A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

maryb

I have hair that's almost white at the front and black at the back. So I couldn't go nondescript blonde which is how most women disguise lightis coloured hair because of the black bits and I couldn't go dark because I had white roots within a week. So I have been au naturel for many years.

About a year ago, I thought that as the black tideline has been retreating over the years so it's a much bigger proportion of grey, I would have it dyed. Hated it, hated it!!

I can really recommend ColourB4 in those circumstances. It takes out any dark dye from white or grey hair really well. Unfortunately, because most dyes (even semi permanents) have some peroxide in, the hair that was originally dark was left a sort of reddish colour. So I had to use Level 1 colour (the sort that washes out in 8 shampoos but has no peroxide) until it grew out. Didn't take that long as I have short hair. Then one more application of ColourB4 to take out the remains of the non permanent on the recent growth and I was back to au naturel. Where I intend to stay

fuddle

When you say your grandparents were saying it was very common to dye hair etc are these grandma's of working class kind of background too? I remember so fondly my own grandma. A very working class lady (grandad was a miner) in slippers, apron/overall, tissue in pocket and trip to the hair dressers to get her hair set every couple of weeks. I remember her willing some grey hair to adorn her head because she hated the fact she was in her 70's and still dark brown. I often wondered why she would be mortified at people thinking she dyed away her grey hair. Now I get it! Ta

mcculloch29

Hello there *waves at friends from other threads*.

I was looking at my sofa the other day - it's cream leather, used to have a matching armchair but I replaced that with a (leather) riser recliner. It still looks good, and is around 16 years old. I bought it as I wanted something that would wipe clean with childminded children, they are long gone and the grandchildren are too old for sticky messes too. What a great investment.
A great use for unwanted baby/body lotion /body butter is as leather cleaner, by the way.
As well as Aldi's hair colour, the pound shop/Wilko £1 dyes are fine. And a darn sight better than all the new style foams. Two different brands of those turned my hair black instead of mid-brown.
All the Aldi beauty range is just the bees' knees though and such FANTASTIC value. I just wish the specials would come round a bit more often. I bought the hydro urea foot cream recently and I know the two tubes won't last until the next time it's on; nothing else is as good.

short_bird

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Now, a bleached-blonde with dark roots truly is trollop-looking.

Unless you're Debbie Harry!:rotfl:

Byatt

Talking of driving around in PJ's...(VJs mum)...I did this late one night in search of a shop/garage open so I could buy some juice...I was desperate for a drink and as I had to pick DD up from an outing, I thought I would trawl around. After the 3rd drive in to a garage which was not open, I was pulling away when a police car pulled me over. Police woman came to my window and asked what I was doing...me: "uuuhhmm, I'm desperate for a drink and was driving around to see if somewhere was open..." :eek: I was also wearing slippers and was thinking if she asks me to get out is it illegal to drive in slippers...:o

I'm in the process of considering whether to let my dyed hair grow out, it's well on its way and I'm now an assortment of dyed red on the ends, brownish (which is natural), stray highlights which I do love and grey/silver. I dye my eyebrows every now and then because they are so fair. And were plucked to within an inch of their lives back in the 70's.

My DD has become a bleached blonde with pink highlights! She never did subtle. :rotfl:

I did have botox and fillers when my ex first left. Something of a crisis moment about my age, and loved the results, but never did it again, way too expensive and painful. I've had crisis moments over the years since but am settling happily into my face now. The biggest thing I need to do is lose weight. As much for health reasons as anything.

My mum right up until she died was very particular about her appearance and hair especially. I think I was a bit of a disappointment to her as I became less interested in make up etc. She had it dyed, those purple, bluey colours and always went for a perm when she was younger or did it herself at home. Do you recall the awful smell of home perms?!

