is it bullying?

epatolles

if everyone i work with in the team and my manager ignores me pretty much every day except for the odd "are you doing this piece of work" and they sit talking to each other - is this bullying? I've been told it is but I feel like I'm being stupid!

martinthebandit

epatolles wrote: »

if everyone i work with in the team and my manager ignores me pretty much every day except for the odd "are you doing this piece of work" and they sit talking to each other - is this bullying? I've been told it is but I feel like I'm being stupid!

Have you asked your manager why that seems to happen?

Googlewhacker

Have you tried to engage them in conversation?

planning303

bullying is one of them things that occurs as a result of someones feelings towards an act rather than as a direct result of someones actions.

for example,

someone at work calls me a name and i laugh it off as banter = not bullying

someone at work calls me a name and i feel offended / upset = bullying

you know if it is bullying, go to hr make them log your complaint and then ask them why

planning303

infact there is another obvious example that i have missed...

someone at work calls me a name and i laugh it off as banter, however someone else witnesses this and feels it was inappropriate and thus reports it to hr = bullying (despite there not being a complaint by the apparent victim

ohreally

They may simply just not like you very much.

Is this behaviour a recent development?

epatolles

martinthebandit wrote: »

Have you asked your manager why that seems to happen?

the manager is part of the problem. it seems to stem from the fact i dont drink.

epatolles

ohreally wrote: »

They may simply just not like you very much.

Is this behaviour a recent development?

this has been ongoing since I started really.

plus we've had a lot of work on and manager gives it to other members of the team and I get nothing. I get paid less than all bar 1 on the team and I have had less training than members who started AFTER me

i've reached breaking point now - and although i do not want to walk out and ruin my career, i'm finding it hard not to

planning303

do you have a hr department on site within your business?

epatolles

liggins wrote: »

do you have a hr department on site within your business?

yes but im unsure how to approach them. i feel like im being stupid but its affecting my health now, finding it hard to sleep and suffering from anxiety.

planning303

tell them that exactly how you feel and what it is that has caused you to feel like that.

start a work diary logging anything that happens as it happens with details about anything that was said and how it made you feel

make a note of everytime you go to hr and exactly what you support you do or do not get from them

build a file, if it gets too bad that you don't feel you can even go into work go to the doctors (don't accept any anti-depressents) you are feeling bullied not depressed