A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

Mrs_Chip

Law of S0d Smiley, Law of S0d.

fuddle

PAH you don't sound like you have much fight in you hun. I feel for you but those first paragraphs about the website and groups you ran show us that you are a trooper. I hope, hope, hope you can get some sleep tonight and that tomorrow you get a spark and follow the great advice. I too would write to your MP, and as Byatt said - haha, someone will have to look into it and give an explanation.

Edwardian family. It might have been solid work being the pauper family but by gum they were the only ones who could keep a sense of humour, who didn't shed a tear. Working class, there's summat about it. Summat about hard working folk that just - oh I don't know. Feeling melancholy but positive too having watched that. Off I go to bed. Night

prepareathome

Thanks everyone, do you just knowing you are there, in my corner so to speak is so wonderful - hubby unfortunately has always left everything to me and if I force him to sort things out as he doesn't want to he usually ends up causing more problems - once way back when hubby was unemployed we got a bit extra money as oldest son had a milk allergy, so got the allowance to buy food without milk as it was very hard to get hold of soya products early 1980's and what there was, was expensive - his milk came in tins on prescription but I had to triple check everything. One day we had a notice someone from social was coming but I had to take son for some tests at hospital so I went through everything with hubby and went off.

Came home to find a letter left by the visitor saying that hubby had stated sons spots had cleared up and so was no longer in need of extra money - Cue me diving down to social to try to get it sorted before they actually cancelled it, obviously I had to get more medical notes from doctors and specialists as they could not believe a father could not know his own sons condition so of course I was given the third degree........where he got spots from even he doesn't know, he admitted he couldn't remember what was wrong with him, so he just said first thing that popped into his mind - his son had a life threatening allergy to milk in any shape or form ( thankfully he out grew it by age 5 - our oldest daughter had the same).

That is only one of the ways he can mess things up royally as he would tell any of you he doesn't want to be bothered with it so why should he. I have sometimes thought I should have let us go hungry for a day or two to shake him up, he knows I have always coped and just expects I always will - have asked him what would he do if I died he said he would expect the children to sort out things for him as he has no interest in doing so, at least now he does actually want to work - took him till 50 to realise working wasn't such an interference in his life, but then he enjoys his job being out and about on the road very often going through beautiful countryside and villages. I am just glad he has found job he enjoys.

If I try now and press him to help me, he will now actually have a panic attack as he has spent his whole life avoiding dealing with anything that now it really is beyond him.

What really blowing me away is the are asking for over payments from not just last year but going way back. Why didn't they write and say I had been overpaid years ago instead of just renewing my claim and paying me, it just doesn't make sense at all.......

I just watched the programme as well - my first time watching live tv on laptop, well do have TV license so quite legal...... I agree fuddle the working class family pulled together and did it with a sense of humour. My grandma had black pans like the ones the poorest had, remember them well, wish I had them lovely heavy pans.

My MP fought in my corner for my ESA - she got me from working group to support group in less than a week. When I contacted her office one of her aides replied to me within two hours so will contact them again in morning.

Thank you everyone I really mean that......I admit I just want to hand the mess over to someone else and say deal with it I cannot any more.......


Hugs, Love and Healing xxxx
Still not slept, eyes keep going but then tiredness just goes

prepareathome

smileyt wrote: »

Hmmmm. Normally I have eaten my evening meal, drunk my tea and been happy not to eat again after 8pm-ish. So how come tonight, when I have been ordered to fast, I could eat my own bodyweight in something bad for me and drink gallons of tea??? Harumph!

Poor, poor you, I was like that other week when I had to have a fasting blood test for blood sugar and although ok food wise I could have murdered for a cup of tea, I just kept drinking and drinking my water and trying to pretend it was tea.......

Hugs xxxx

smileyt_2

Sounds like you have a good MP and they are paid to help so make sure you do contact her, PAH. I wonder if there are grounds for getting this written off? If you have kept them informed, filled in everything they asked, double-checked etc then it may be worth a try. See what their explanation is first, though - they might have made a mistake about it.

Do you know, I have only ever known one person in my entire life not to have had problems with benefits - and she is blagging it. Typical.