PAH, thanks for your post about the cases, I can't do a lot as it's ex's insurance (I just took out medical for DD), and he's not known for action. But I've passed on your advice about the police etc. That's all I can do. I think the police should be told, I know they don't know which part is the guilty side, Palma or here, but at least if enough people complain, there should be a way of finding out. What if DD had lost her meds on the way there?! Doesn't bear thinking about. I told her to carry them on her at all times and not put them in her case, but she didn't listen.

I am sounding naggy already and trying to stop.

Went out this morning, the first time in a week. (I think, I've lost track). Really quite warm. Popped into Dr's for blood test, then vets with Bess' sample to check if she is diabetic,(the vet gave me a nifty little container thing which worked a treat, although Bess was wondering why I kept following her around the garden, and wouldn't do anything at first!) then a trawl of the charity shops but missed out on one thing as I put it back another woman grabbed it...oh well, never mind. Then the library for something to read so I don't think too much (:T )and then the recycling shop, but nothing there caught my eye, off to opticians to pick up new glasses, amazingly good vision now, and the bread shop for a couple of rolls and an eccles cake, down to Mr T's to pick up a couple of items from T Direct, and then to the pet shop so Bess could have a wander amongst the toys, bought her senior meat and some treats and then home. Amazing what a bit of sun does for you.

A parcel had arrived also. I bought a Frilich (sp?) cheese/butchers block (usually used in the hotel industry) and it weighs a lot, very heavy item, off fleabay, for a much reduced price. It's not a huge one, but absolutely stunning, better than the picture. It's my early birthday present, especially as I can't go to Cardiff now.

edit, I never did the clubbing scene, over-strict parents, although I must admit they didn't know for the most part what I got up to. There was a short period when they didn't show any interest at all, but I never had the money as mum took all my wages and I had pocket money which had to pay for everything. Then I got married, still helping support my family, so not much fun there either. I'm hoping my "golden years" will be a little more pleasurable, but like many of you, I prefer a good book, good company and good food and maybe a glass or two of wine/whisky (funny how your preferences change, I used to hate whisky but have a real enjoyment of a glass now).

prepareathome

Ho hum life is sure full of surprises. Son popped in before - which was a surprise as he should have been at work - to borrow lawn mower, we have a petrol one which I cannot start and they only have a small electric one. He informed me that he will be moving back home soon and can I clear out the study - which I admit has become a dumping ground, there is a path to pc desk and boiler and that is it. Last week when he screwed up money big time and we had to use all our spare ( well not really spare as cannot go shopping till next week now and didn't get to my dads stone setting yesterday up in Glasgow) to help them out if not he would have had massive bank charges for unauthorised overdraft or balliffs taking their goods, this was apparently the last straw and got to admit I am with DIL over this, as unfortunately he is becoming more and more like his dad every day, although unlike hubby who can be persuaded to do things son is very, very stubborn and will cut off his nose despite his face, hence bailiffs having to be paid off ( a fine for driving through a red light he felt he should not have got so refused to pay went to baliffs so he then the fine but said not paying bailiffs and thought if he wanted them to vanish in a puff of smoke they would, of course they didn't.

I told him he can come back of course would not have him out in the street but if he can sort out study - he then proceeds to tell me I should get rid of this and that so stuff from study can be put in it - I started a store cupboard last year when we had the extra money, of course then hubbys hours were promptly cut so we have had to dig into it but still have one 5 shelf bookcase full of tins plus a few big plastic boxes. Can see fun times ahead and if hubby doesn't intervene ( he has a habit of saying if kids bothering me in some way, 'well they are not doing anything to me so why should I say anything, that goes back to day one of having kids) I can see me telling the pair of them to go and get a place together. DIL has been on phone a few times asking me for advice and help to deal with son as she knows I will not just side with him because he is my son, if he is in the wrong I say so, but tried talking to him and got shouted down and told not to interfere, but he has just got so lazy and admits he expects DIL to do everything at home and he should come in with his meal ready then kids should go straight to bed by 7pm so he can relax and play on his x-box or watch tv, hubby did try that one years ago and was kicked out for his trouble and spent two weeks at his mums with her telling him how disgusted she was with him.

