Never Ending Circles - The proof is in the pudding!

geminilady

If i was you I would not let any man dictate to me when i saw my children,if you want your daughter to come for Christmas invite her.It is YOUR house

Mojisola

RainbowChild wrote: »

Some of you may have seen this thread back in June regarding my relationship and subsequent split with my partner. Well to cut a long story short I was weak and relented :cool: He quickly put a ring on my finger ...that changes nothing!

Is this an engagement ring or did you get married? If you want to keep your house, getting married is a really bad idea.

RainbowChild_2

Wow I have never heard of the term gaslighting before! Because I have been in VIOLENT marriages I considered myself to be "well up" on Domestic Abuse. :rolleyes:

I won't be getting married shelly x

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Sambucus_Nigra

Sweetie - although the short story link is great, it identifies you on here so I'd recommend removing it.

I'd be changing the locks today, if it were me. At some time you have to brave it out - make sure it's a cold night where he won't be tempted to spend it outside shouting at you.

Seanymph

RainbowChild wrote: »

Wow I have never heard of the term gaslighting before! Because I have been in VIOLENT marriages I considered myself to be "well up" on Domestic Abuse. :rolleyes:

I won't be getting married shelly x

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You haven't lost your victim mentality - I know there is a course you can do that helps you to learn to not get into the same situation again. It seems though that you have chosen another abuser.

No one can get you out but you. And you need to. Stay safe.

shellsuit

Your daughter is coming New Year instead of Christmas because that's what HE wants?!

What about what you and your daughter want? Sod him, it's your house and she is your daughter!

He's a controlling bum and if you stay with him you'll never get anywhere in life apart from in a whole heap of debt and misery.

What is stopping you TELLING him to go, don't ask him, tell him!

elvis86

I've not even bothered to read your other thread as it will just wind me up. Why are you even posting this?

You don't want to be with him.

He stops you seeing your child at Christmas.

He controls you.

If you're too desperate to be with someone to leave for your own good, and would rather just waste time (and your life) being miserable and posting about it online, think of your kids! I would be devastated if I felt that my mum had picked a man over me in that way!

Treed

Wether you are looking for an excuse or not.. you evidently dont want to be with him.
If you want to see your child christmas day then you should. Siding with him is going to lose not only your self respect but your childs respect too.
Tell him to use the door!

RainbowChild_2

I do need him out..it is the physical practicality of getting him through the door! I knew I should have stuck to my guns in the summer. Thanks for all your support and advice I will let you know how I get on x

carefullycautious

Get the police to help you escort him out.