How much do you spend on your mum at Christmas?

starnight_2

It varies from year to year, but usually £50 upwards. This year so far £60, but that's not inicluding the scarf I've knit her.

I believe the same as you, my mum deserves a treat, and she would give me the clothes off her back to help me. I just like to spoil her and believe she deserves it, and if I've saved up the money to spend on her I don't see a problem.

elvis86

I certainly don't think that anyone should look to make you feel bad for spending too much on your mum. Have you maybe confided in them about money problems and they were alluding to the fact that your mum might prefer you to spend less and sort out your debts? Just a thought as to why they would make you feel bad. Otherwise it seems odd.

Either way, spend what every you like so long as you can afford it.:) I've spent £150ish in the past, but money has been tight the past couple of years so it's been more like £70. This year my sister and I are taking her for a Spa weekend in January, and I'll be getting her a few stocking fillers to open on Christmas day.

I agree with your sentiments completely, my mum does loads for me and birthdays and Christmas are a time to show you appreciation. I love spoiling my mum as she rarely treats herself.

I bought her a Radley bag and purse a couple of years ago as one of her friends had a few and she'd been admiring them. It was less than £200 if I remember rightly, but they're one of her most prized posessions. I joke that I'll have to bury her with them to get my moneys worth, as she keeps them in the box and has probably used them less than 10 times!

Love my mum!:):):)

big5

This year my parents have asked for a slow cooker costing £20 and said not to get them anything else. I'd already bought a couple of things for them, so altogether I've spent about £45 between them. We're moving house soon, so money is a bit tighter than usual - we spent more on presents last year.

We were expecting to pay more for my inlaws' presents, but when we got to the till it turned out one item has been reduced by £20 so it worked out about the same.

Before my MIL got remarried, my husband used to spoil her at Christmas and on her birthday - I think he still would, but doesn't want to get into some weird competition with his step-dad!

serious_saver

We have out a £20 limit on presents for adults this Christmas. We have done it before and it's worked out really well. I would be more than happy to spend more but my parents would be disappointed if we didn't try to stick to the agreed amount. I could probably get away with spending £25 but they'd be even happier if I managed to only spend a tenner.

If it was just my mum on her own and it was something she would love then I probably would spend more. I certainly have spent more in the past.

magenta22

Not much about £20-ish. When it was let slip to me that a birthday present I gave was then re-wrapped and given as a present to someone it made me think there's not much point spending too much!

*max*

I never understood this habit of valuing a present by its cost. So many people say "I spend £20 on him, I'm buying her a £50 present". What does it matter how much it cost? It's the actual item that counts, and how much the person wanted it/will appreciate it?

I never start off by thinking "I'm going to spend £50, now what can I get for that?". I start off by thinking "What will they like (within reason obviously)? Ok, now how much does that cost?". If it's £10, that's fine. If it's £50 or £100, that's fine too as long as I can afford it. If I can't, I will just think of something else.

gingin_2

I spend £10 to £15 pounds, this year it's a Nigel Slater book. I think it's lovely you think of your mum like that, but as a parent I would rather you put the money towards your future than spending it on treats for someone else. Boring, I know.

victory

:DIt is not the cost of the present on one day xmas day it is the value of the love that you give each other all year long:D

If your mum is happy and so are you then that is what counts, a beautiful hand written card and some home made goodies is just as beautiful and lovely as buying things do both

Mara69

*max* wrote: »

I never understood this habit of valuing a present by its cost. So many people say "I spend £20 on him, I'm buying her a £50 present". What does it matter how much it cost? It's the actual item that counts, and how much the person wanted it/will appreciate it?

Totally agree with this. It should be the gift and the thought behind the gifts that matters - not the price tag. Besides which, I would never let anyone make me feel bad about buying presents!

jtr2803

I spend around the £100 mark although this year that includes a lot of things I got from the body shop at well below normal value. If I had my way I would rather give my mum a 'Christmas Bonus' as she looks after my daughter as well but she would never take cash so I tend to get a few extra gifts.

I do buy her flowers every month too