My fault in a way as when well I was the type who enjoyed doing everything, I knew it was done way I wanted it and I had the energy to do it. I did teach all my three how to cook, clean and generally run a home so not as if son cannot do it.

He has tried it seems to get a place but his credit score is shot and no-one will rent to him privately and HA places are like gold dust as the knocked a lot of the flats down and put houses in their place so less properties.

Oh well will just have to see what happens, feel really tired as pottered around outside, woman not appeared for turf but someone else is coming tomorrow morning. As my Vit D levels were non existent earlier in the year I stayed outside in back for an hour in sleeves top to try and bring them up ( I take a high dose capsule of it once a month now) to see if that helps the tiredness I have had past week as I know it can be a sign of it but now I have got to go and have a doze which I hate doing, rather not sleep at all during the day even for a nap, but achy and so tired. Hubby is doing a full day today - but off tomorrow, so undoes the overtime of today and will be grumpy when he gets in as he will be hot and sweaty and tired as he started work at 6am.

Grrrrr I am going to swing for car drivers soon - they are putting new gas mains in on road and for past four weeks have had traffic lights on road as traffic can only move one way at a time and they are just a few hundred yards for my house so cars back up past me and if someone doesn't move off quick enough when lights turn green they hit the horn, sometimes those at back are doing this even when light is on red for them and the noise is giving me a headache.

Sorry for the moaning, here was me hoping not to be a moaning minnie for a bit.

hugs and love to all xxxx

Byatt

PAH, it doesn't rain but it pours. I know you say he can't rent privately because of his credit score, but it may be worth having a chat with an agent or two, as he is in work.

I'd make sure he contributes to the household if he does move in and don't let him dictate to you what you should do in your own home. He's the one who needs the help so he needs to suck it up. If he was made "homeless" would the HA home him, initially in a hostel, but then later he may be able to get a place.

He's very lucky to have you and that you are able to help him. Don't want to sound like a whinger, but I didn't have any help with anything, and even when it came down to the possibility of having to sleep in the car, I was on my own. But I'm ok, I survived. Remember he's an adult and he's made choices, and just because they didn't turn out well, doesn't mean you have to bail him out financially.

xxxxxx

fuddle

Aw so much going on with you PAH. There's houses on gumtree that are up for rent by people. Many of them on there aren't through agents so it may be worth a look.

If you can't moan here where can you moan an by typing it all down, it gets it out and might just help you.

SDG31000

PAH I hate to say it, but it's now your turn to do what your MIL did. Tell him that he is now responsible for someone other than himself and that it is time for him to grow a pair and take responsibility for his actions. No more bailing him out, no putting up with him telling you what to do in YOUR house and that shouting at you is in no way acceptable and if he tries it, he is out on his ear if he has anywhere to go or not.
Sorry it that is harsh, but as Byatt has said, he is an adult now. He can't grab all the fun stuff that goes with that while ignoring all the hard/bad stuff. You aren't helping him by bailing him out. Help DIL and your grandchildren by all means, but I like the plan of getting your DH and DS to get a place together. Point out to your DH that your son had to learn his attitude from somewhere and all fingers are pointing at him so he can deal with it.

Good luck....

(Sorry if I've overstepped my boundries and if I have said too much)

Molly41

GreyQueen wrote: »

They never do it twice, believe me.....:rotfl:I think if I did dye my hair, I'll wait until it's completely white and then do something rather amusing with the blank canvas like pink. Haven't had my hair pink for 30-odd years. Or perhaps green. I have form for both colours.

I was very ill a couple of years ago and my hair went grey overnight - literally it does happen :eek::eek: Anyhow it gave me a good chance to change colours and I tried cerise pink and red amongst a few. I am now quite a brassy blonde colour and loving it:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Maybe if the transition had been gradual but it was too much for me. I love visiting my hairdresser who is very MSE as she charges at least half the price of salons.