Grandmother adding me to her will?!

tori.k

Its her's to gift as she pleases, you never know you might be surprised by the other grandchildren, when my grandmother died, she sort of did the same her money was split between her children and one of her grandchildren. wasn't an issue for any of us grandkids, as like you my cousin help my grandmother a lot and would have seen by us grandkids more unfair if she didn't recieve something when some of her own children did little for her and got there share. its your grandmother's way of saying thankyou for what you have done just except it gracefully, only those with little conscience will moan about it

iAMaLONDONER

Bufger wrote: »

My Grandmother is widowed and has 4 children, 3 boys and my mum and 10 grandchildren.

2 of her sons never bother with her. 1 of them after a fall out and the other is just never bothered (she gets a £10 asda gift card at christmas some years but not always). My mum and her eldest brother bother with my grandma loads, always taking her out, having her round for tea and generally involving her in our family lives. After my grandfather died my Grandma moved closer to our family home and as a result it means that we always got to see her more than everyone else in the family. The others are between 10 and 40 minutes drive away at the most.

Over the last 5 years my brother and I have done a few little odd jobs around the house, give her and her mate a lift to Bingo or Asda if its cold out or she has alot of shopping to bring back (whenever she asks basically) and now we've moved out we still invite her to our houses.

Now she's fairly old and hasnt done her will for a long time. She told me last week that shes taken 2 of her sons out of her will and added in my brother and I. This is for a share of the sale of all items she wants sold including her house. My mother gets the bigger share, my uncle the next and then my brother and i equally.

Some people may think 'woohoo!' but i dont want my grandmas money. I'd be happy to have any possessions she treasures the most and pass them on through the family but this will undoubtedly leave my two uncles very upset AND the worst part would be that the other grandchildren would definately resent us. The uncles im not so worried about but the grandchildren i do because they do love her and see her at family do's but the reason they dont see her as much is because they dont live as close and as a result she probably isnt in their thoughts as much. (they're 16-27 so they have more things on their mind! which i completely understand). I also dont need the money, im lucky enough to have a well paid job as does my wife. My cousins have varying levels of money issues and some of them could easily do with it more than me.

How do i reject this offer without upsetting people? Can i reject it if she refuses to change it? i will pay any costs of changing it again no problem.

Has anybody else been in a similar situation? how did it all work out for you?

So what did you tell your gran?

Tiddlywinks

iAMaLONDONER wrote: »

So what did you tell your gran?

Why reopen a two year old thread?

Ruby_woo

Because the end result would have been interesting to know I guess