A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

grandma247

Fuddle I have not read all your post yet but had to say you did not loose your kids their home you lost a house. Their home is wherever you and dh are even if it is a tent in the middle of a field.

I know this for a fact. I took my kids out of the epicentre of a family crisis many years ago and stayed in a tent in a field (campsite) for 6-8 weeks. They did not suffer, to them it was an adventure.

prepareathome

GreyQueen wrote: »

:j They're up! They're UP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:j

Good morning campers; if you'd been in my vacinity circa 6 am this morning you'd've heard a yelp of startlement as I went into the kitchen and saw that a darling runner bean was lifting its head from the punnet of soggy compost.

I soaked runner bean seed from Sunday to Thurs evening and planted it and was having conniptions that I'd overdone the soaking and they were rotting away underground and here they are, growing like whoopee! I'm stressing the beans a little as the slugs have been such barstewards that I lost most of the first batch and had to start again.
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Am so pleased for you, and a handy tip about soaking the seeds never done that, and am thinking of maybe putting in a few more peas so will give them a soak for a few days before I plant..........
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Possession

lizzyb1812 wrote: »

Does anyone have a silicone or marble rolling pin and are they better than the wooden ones? I don't like pastry so rarely roll stuff out and am pants at it but want to make wraps, pittas, etc.

I have a silicone rolling pin but I wouldn't say it rolls things out any better than a wooden one. I got it because of our catering business and silicone being more hygenic than wood, otherwise I wouldn't have changed.

Smileyt I've just had to cut my honeysuckle right back as it had pulled the trellis off the wall it was so heavy (no doubt my fault for not pruning it properly over the last couple of years) so I'd be careful about letting it grow on pipes.

Byatt

Kidcat, I have been trying to find a way to word this post as a bit brain foggy, but from my experience with my DD, injuries/illness/pain are always a huge issue for her. It's not that she is over exaggerating or has a lower pain threshold, but in her mind it is very real. Somehow, she can go from limping on a twisted ankle, where I am convinced she has broken it she is so upset, to walking out of the hospital perfectly ok after she has been reassured nothing is broken and she has had the attention. I think it is so difficult with auty's to know how severe an injury is. I almost cancelled a consultant's appointment for her knee thinking she was not as bad as she said, which turned out very serious as her cartilage was mush and bone rubbing against bone.

She now has metal plates and pin in her knee.

It was the same with her breast abscess, it was difficult to know if it was just a painful spot or something worse. Again, it was something worse, but it's not always the case.

I do think however, tough love is needed at times so that I reassure her but at the same time get her to be proactive and also accept some pain is normal in life. You just have to get on with it.

I think getting the balance right with your Oh must be difficult, but I also think you did the right thing by suggesting he could have auty tendencies.

My DD if she doesn't want to do something or no longer likes it, will have to her very real ilnesses or will somehow have an injury. When she was younger, it was more obvious as she would throw herself on the floor and then wail saying she had hurt her arm. Not being able to express herself emotionally, she would use physical pain.

kidcat

Thank you all - the understanding you have shown yet again has really helped. He has been quiet overnight and I think it may well take many more conversations before I get anywhere but I have started the journey at least.

I have added my candle too.

Fuddle - I third the extra spin too, I do a super fast spin after every wash and it really speeds the drying up.

Byatt - thats exactly it - I love the way you all get "it" better than I can express it!

gailey_2

Hi guys

not sure what i missed.

guess have lots catching up to do.

Think I last posted when hubby had new job.

hes been there 2months and settling in.
but been bit of upheaval with paydates changing.

I been busy with my 3kids.
baby is now 14months walking, climbing on everything very tiring. he also glares and frowns at me when i say no. but still lovley watching their little personalities develop even if I am sleep deprived.

Have thrown myself into trying to sort out my tip of house that seems to be shrinking.

so ruthlessly selling what I can-as need the money more
decluttering and binning stuff
giving some top charity.
decorating.

this ones a slow one also shoestring budget a challange.

im always on ebay looking for furniture local pickup that can be adapted.

have new dining table to pick up £10:)
brought the girls matching pair of beds from stroud which gave us the push to sort their room out.

we painted all nite, then hubby laid new floor,
the paint was white and free as part of samples when hubby worked in diy and the laminate was about 10pound to do whole room as was dicontinued staff discount so silly £2 a pack. it had been sitting in corner of my room for last 6months waiting to be done.

result is room looks lovley and cleared lots of clutter and it all matches.
decided to add colour with accessories.

looking for 2nd hand shelves on ebay
won a 2nd hand toy box that needs fixing.
sisters making them some artwork
and in going to start their patchwork quilts and cusions as a present for xmas.

