A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

Hobsons_Choice

prepareathome wrote: »

Being cheeky, not read posts today yet but popping into to ask for good vibes, nothing major, totally selfish, its just for a bit more energy - I MUST put the new topsoil and compost on the ground where fruit bushes are going then plant them as I discovered last night when hubby at last brought the bags round from side of house for me to back that one of the bushes is budding, but it cannot stay where it is, about 12 bushes all crammed into a big pot where I put them when they arrived in Dec so they must go in ground today. Annoyingly I have doctors at 4pm so cannot take my time and stretch it out all afternoon and be to late afterwards. Its dull and overcast not inspiring enough to give me energy............right will catch up later I promise

Hugs to all

Hope all goes well with the planting, just try and pace yourself as much as possible and never be afraid to ask for help!
It's dull and overcast here as well, I've got to motivate myself to put aside the library book and go into town (probably to get a NEW library book)! I'm also feeling unmotivated today, but am prepared to give away some good vibes to you :j...and all the best for your doctors appointment as well.
Hey Ho....lunch, a strong cuppa then off I go (slowly, oh so slowly).

kidcat

PAH - sending good wishes

had a shock last night when DD logged onto facebook to discover an old friends dad had died, the couple were friends of ours but we had sort of lost touch a couple of years back, I dropped in with a card this morning and spent a little time with her, promising to keep in better touch.

Gailey - well done on managing the party, we in full scale party prep mode for first party on Sunday - its a disco/games type thing with 35kids coming, have been busy buying stuff for party bags etc. have finished present shopping for DD5 and only have a few bits for Ds7 to buy. Am planning on making up the sweetie bags for both parties tomorrow to get ahead, just finished wrapping DD presents, will wrap DS presents later in week as his party still two weeks away.
I bought laptops for ours cheaper than netbooks from a refurb site - I will PM the site to you if you would like.

Cheapskate

Afternoon all - can I join in with you?

Not had very much time or energy for anything online for a few months - GC/most things OS gone completely pear-shaped, too! - all sorts of stuff carp around here, grown-up DS/DD with all sorts of problems, low morale at work, feel so tired/depressed all the time.

Our budget's going to have to tighten again - gas/electric going up in March, council tax/water always up, too, TC will be going down a bit as I told them our estimated income will be more - it's never-ending!

Not read through whole thread, but I feel for all of you going through worse than us - thinking of you all!

Hope you don't mind me popping in - will try to come more often as I need to get back on the MSE/OS bandwagon again!

A xo

grandma247

((Hugs )) kidcat

prepareathome

Thanks everyone, 10 fruit bushes now sit in their fruit cage, although dopey me I realised when I was in the shower I had not watered them, but to tired now so will do it when I get back from doctors, how dopey can you get not watering in plants. Next is to clear the other side of the garden for the strawberry and Rhubarb plants - have had them in pots but as I go more and now not growing vegetables in the pots this year can give them more room in the ground. Need to get to garden centre and pay for more top soil and compost for my raised beds as used up the last bag of compost but still have 4 of top soil - they charge £5 to deliver no matter the amount and the driver knows where they go at side of house so even if not in he puts them in place which is great. Its so overcast and looks as if it might rain any moment but bet if it does it will wait till I have watered the fruit bushes. Must remember to get hubby to take me to wilki$sons as read somewhere on here they have the chicken manure in again, couldn't get any last year and I find it really is great for all my plants. Definitely not cold out there, less than 5 mins out there I was in tee-shirt again.

I have a secret wish to have chickens, but with back garden being so tiny I cannot have them there, but don't tell the council or conservation people I am hoping if the 100 mixed hedges I have had planted last November all take and grow and grow ( they won't block light for anyone) I can sneak a chicken house and run onto side garden. City byelaws do allow you to have chickens but knowing the conservation people they would say it doesn't fit in with the area, ( heaven knows why its a conservation area nothing fancy or special about it) but if I have nice 12ft hedges they won't be able to see them and as I live on a fairly busy road into the city no-one can really complain about the noise.

