor anything that our mother made in her list which included a few paintings and some victorian glassware yet they all seemed to have disappeared from our fathers house and im sure the "family member" has had them even our father is puzzelled as to where they are.
They even charged our parents interest on some money they lent them when they bought their last house which has now been repaid.
Myself we struggle we get by just we both work and we cant afford holidays or anything like that
I can see when anything happens to our father things are really going to get interesting and can quite easily see myself "opening up with both barrels" as im just sick and tired of it.
Rant over !!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Can't you just sell a story about Cherie to the papers instead?

liam8282

Sounds like your just jealous to me.

Treed

Seems they are only wealthy through they're selfishness. I suggest speaking to your father about such things as the list your mother left. Asking the other family member directly and taking no nonsense. Missing a family members wedding because they are "tired" Doesnt seem very family like to me. This family member of yours may need to remember she is only where she is through marriage to the successful partner, not because shes worked for it herself. Pure ignorance of your feelings is taking place.

thatgirlsam

Deary me.. your father hasn't died yet but you are already worrying about what you will get?

Try to enjoy the last years of your dads life

There is no point in being jealous of what your sibling has got and wether they have worked or not - try to be happy that they are doing well

Happy Christmas!

elvis86

I really don't understand posts like this. You're not actually asking for opinions or advice on anything. Just ranting?

Don't you have a partner or friends who you can share your [STRIKE]bitterness and jealousy[/STRIKE] frustrations with?

Lotus-eater

Well you can't choose your family.

But you can choose if you want to be in touch with them

basscadette

liam8282 wrote: »

Sounds like your just jealous to me.

I think she acknowledges that! Is tired of having her nose rubbed in it - understandable really ifthey ring up to boast, knowing OP isn't lucky or wealthy like they are.

Still, rise above it and realise how lucky you are to have your daughter and all the other blessings. Try to avoid them if you don't wish to hear their latest achievements.

Murtle

Open up now. Your father could live another 10 years and you will have built up a lot of resentment by then.

Go round and ask for the book back, firm but politely. There is no point stewing on these things as it drains you more than it does them.

Be honest both to yourself and others.

thatgirlsam

basscadette wrote: »

I think she acknowledges that! Is tired of having her nose rubbed in it - understandable really ifthey ring up to boast, knowing OP isn't lucky or wealthy like they are.

Still, rise above it and realise how lucky you are to have your daughter and all the other blessings. Try to avoid them if you don't wish to hear their latest achievements.

Is it boasting though or do they see it as sharing good news?

I passed an important exam yesterday and rang some family members to tell them... Hope they don't think I was boasting!!

basscadette

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Is it boasting though or do they see it as sharing good news?

I passed an important exam yesterday and rang some family members to tell them... Hope they don't think I was boasting!!

lol:D I doubt it.

It's a fine line, true. Always depends how it's done and the history - OP sounds as if it's been going on for years - reminding her constantly that her close relative haves and she haves not!! Saying that, I have very rich relatives on both sides and I'm not in the least bit jealous - I aspire!!! Besides, as long as they buy me a nice present at christmas, then I'm happy for them.