Trying to be OS with a Chronic Health Condition

heavenleigh

Thank you everyone, i know it looked like i'd posted then ran but to be honest today is the first time i feel comfortable to reply.
In a sad sort of way it is a help to know so many others are dealing with the same thing.
The encouraging words and advice have not passed me by and i intend to take it all on board.
I called my mother the Sunday half term began and asked for help, i really didn't see how i would make it through and she gave up everything including her birthday celebrations on the 13th and valentines day on the 14th to come stay with me for the week.
Ive had some really great days (even rediscovered the iron and makeup!! then wham out of the blue from nowhere back to square one! im only a few weeks in on the tablets so hopefully it will get better, but i have taken a few things on board, like the short bursts to do things in 10/15 mins (that seems doable most of the time.
I have forced myself to open the blinds and the curtains at some point during the day even if it's 3pm and now half term is over i've forced myself to get up an hour before the kids and get breakfast etc sorted before the school run even if it means i spend the rest of the day on my backside......i wouldnt have been able to do it without reading all your stories, it makes me realise i'm not alone.
Along way to go before things feel normal again but i feel like there is possible a slight glimmer in the future xx

yorkiepud_2

Kids don't notice fluff on the carpet.
What they will ALWAYS notice (and always remember) are cuddles from Mum. Mine don't seem to remember that sometimes I couldn't stop crying while I was cuddling them either!

Getting out of bed is a major achievement on a bad day, and it sounds like you're managing to do this every day. I don't want to sound patronising, I've been suicidally depressed in the past so I do know what you're going through, but it's very easy to allow one 'bad' thought to get all out of proportion - how much time did you spend worrying about your kids eating all their veg before you became ill? I bet it isn't anything like the time you're spending worrying about it now.

My Doctor suggested I google an online cbt programme from Australia called moodgym. It may help you.

heavenleigh

Just popping in to say, i hit rock bottom last week, couldn't even walk without my legs wanting to give way or sit and have a cup of tea without it shaking so much i spilled it all over the place, then wham next morning woke up and for the last 3 days everything has seemed bright! Have managed to cook a full roast today, and tidy the house from top to bottom.....really hope this isn't the calm before the storm!
The 15 minute burst of energy thing has worked wonders.
As has the using paper plates on pizza night. (thank you so much for those tips xx)
The trying not to guilt myself has worked less well but is a work in progress.
Anyway feel like i'm getting there slowly but surely with the support of you guys and gals :0)
Thank you xxx

Lady_Tara

heavenleigh wrote: »

Just popping in to say, i hit rock bottom last week, couldn't even walk without my legs wanting to give way or sit and have a cup of tea without it shaking so much i spilled it all over the place, then wham next morning woke up and for the last 3 days everything has seemed bright! Have managed to cook a full roast today, and tidy the house from top to bottom.....really hope this isn't the calm before the storm!
The 15 minute burst of energy thing has worked wonders.
As has the using paper plates on pizza night. (thank you so much for those tips xx)
The trying not to guilt myself has worked less well but is a work in progress.
Anyway feel like i'm getting there slowly but surely with the support of you guys and gals :0)
Thank you xxx

Hi, just wondered if its worth getting your GP to check if the meds are correct for you, I was on prozac briefly and it didn't help, but have now been on Sertraline for over 3 years and it has really helped to stabilise the lows/highs, so maybe worth getting them to check your meds are the most suitable?

I've read this thread with interest as I am still really hard on myself for not being the "perfect" mother, in fact I've got worse as I get older for some reason - if anyone can help with that?! :rotfl:

As others have said, you are doing brilliantly, please don't beat yourself up, and glad you had a good day today xx

FrugalLina

Thanks for keeping us up-to-date, I have been feeling much better these past few days too (although, in my case a week off work has helped, lol). Oh, yes, I agree with Lady Tara, keep your GP posted on whether the meds are helping or not (when I am in crisis they see me every 2 weeks) and trying others is a good idea.

I think it is great that you had such great advice on here and you have found some excellent short-cuts to get you through those particularly difficult days.

Hope you continue to get better!

Hugs x