The box room we got 2nd hand rug and its painted white, cheap laminate now looking for storage and toy box in white.

im selling some furniture that doesnt work with our scheme,
my rooms a tip want new cd storage and place to sew.
im sure will get there eventually.

wondering what couriers would pick up sofa as ours is wrecked.

have to start brewing my elderflower wine this week and some chutney, elders out early and its dads birthday so won a wicker hamper 99p plan to fill with loads hm treats.

hubby got payday wrong thourght was friday but actually monday.
so have mealplanned whats in cupboard and freezer-not a lot.
then rang dairy who at last min delivered me a special promo fruit and veg box and some extra basics with my milk tommorow bacon, eggs and cheese so feeling better can make it to monday now without hubby throwing a hissy fit over lentil and paxo burgers!

we off on hols thur.cant wait.
we dident goa way last year as had newborn.
this year we staying in freinds dads holiday home devon for less than a sun hols and will self cater , pack packed lunches every day so should be fab for long weekend girls very exited about the beach.

when i get back seriously need to refocus the grocery budget
starting applying for jobs again
want to go forage cherries as missed them last year
want to go strawberry and blackberry picking.

need to start thinkig about xmas. as want to do mostly homemade.

2012-so far havent really kept to resololutions.
its been hard financially but also seems to be never enough time.
this year we committed to more family time so made list of cheap and free days out over summer hols.

brought a family day out at castle for 5.50 on groupon for fathers day.
we went mini railway fathers day-free as won it last year at raffle in summer fete was waiting for nice weather.
doing few free museums/parks
still looking for cheap bikes.

so we have aplan just fitting it all in.

grandma247

:wave::wave:Hello gailey.



This is a nice article.

prepareathome

Lovely to see you back gailey - been wondering how you and your brood are doing, nice to know if not great at least you are all still trundling along.....its amazing how RL gets in the way of MSE it really is .

hugs, love and healing to all xxxxxxxxxxx

ginnyknit

Wow Gailey you have been busy, girls room sounds lovely, its amazing what you can achieve. Nice to hear from you, dont know how you do it all hugs ginny

Im having a peaceful day as OH has gone for a few hours fishing. Popped to Mr A and got a pizza for me and DS to have for tea with rice salad and HM salsa. Wanted a cream cake as a treat but even the whoopised ones were £1.29 for 4 so got 5 donuts for 69p and stuck squirty cream in them - voila :T Off to do some sewing ow, have done a bit of H/w ...euch..boring :rotfl:

Smileyt, Im sure Bruno thought your chair had done something wrong as he destroyed it, you know he loves his mummy and ws just saving you from the chair monster

Byatt

Gailey, lovely to have you back! As for resolutions mine fell by the wayside about 2 hours into the 2012!

Ginny, what a good idea with the donuts and squirty cream. Enjoy!

Smiley, didn't Bruno wreck one of you cushions not so long ago? Our older boxer was like that. She could wreck a room in 5 minutes. Maybe Docky can have a word with him? Thanks for your support regarding my DD, I suffer from anxiety too so know how debilitating it is...

sad to say she had an emotional breakdown today, the good part about it was it was in front of her support so they are trying to put things in place plus she is having a mental health assessment tomorrow from her consultant. Amazing what can be done sometimes.

I feel dreadful for her. I just feel if she had her home with "us" still she would be so much better, but then, that's cloud cuckoo land....she's gone through so much loss in her life (she's adopted by me), that the break up of the marriage hit her hard. It hit me hard too and I was not much use for 2 years.

Life sucks at times, and the worst part is seeing the person you most love in the world being unhappy.

I lit my candle, thanks Mardy for that. I thought I had lit one, but my internet is playing up, so had to try another one!

Anyway, back to the decluttering, trying to decide do I really need umpteen plastic conatiners???