Starting again, with a positve attitude this time ..

Aesop

nothing wrong with your memory Ani

ani_26

freebyfifty wrote: »

Ditto what ani said. I have never been happier than I am now, on my own and making my own choices in life without having to answer to anyone else. Don't get me wrong, it's hard but I wouldn't go back.
Making that decision is the hardest bit and I hope you find the strength to do what you want to do and not what you think you should do Another (((((hug))))

I think many people have the attitude they have to be in a relationship, to feel loved / needed / wanted / supported, whatever, which can also lead to being manipulated / abused / controlled / feelings of no self worth. Don't mean to sound cynical here.

Hmmm, is it any different being single? ( self worth, that is. ) :rotfl:


But it is undoubtably difficult to make the decision for YOU. xx


Invariably, one set of problems leads to another entirely different set of problems :rotfl:

ani_26

Aesop wrote: »

nothing wrong with your memory Ani

Ooooops, sorry.


I just always pick up on this feeling of sadness, if that's the word :grouphug:



Yes, there is something wrong with my memory, because i'm sure i have an appointment for something before the dro appointment, and i can't remember what it is :rotfl: Oh dear. I'm sure i'll find out, when i don't turn up

quintwins

Did the coucil come and board it up in the end?

What i will say is you've had issues with him before and you still ended up back with him, also you run the risk of real fall out considering everything he'd done for you. Also you've had a rough week with treatment and now this i would wait and let things calm down cause you emotions are all over the place.

Hiddenidenity

Thanks for all the replies x

I djust got use to being on my own doing my own thing after all the rubbish with ex.

He wats so much different to me and things to be fair I dont want (I dont think). He's so controlling! Yes hes nice, hes helped me and there is good times more than bad. BUT theres always the fear of how controllign he is. I dont want history repeating itself in front of my kids when its not even there Dad iykwim?

He's totally different to me, the money, the things he does and enjoys. I dont know I just feel out of his league in a sort of sense ..

Aesop

Hiddenidenity wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies x

I djust got use to being on my own doing my own thing after all the rubbish with ex.

He wats so much different to me and things to be fair I dont want (I dont think). He's so controlling! Yes hes nice, hes helped me and there is good times more than bad. BUT theres always the fear of how controllign he is. I dont want history repeating itself in front of my kids when its not even there Dad iykwim?

He's totally different to me, the money, the things he does and enjoys. I dont know I just feel out of his league in a sort of sense ..

completely understand how you feel HI. You kinda gotta listen to your sixth sense if you are uncomfortable. The amount of times in the last few years have regretted not questioning something or listening to my 6th sense and regretting it afterwards.

Hiddenidenity

Aesop wrote: »

completely understand how you feel HI. You kinda gotta listen to your sixth sense if you are uncomfortable. The amount of times in the last few years have regretted not questioning something or listening to my 6th sense and regretting it afterwards.

I dont know if I'm being over paranoid or what I suppose I need to have a serious think. I know I can cope on my own so I dont have the fear this time I had when I was "stuck" with the ex. I'm really cautious of everyone, and maybe its time to forget the past and see what happens and instead of doubting him give him a chance?

Hiddenidenity

Ok anyway enough moaning.

At the minute theres no real budget going on and everythings been all over the place. So today I need to work out a budget allowing me to pay back OH so I dont feel as guilty about that.

Also started today collecting the Sun holiday tokens, my goal is to start selling on Ebay again and raise enough to cover the cost of the holiday there.

So today is to sort Ebay and list the 10 items Im allowed a month

ani_26

The ultimate question is, do you love him? Or is it that he loves you? Or neither. Does he just want to be in control of someone else?

I personally, could never be with someone i didn't love, whatever they gave me in return. Nor would i be with someone who didn't love me. But that's just me. Nor would i accept unreasonable behaviour. Maybe i'm too long in the tooth. But a relationship should be equal, it shouldn't be a question of accepting someone else's insecurities, because that's what it is. Maybe i look through rose tinted glasses, ( after all these years.) And maybe that's why i've been on my own for so many years. :rotfl:

Hiddenidenity

ani_26 wrote: »

The ultimate question is, do you love him? Or is it that he loves you? Or neither. Does he just want to be in control of someone else?

I personally, could never be with someone i didn't love, whatever they gave me in return. Nor would i be with someone who didn't love me. But that's just me. Nor would i accept unreasonable behaviour. Maybe i'm too long in the tooth. But a relationship should be equal, it shouldn't be a question of accepting someone else's insecurities, because that's what it is. Maybe i look through rose tinted glasses, ( after all these years.) And maybe that's why i've been on my own for so many years. :rotfl:

Yes he loves me, and tbh he is what I want but do i want it right now?

I love him but is it enough right now for me to want to stay? Dont get me wrong hes not perfect, but he is definatly the best
Im just not sure if I'm ready to trust someone 100% if that makes sense?