Grandmother adding me to her will?!

krlyr

As others have said, if she's mentally competant then it's her choice. OH and I don't plan to get married and I want to get a will done because if I die my part of the house (we're tennants in common, not joint) will go to both of my parents. I've been estranged from my dad for 7 years now (my choice) and don't want him getting a penny of mine. Family is about more than who's genes you share.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Consider that she might not have actually done what she says. Some people do that and then there is a huge shock when the will's contents are finally read.


Let it go. Worry about it when it actually happens, not before.

pinkmami

You shouldn't refuse it. You'd offend her I think. What ever the amount is spend some of it on something which will remind you of her. My granny's also old & like you & your brother we will get a 1/3 of our nan's estate (no other grandkids) and I KNOW this will start a rift - then again the rift is already there & it will only get worse! But I don;t care. I am there for my nan where they aren;t

Best Wishes to you & her xxx

CH27

You have to respect her wishes.

Stephb1986_2

At the end of the day your cousins could see your grandma more than they do. This is her choice and while it makes you feel bad on the others they will hopefully equally feel bad that they didn't spend more time with her.

My nan died in 2007 so not so long ago, I am one of 11 grandchildren towards the end of my nan's life I saw her most days even though the nursing home she ended up in was around 20 miles from where we live we used to take her places, bring little treats for her and things. I was the only grandchild to bother with her after my grandad passed away in 2003. After my grandad passed away my nan made a new will as she had inherited alot of money from my grandad who had inherited it less than 12 months before he died he didn't have chance to do anything really with it. But my nan wanted all the grandchildren to have £1000 each and then the rest split between her own children my mum is one of eight. Two of the grandchildren that had inherited money off my nan when she passed hadn't even met her, this was through choice of their own as they are grown ups, my step sister being one of them aged now 28 and my uncles step son who's in his 30's. It was nice that she treated them all the same blood or no blood but why should either of them inherit any of my nans money they hadn't even met the woman!

If this is your nans last dying wish then you can't reject it, if you feel that strongly about it when your share comes split it with your cousins but I'm sure thats something your nan wouldn't want you to do.

Good luck with your desicion

Steph xx

tyllwyd

In the end, it is your grandmother's decision what she puts in her will, and although you could have a chat with her about it, you can't really do more than that. If when the time comes you find that you are not comfortable with the way it has worked out, you could organise a deed of variation so that other family members do receive something (but you should probably talk to your brother and get his perspective on it as well, otherwise if one of you does something and the other doesn't, that might look unfair).

Mojisola

tyllwyd wrote: »

In the end, it is your grandmother's decision what she puts in her will, and although you could have a chat with her about it, you can't really do more than that. If when the time comes you find that you are not comfortable with the way it has worked out, you could organise a deed of variation so that other family members do receive something (but you should probably talk to your brother and get his perspective on it as well, otherwise if one of you does something and the other doesn't, that might look unfair).

Don't you need the agreement of all the beneficiaries to do a DOV?

AndrewSmith

Yes all the beneficiaries have to agree tondo a DOV.

The will must be drafted correctly to exclude the 2 children of hers or it will not stand up to a challenge on her death.

tyllwyd

Mojisola wrote: »

Don't you need the agreement of all the beneficiaries to do a DOV?

Whoops, sorry, didn't realise that!

pauletruth

you could point out that by doing the will that way that it will cause loads of problems within the family. if she is annoyed at her children give the childrens share to their kids. it maybe her wish but your the ones who will be left with a family dispute.