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Christmas pressie help for the ungrateful
Mupette
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Seems harsh title sorry about that.
Mum and dad live in france, so every year i sort out gramps (mums dad)
i get the same pressie every year on behalf of mum for him, he's 92 set in his routines and loves what mum has been doing for years, a diary for the new year and some word search puzzles.
He is of ill health and has been for years and this is something he enjoys doing. we used to include his favorite Turkish delight, until her indoors (nan) said no he now has diabetes he can't have, so i told mum of all these places that sell diabetic Turkish delight so he could still enjoy his once a year treat, and still her indoors complained.
So this year i have already organised gramps, his pressies are all wrapped up, mum was happy to let me sort that out she knows i know what he likes and saves her trying to get this as they dont have such things in france - in english and then post over.
Anyhoo her indoors, what ever is bought for her from mum we feel is a waste of time, nothing pleases her, nan (82) is stepmother to mum has been since mum was about 3, and it is very clear who her children are and who her step children are as she does treat them differently.
If mum got chocolates she gives them away, anything every year is just shoved away, never used, mum used to chip in with everyone else in the family for big pressies... but not something she is included in now she moved away.
mum has sent me £10 over to get her indoors some flowers ( not lillies as she can't stand them)
but i was wondering for someone who doesnt appreciate anything bought for her from mum, what can i get, i dont want to get her anything nasty (well i do.. but welll) the limit is £10 and remember it will be either given away to other family members or stashed away to be forgotten, oh and she isnt on the internet so vouchers are out, as well as shop vouchers... she doesnt go out anywhere now.. just to morries for the weekly shop, that she can manage and her little darlings shopping too as they are too lazy to do it
Mum and dad live in france, so every year i sort out gramps (mums dad)
i get the same pressie every year on behalf of mum for him, he's 92 set in his routines and loves what mum has been doing for years, a diary for the new year and some word search puzzles.
He is of ill health and has been for years and this is something he enjoys doing. we used to include his favorite Turkish delight, until her indoors (nan) said no he now has diabetes he can't have, so i told mum of all these places that sell diabetic Turkish delight so he could still enjoy his once a year treat, and still her indoors complained.
So this year i have already organised gramps, his pressies are all wrapped up, mum was happy to let me sort that out she knows i know what he likes and saves her trying to get this as they dont have such things in france - in english and then post over.
Anyhoo her indoors, what ever is bought for her from mum we feel is a waste of time, nothing pleases her, nan (82) is stepmother to mum has been since mum was about 3, and it is very clear who her children are and who her step children are as she does treat them differently.
If mum got chocolates she gives them away, anything every year is just shoved away, never used, mum used to chip in with everyone else in the family for big pressies... but not something she is included in now she moved away.
mum has sent me £10 over to get her indoors some flowers ( not lillies as she can't stand them)
but i was wondering for someone who doesnt appreciate anything bought for her from mum, what can i get, i dont want to get her anything nasty (well i do.. but welll) the limit is £10 and remember it will be either given away to other family members or stashed away to be forgotten, oh and she isnt on the internet so vouchers are out, as well as shop vouchers... she doesnt go out anywhere now.. just to morries for the weekly shop, that she can manage and her little darlings shopping too as they are too lazy to do it
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Morrisons vouchers?
Or I'd just get £10 worth of biscuits/chocs and be done with it.:heart2:I have a child with autism.:heart2:0 -
Why would you expect her to cherish or appreciate a present from two women who clearly despise her? The venom towards her positively drips from your post. I'd give away any present I got from someone who spoke of me like that too.
Why don't you just do as your mother has asked and buy her some flowers and don't concern yourself with what she does with them after you have handed them over.0 -
Quite honestly, it sounds like it really doesn't matter what you buy for her. Just get the flowers and be done with it. She can choose to either enjoy them, give them away or bin them.0
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Get her the flowers as advised or the Morries voucher for £10 or how about this jar of nothing http://www.craftbits.com/project/a-jar-of-nothing-gift.... ? You could fill it up with empty choccy wrappers!
A letter or card with £10 in it?
On the other hand if you despise her that much why bother? If she moans at what you do get her she wont miss what you dont but will moan none the less.
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Why would you expect her to cherish or appreciate a present from two women who clearly despise her? The venom towards her positively drips from your post. I'd give away any present I got from someone who spoke of me like that too.
Why don't you just do as your mother has asked and buy her some flowers and don't concern yourself with what she does with them after you have handed them over.
sorry for it to sound like that, but for my 42 years she has been very nasty towards me, i stood there and took it like a dutiful grand daughter, and never said or did anything, and it is only no i am in my 40's that i have been opened to how evil she has been towards me and mum.
mum loves her, but the love is never recipicated (sp) i just stand up for my mum, she has been treated badly by this woman, lots of bad history.
But end of the day mum still does the dutiful daughter bit, never misses her birthday or christmas, makes regular calls home.. i won't go into it..0 -
What about a pot plant send through the post?
http://www.giftstm.com/latest-offers.html
Most older people like pot plants.0 -
Why don't you ask whether there is anything - within your budget - that she would really like?Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!
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...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...I love chaz-ing!0 -
What about a pot plant send through the post?
http://www.giftstm.com/latest-offers.html
Most older people like pot plants.
thats lovely, i can see she would have to display that
i remember mum got a nice bunch of flowers before and it was all oh you shouldnt have.. and bit ching to other family members of what was bought for her0
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