Gailey parents not RSVP is very so common, I used to just cater for full amount and see who turned up, as occasionally you would get a parent saying oh sorry child cannot come as we are going somewhere then on the day the child did turn up as they made their parents a life a misery until they were allowed to go. I used to make up little parcels of any spare gifts from party bags and have a quick game of pass the parcel or like even in changing rooms if a swimming party. At our school it was always the whole year that was invited, daughter always wanted a fancy party but one son only ever wanted football parties ( so would hire a sports hall) and other son swimming and then outings to somewhere interesting, but then we had to limit numbers, as he loathes football.

Grandma247 sending hugs and love to your daughters friend as well as your daughter and you.

More4less sending you lots of love, to lose a granddaughter I think must be even worse than losing a child, I doubt I could cope with it at all, losing my daughter was enough, but a grandchild my heart goes out to your daughter and how lovely she sends the Buzzards to you.

Madartha I hope you start to pick up soon and your gall-bladders flare goes, it does my dads flared up on and off for many years - they did offer to remove it eventually but he couldn't face the op.

Kidcat sorry to hear about your friend, a shock as he must have been so young, Love and hugs to you all and sending healing vibes to the family.

Byatt has the black dog found a new home yet, I usually find that the Vit D works very quickly usually if not been depressed for to long, like last week depressed for a couple of days but took it and already felt brighter the next day and now feel really good - its almost like a happy pill. Hubby was a bit down so have put him on it and he has brightened up only I don't give him to many of the Vit D with calcium as that can build up ( calcium) in a mans er um bits and he already had a calcium stone down there a few years ago ( found a lump and had to have a scan of his bits and they found it was calcium and used sonics to break it up). I taught him and the boys how to check themselves long ago and remind them now and again to do it in the shower, so many men don't bother. I usually get 'oh Mum' from the boys but they tell me they are doing it. How is your daughter dealing with the shock of the death of her doctor? Sending her and you my love.

Welcome any newbies here you will find these are the best bunch of people on the net, not just on MSE.

Right got a bit of energy to go and have a cup of tea, then have to get dressed as drs is 4pm - be giving her the news of me stopping smoking, that should shock her, but she never was on and on at me about stopping I think she felt I had enough to be going on with.

If missed anyone I am sorry but hugs and love to all

paidinchickens

Grandma and Kidcat Big fat squishy hugs sent your way


Don't know what has happened to my computer this morning as the arrow thingymebob on screen has had a mind of its own, every time I moved it the thing slowly moved across the screen by itself :eek::eek: Have I got gremlins???

Switched it off and on a couple of times and still no different so got DH to take me to the local CS as I really need to get out of the house. Got there, sat on the sofa they had for sale, had a quick chat with the lady who works there then had to go back to the car as I could hardly walk :mad: On the plus side when I got back the computer was working :cool:

DH has bought some tool thing off eb*y which was delivered damaged and the blokey is refusing to pay the return postage which means we are going to be £12 out of pocket sending something back to get the original purchase and postage price back :mad: when I sell anything I always pay the return postage if it is faulty as I would hate to think I was ripping people off, I don't know how these people live with themselves.

DH is back at the doctors tomorrow, the stress from the mega beast at work has nearly pushed him over the edge. Today a bloke from work popped round in his dinner hour to tell DH how bad it is at work and that she is gunning for him as well. This blokey has been made redundant (forces) and has little time left and has told hubby he will write a statement saying about the bullying tactics this woman is using as he has nothing to lose. She has turned round and said anyone on a medical downgrade can work all the late shifts :eek::eek: and they can do other duties the doctor has signed them off for as she has called them something else (can't be too exact sorry) surely this is harassment? DH has reduced hours due to his illness and they have bullied him and even asked the doctor to get him back full time sooner than she had signed it for. He has been picked on everyday for having reduced hours.

