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Family at Christmas - Is It Just Us?
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I would love to have a nice Christmas just me and the OH. Sadly I will have to do the usual "nice to see you" act with relatives that I really don'r get on with. Do what makes both of you happy and whatever else, have a wonderful Christmas.0
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Ever since we bought our first house we have always had Christmas at home, we then do our visiting on boxing day. We still do this now even with 3 kids. Neither set of parents visit or expect us to visit, they wait for boxing day for us to visit. That way then the kids have 2 Christmas days and we h ave our family time.Money, money, money. It's great....but don't spend it all at once!0
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apart from our eldests 1st christmas we spend everyone at home..if people want to visit they are welcome to arrange that but we dont leave the house. we have inlaws for dinner and a set of my parents for tea and my other set somewhere inbetween this year.Have a Bsc Hons open degree from the Open University 2015 :j:D:eek::T0
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Remember the meaning of Christmas. It goes back to beliefs and values. To us Christmas is not about the presents it is about seeing family and friends that we have not seen for ages and yes spending time together. If you visit them you can leave at any time, make an excuse that you have to walk the dog or something else. Invite them for tea on her birthday or go to the pub, it is the little things you do that matter. Our family and friends are always there in times of need or for anything. I am sure you both can spare a little bit of time to visit both side of the family. If you do it right you will have a peaceful Christmas Day and just telephone to say Happy Christmas. Explain your reasoning to people.0
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I dont believe your being selfish at all. Family 'habits' around Xmas are difficult to break but you need to stay firm and explain its your Xmas and this year your going to stay in and hide away and spend some quality time together.
Stay calm and upbeat, say its only two days out of a whole year and you can spend plenty of time visiting another time.
Stay strong and good luck :beer:Ant. :cool:0 -
My husband and I will be spending Christmas with our children only. Boxing Day or the 27th will be time for visiting family, or them visiting us. I am an only child, my husband however has 3 siblings all of whom now have children and due to this they all now want to do the same. His parents always go out Christmas day for dinner and my Mum and Dad live miles away so we tend to see them for new year.
At some point you have to make your own traditions.Grab life by the balls before it grabs you by the neck.0 -
My xmas this year consists of me, hubby and the children. We will go to my parents and OH's family to exchange presents, but then will come home and lock the door! It will be bliss and we can't wait! My mother is devastated as it means they are going to be on their own with my sister, they won't invite her BF as they don't like him! Pointed out that as i'm married and have children I really want to spend it at home, my mother can't understand this. If we enjoy it this year then it may happen again next year! OH's sister wants us to go to hers for the big family meal, which he doesn't want to do. We are going to have the full xmas meal with all the trimmings, but with no bickering and no pressure on when and what we eat!Life is like a box of chocolates..........you always seem to pick the hard ones!0
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We're having christmas to ourselves this year and looking forward to it. Its been a year of ill health for both of us so we're not able to travel anywhere.
My eldest son likes to spend christmas with his children and they live miles away -may come up to see us before hand depending on the weather but I've posted presents just in case.
Youngest son is in the process of moving and lives on the south coast -even further away and likes his christmas just him and his girlfriend.
Mum and Dad are no longer with us and we used to foster teenagers so always had a houseful of one sort or another.
This will be the first year there's no-one but us......we can do what we like, when we like and don't have to please anyone...........it'll be a refreshing change plus we can eat what we want and don't have to stock up on piles of stuff that just won't get eaten.
Enjoy Christmas whether you're with family or not.:)I would be unstoppable if only I could get started !
(previously known as mary43)0
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