Popping the Question

Skint_Catt

fififofum wrote:

and mine! only been together 4.5 years (!)

LOL, we haven't been together four months yet but I know he's the one. He's stable, thoughtful, kind and is close to his family (which means a lot to me - his Dad loves me and wants to introduce me to everyone he knows!). I can't wait to spend forever with him which is why I want to get out of debt asap. I want to start saving for our future.

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LJM

congrats i think you should just pop question when least expected if you plan something big and it goes wrong i know id be gutted a nice meal with some flowers or somewhere special like the place where you first met etc,thats romantic good luck

popping_the_question

Thankfully I am pretty sure that she will say yes as she has been talking about it for some time now. Only problem is that if she is expecting it then it wont be a surprise! I want it to be special so will def have a ring beforehand, though it will probably stay in my pocket for ages until I get the courage up to ask her.
If I am to buy a ring, how do I (without her knowing) establish a ring size? Do I just wait until she is in a deep sleep and measure it? I think I might start looking at rings within the next couple of weeks to see what I can afford and what she might like! Then get raiding my savings account!!

lush_bucket

Firstly congratulations on taking the next step! My OH proposed on Christmas day, I dont have a dad for him to ask but I doubt he would have anyway as its not quite so common these days. Most dads would probably offer to pay you to take their daughters off their hands! My other half gave me all my presents and then after dinner took me aside into a quite room and told me he had forgotten one of the presents in the morning and asked if I'd like it now, pulling a very neatly wrapped box out of his pocket. He didnt get down on one knee, but he didnt have to, it was the most amazing day of my life, simple as it was.
I would also like to add that I have been married before, the ring my ex bought me cost several thousand pound. The ring my other half bought me was about £45. It's not about the cost of the ring, if she is the one for you she wont care how much it cost or where you get it from. She will just be bowled over to be spending the rest of her life with the man she loves.

As for ring size, does she have any rings that she doesnt wear so often? costume jewellery perhaps? as you can pinch one from her jewellery box and take it to the jewellers with you. Make sure you pay attention to the type of things she usually wears.. does she wear gold? or does she tend to go for silver? If it's the latter a white gold or platinum ring would probably be best.

Skint_Catt

My ex pretended to compare our finger sizes so that he could try on my ring - and I tried on his. He remembered where my ring came to on his finger - his were bigger than mine - and went into the shop. The assistant laughed at his methods, but said it was a good way of doing it. He gave me my ring at midnight on New Years Eve/Day. Not an engagement but a fantastic surprise. He even remembered my birthstone (amethyst!)

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Skint_Catt

Oops double post!

Idiophreak

I got this well covered - years back I bought the gf a nice diamond ring to wear on that finger as a "sign of commitment", rather than an engagement ring. Now, when the time comes, I just need to nick that and it's job done

Steedandpeelcats

Ahh, that's lovely! I got a jeweler friend to make a ring for my sister's 21st birthday. It was gorgeous and cost about £200. You could find a small independant jeweller and get them to make one for you, there are plenty of internet links to crafts people. I got my mum to steel my sister's ring when she was washing up, and compared it to the sizes in the Argos catalogue! It only took a couple of minutes. Good luck, hope she says yes!

moonlightpjs

If you have a good relationship with her Dad then I'd ask him - it shows a bit of respect.

As for proposing, just please do it in a nice romantic way. My hubby thought he was being romantic - he proposed in the same place that we first had s*x ................on a grave!!! :eek: (in my defence we were both very drunk and the graveyard was next door to the pub we came out of) needless to say it wasn't romantic :rotfl:

As for the ring, have a look in Antique shops, we had been browsing months before at Antiques when I saw a ring I loved, the idea of marriage wasn't even in my mind but he bought the ring 6 months later and although it was the wrong size the jewellers valued it for us and it was worth nearly 5 times more than he'd paid for it - a bargain. But to be honest I wasn't worried about how much he'd spent - it was just that he wanted to marry me. :A

Anyway, good luck
Lisa xx

black-saturn

My boyfriend got down on one knee outside the station in Amsterdam and got the ring out there and then.