Can't go higher up as she has them all under her thumb. DH keeps passing out from stress and the doc sent him to talk to someone else on a different chain of command and basically his only options are to go for a medical discharge or stand and fight through a bullying and harassment suit. He is not capable of doing this so gawd knows what are options are. He has two years left until he comes out and does not fit the criteria for redundancy.

I said don't worry as if he had to come out I would go back to work (after having a year out after car accident) but I am in bits myself as you know. I have spoken to my friends mum who has the same degenerative bone disorder and nerve damage etc as I do and she said no painkillers or ops have made any difference to her :eek: So I am sat here thinking great is this my lot forever then?

Gawd knows what we will have to live on at this rate as the kids can't even find a paper round

This sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself doesn't it? I am not just putting it out there for advice. Sorry if this is too much info .......put me on ignore its safer for your own health :rotfl::rotfl:

Forgot to say last week I had an offer of £4200 for the car accident, the solicitors advised me to reject it as it is know where near what it should be but I don't want to fight in court I just want an end to it. This will pay off our credit cards etc and leave £1000 spare so will be looking into the best place for that to go.


PIC x

grandma247

PIC I was told there are usually three offers and if you don't want to go to court take the second offer.
I am waiting to see what happens with mine.
I had a phone call today to say I can have two more physio sessions so that is a good thing.
I am having a lot less problems with my neck and shoulders so hopefully when this is over I will be almost back to normal.

bupster

PIC, don't take the first offer. It's much less than they're expecting to pay out - it's just the first move in a game that has a predictable form. Listen to your solicitor - explain you don't want to go to court, they'll understand.

kidcat

PIc - first offer is always a low ball - I know I used to handle car claims, you can instruct your solicitor to make a counter offer and see where you meet, odds are if your solicitor is good at negotiating you will meet in middle - so make sure he starts high!! If you do end up in court its not like crown court, its actually just a room with a judge, typist and both sides legal counsel, judge will really just ask to to tell him your story, he may then have a few questions about medical stuff but then he will throw everyone out, make his decision and call you back. Its quick painless and they are usually very sympathetic. He will be looking to see that you havent turned down proper offers and wasted time, but if your solicitor says its worth much more then that wont be an issue.
basically if you turned down eg £2000 and it was only worth £2100 he wouldnt be too pleased otherwise its fine.
I handled a claim for my husband and we went to court (didnt have solicitor), as I knew the going rates I was confident the offer was low, judge was exceptionally nice and as they had dragged it out over two years (I was pregnant when we went in) he awarded not just our insurance costs but also costs for attending, interest on having to borrow money to account for missing wages whilst off, he also added on a days pay for having to use a days holiday to attend court, then to add insult to insurance side - he added extra to buy us " a jolly good lunch". The insurance solicitor was bright red and seething, I did point out that I would have accepted less in negotiation rather than go to court.

YOur solicitor will have a good idea of what its worth if he does car claims regularly so listen to his advice and be guided by his figures. Remember you will have suffered substantial losses as a result of the accident not just injuries the idea is that you should recover all those costs (prescriptions, pain meds, just to mention a few)

Mrs_Chip

Afternoon Everyone

Good vibes for those needing them - Kidcat and Grandma particularly, but they are on offer generally for those in need. PAH - well done at getting the bushes in, what sort are they?

We exchanged contract today. No going back now! We have decided to use a removal firm - trying to shift the sofa yesterday confirmed that anything else would be utter foolishness. Lady is coming on Wednesday morning, so need to tidy up - the house looks like squatters have moved in!

Pretty much finished clearing the loft - a horrible and dirty job, but lots of memories as much of the stuff was from when we were first married, and lived in our lovely flat. OH told me recently he never liked liked living there, but but I loved it.

Hope everyone has a Lovely evening!

ETA - just read the last few posts PIC- for sure listen to the good advice here, when you consided what you have been through, it is only right that you receive a fair and reasonable payment, don't settle for less!