Tesco Discussion Chat & Grabbits 11+ Xmas/New Year Edition

QPR10

Gemini_Jes wrote: »

HOT HOT HOT :D

I love watching him on Daybreak...although he does tend to dress scruffy for TV...:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I love watching him but he does talk too fast I can't take it all in

barbara6812

Just been untrouted (if thats the right term) by a lovely assistant in h'pool.Anyhow found a very nice potato peeler if thats your thing JML ceramic peeler on clip strip in the dog food isle 60p. Had one of these before and they're fab. They had some in another local earlier but someone had pinched all the blades so pointless. Anyhow nice assistant put all my gloom balloons i was checking through at 15p each!! even though they scanned at 3.15!!! wonder if i can get her shift pattern and stalk her. hmmm:D

QPR10

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

That must be Nikkilala's car

sunshinestar101

QPR10 wrote: »

How do these cats get in ? It was Sunshine yesterday.

For anyone else with problems with random pi$$ ing cats. Get a piece of old towel or loads of plenty stand on it to soak up the excess, then start washing & scrubbing with antibac soap & disinfectant, then repeat first bit again, if you rub straight away you will rub the smell in.

blame the Hubby - he was decorating and to get rid of the paint smell b4 DS came home from school... opened the window.... n forgot to close it.

theres loooads of cats by here too... so i just give them all the evil eye now...

zippydooda

sunshinestar101 wrote: »

and CAZ - In my oppinion, i would grit your teeth and let him see the kids...

I know its hard - trust me, ive been there... but by stopping him from seeing them, and even though you are sticking to the times that were given by the court - it would only have a negative effect on your kiddiewinkles. Kids arent stupid, they can pick up on anything..

Hate him inside - but dont show it to your kids.... Grit your teeth, let him see them... but set restrictions, ay certain hurs, times etc.. that way you will still feel like you have control over the situation, but have the best interests of your kids at heart.

plus - i dunno how you get on with your exs' parents - sure i read that this was the reason for the change of access times - but if this is the reason - then im guessing that they only want to see their grandkids. ?

try and think - what would the kids want? - put all your negative feelings aside ... if at all possible. lol. xx

hope im not being unreasonable i saying this - just thought i would offer my oppionion... i have been there hun,...and TBH an going through something similar - so if you ever wanna chat PM me... if i can get it working! lol.

you sure know what your on about, ive been with my wife now for 10 years and i only just found out she hates her x. she only had her happy head on for the kids.

HennyPenny79

caz2703 wrote: »

We just get on with it. I'm not looking for a medal and I sure as hell can't (and wouldn't want to) get a refund so I have 2 young kids that need me so what else can I do but be the best mum I can.

Need a rant .....

Meanwhile I'm dealing with the ex who would now like me to be flexible and let him have the kids outside the contact order (which he instigated for no reason) because his parents are over. Hmmmmmmm so he can transfer the TV license without warning me, drag me to court without even discussing access, transferred the Sky contract which resulted in cutting off my phone (and worse still the broadband!!), stopped paying the gas & electric before I got tax credits in place and he wants me to be flexible!
Any suggestions?

I'd say how's about a big fat NO! Sorry but I've been in your situation and kept my kids well away from my ex. Best thing I could have done, but that another story. Stay strong and don't play his games

sunshinestar101

zippydooda wrote: »

you sure know what your on about, ive been with my wife now for 10 years and i only just found out she hates her x. she only had her happy head on for the kids.

if its for the kids - its worth keeping a happy head on. - it used to be the only thing that kapt me going at times. x

caz2703

Sorry DS was sick again so been away cleaning up.

I don't take offense at what has been said by anyone but I don't have a relationship with his parents. I only ever saw them a couple of times a year and after a 5 hour 'conversation' with his mother when she told me I should basically be grateful to have her son, I don't want one either (I should accept that I pay for everything for the kids including my step-child, as well as buy all the food and pay half the bills as he paid to do up HIS house before I moved in). I haven't heard a word from his parents bar that phonecall. They know the reasons why we split, they know what my ex gets up to in his spare time (and it isn't tiddlywinks) but they want nothing to do with me yet are happy to fawn over his 1st ex-wife. I was never wanted and I really don't care.

DS is being sick however so I'm not sending him out as I know from last time the grandparents were over, DS spent the time cowering in the corner and wouldn't go near them. If he's not well and stuck in a house with people he doesn't want to be with that would break my heart. They're not innocent in our break up but not going into detail on here. If they'd been grown-up about this, tried to maintain some channel of communication with me like they did their 1st DIL then I'd have no problem asking them around here but given the circumstances, you'll forgive me for not wanting to go out of my way.

Raven, your idea is a good one but in reality not possible.
Sunshinestar, your heart is in the right place but if you knew all the detail, you wouldn't be so kind. Oh and thankfully the boys aren't old enough to know what's going on, the eldest being 2, the youngest isn't even 1.

I'm also out well over £1000 on legal fees as the ex refuses to accept a judge telling him no. The contact order has dragged on for 3 months now and that money could have put food on the table or paid the bills and what do I have to show for it? More court dates to fill up the rest of the month. This is why I enjoy and need MSE so much as if it weren't for the glitches, bargains, DTDs and banter, I'd be skint and be down in the dumps. Because of this wonderful forum I can afford nappies & wipes thanks to glitches, I can afford food because of whoopsies, I have some cracking toys because of the 90% sale and I have stuff I'd never be able to afford because of DTD.

QPR10

sunshinestar101 wrote: »

im back -

only just finished writing my letter to Phillip Clarke.. lol.

hope he reads it, it was quite long...
how long does it usually take to get a response anyone please?

and thankyou to everyone who gave hugs... still feeling down in the dumps... think its just being fat and pregnant, heartburn and NEVER feeling comfortable.
Plus with the scratty cat pi$$ing in the new babys things - ended up chucking them out as even though they had been cleaned, steamed, sterelised etc - i just didnt feel right.... so gotta go and buy everything again tomorrow.... just hope baby doesnt come tonight as we have nothing to put her in and no hospital bag packed now.

Plus as we have just recently moved house.. everything is everywhere - just cant seem to get organised... plus its so hard not being able to move heavy boxes, just open them and move things in the boxes one at a time..... up and down the stairs is killing me!!

anyway - im off to bed now.

Good night all.
sweet dreams. x

It seems to take longer now, too many complaints a week or two I would say

Issyc

zippydooda wrote: »

you sure know what your on about, ive been with my wife now for 10 years and i only just found out she hates her x. she only had her happy head on for the kids.

Ooops! I've always thought you were a female! Sorry!