ETA I'm sure me wanting to eat bad things and drink tea is only because I have been told I can't, lol! I'll survive, but the dogs will only be getting a quick loo walk in the morning and will then have to wait until I'm home and have had a proper cup of tea before they get their long walk!

Softstuff

mcculloch29 wrote: »

Softstuff, my friend lives in Little Mountain, btw.

I know the area, but haven't visited. I've been the other side of the road a bit though, Moffat Beach. Very nice area, it's a lovely place to live and very handy for things too. If she invites you over take her up on it!

GreyQueen wrote: »

See, you're my kinda people, you know domestic appliances must have names. I've decided it's a Millie (Millie/Miele geddit?)

Everything in our house has names, not just appliances, so I heartily approve. Our dressing gowns are both called Colin (they seemed so large and heavy they should be named).

GreyQueen wrote: »

:eek: Hope you don't waste away, Softstuff. I'm a size 14 when at my thinnest and if I get thinner (i.e. go under 10.5 stones) I catch every darned germ doing the rounds. It must be the underweight point on my chassis. I'm a couple of inches taller than you but could charitably be describes as [STRIKE]built like an outdoor sanitation facility [/STRIKE] errm, I meant, big boned.

I hope not to waste away. But then I never had the big boned excuse when I was heavier, my wrists and hands are the size of a small childs (I can wear a baby bracelet) as are my ankles. The doc isn't concerned at all and says it'll be the healthiest thing I ever did and if you look at the type 2 diabetes, heart disease etc in my family, he's probably spot on! Funny thing is, thanks to the big upper deck I carry, most people can't spot the weight loss.... apart from my next door neighbour who's a personal trainer and on sight can tell me how much I've lost in a fortnight.

PAH, sorry to hear your troubles with WTC. I don't see how they can expect you to pay it back at that rate or without any justification as to why they're claiming you were overpaid, but then I don't know much about this so am glad others who do are able to provide better help. Hugs in any case.

wondercollie

shelley_crow wrote: »

You ladies have inspired me. Under the stairs, I have a walk in cupboard where the dog has his bed (no door on the front). I think I will kick the dog's bed out and shelve it out. I don't have much storage space so can't waste it.

Don't displace the dog! Put the shelves above him. My hound sniff the pantry on a regular basis. He knows where his stash is kept

GreyQueen

Morning all.

Now, I'd like to run this past you, to see if you think I'm being unreasonable. A Very Famous Double Glazing Company are working on a big project on the next building over. I have just rapped my knuckles on my sitting room window and said (mildly and politely) to the fitter that I'd rather he didn't lean their new windows on my flat and got a bit of an old-fashioned look.

Is it unreasonable to object to having a workman lean a stack of doubleglazed windows on my wall, half off and half on my window? They've been here since 8 am. I've been up since 6 am so they haven't woken me, I'm just ticked at having them 1 metre away from where I sit. They're not even working on the Towers either.

The area that they're standing on isn't mine, it's just a patch of grass separating me from the car park. I often feel that flat-dwellers are treated as second-class citizens; people of all stripes from tradesmen to daffy teens doing parkour seem to think it's OK to use the walls of our homes for all sorts.

Oh, windows are still on my wall. If he adds any more rather than subtracting the current load, I'll call the company and complain. We've already had our carpark monopolised for about 2 weeks by first the scaffolders' lorries and now the window fitters just because it's the nearest point to the Other Building. They've caused a considerable nuisance and SuperGran has struggled to get her (very small) car in and out and is spitting tacks.

[Deleted User]

GQ if they are leaning thier stock against your wall and are so close they can see into your flat I think you have every right to pass comment as they are infringing your privacy. Whether you will be able to persuade them to do anything about it is a matter for debate! If they continue to be right by your window I feel that a call to the company is appropriate because you don't t this point know how long they will be there. Good luck Cheers Lyn x. You could always sick Nursey on them, but do make sure she is wearing her best starched pinny before you let her out and make absoloutely sure she knows that no tea is to be involved - even as bribery!!!!!!!

Possession

You sound perfectly reasonable to me GQ. If someone were leaning something against my window I'd be telling them to move it too.