A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

Byatt

7_week_wonder wrote: »

Ragz - the post could still be on a go slow, because don't forget both Monday and Tuesday were Bank Holidays, and I wouldn't bet on the bank using first class post.

Just a thought - could you tell your Granddad a wee white lie - that the cheque had been destroyed, and could he cancel it and send you another one?

Mardatha - we are definitely in danger of floating away here. I am so fed up of either howling gales or sleety rain ( mind you I see that next week we hit the jackpot and get both!). Immodium seems to be doing the trick, but I was very suprised at the cost.

I buy the cheap Tesco or other big store's brand, they are usually around a £1 for 6 capsules. I actually don't like Immodium or it doesn't work as well as the cheaper ones for me anyway.

Ragz, did Nat West actually say they were posted Christmas Eve? Or were they put in the post out tray or sack? When were they actually collected by the post office?

Had the not so good news from my DD that her dad will probably bring her home. It will be the first time he has been to her place and I know it's her place, but I hate the thought of him being there. Plus I will have to go and remove anything that could be traced to where I live.

Last day of the cat sitting, so hopefully will start on the tidying and decluttering tomorrow at my place. One of "my" cats is a loveable, purring moggy who rubs against me for cuddles...and then strikes!! :eek: He's managed to catch me with his claws each time; I am sucked in by his purring! Gloves might be a good idea next time :rotfl:

Byatt

kidcat wrote: »

I think that accepting and acknowledging that I am a full time carer is suddenly hitting me, not sure why now, it just is.

Kidcat, those moments come along at odd times; it's as if the mind is able to suddenly cope better with the reality; it's a drip drip thing. I know I would have optmistic, overly optimistic and reality checks at various times. Even now my dd is an adult I have optimistic moments some justified. I always aimed for the best scenario and involved her in many (if not all) activities and encouraged her to be independent (that sometimes comes back to bite me in the bvm!) and she has done many things; she has also been to Buckingham Palace (I wasn't invited :cool:) and spoken to Prince Phillip.

But it is hard work and a lot of worry even though done with love. :A

spinningsheep

I have sat and read all the xmas updates on the this thread this afternoon and I am hooked! I feel so humbled by the terrible experiences some of you have had to endure this xmas and really do extend my best wishes to all of you, lets hope 2012 is a better year for all.

gailey_2

kidcat wrote: »

Morning everyone, its pouring with rain here after gales yesterday.

Its been a long hard few days for us, and reading through it seems like its the same for us all.

Have been off visiting relatives past two days and DS7 has not taken to it at all and has really played up, leading to one very tired and stressed mummy. My parents both came to one but only my mum yesterday.
On the plus side I now have curtain rails over the french doors in the dining room:j:j but no curtains yet.
No wages in bank today and after Margarets post yesterday must admit to being slightly spooked, but OH assures me it will be tomorrow its just that they always pay late after a bank holiday.

Two nights ago, was devastated when DD5 cut off her long hair, (waist length) due to a random comment OH had made about her being like Rapunzel! I know in the whole scheme of things its not alot but it seemed like the last straw for me. Am feeling incredibly tired and down. Responsibility is weighing heavy at the moment and trying to explain it to OH is not getting anywhere - the fact is I am spending 24 hours a day caring for a family on top of which it includes two ASd kids, both of whom are incredibly difficult. And as DS7 now only responds to my authority - that means I do not get any break at all.

Ironically I took half an hour last night when littlies were in bed to visit my friend who has lost her mum, and felt useless as I just cried with her for the main part. We did talk through the arrangements and I have offered to help with anything and arranged to collect her youngest from school on funeral day. But whilst I was out there was a power outage and I had stupidly dropped my phone in car so was out of contact.

OH had no idea how to cope and ended up calling my dad to deal with it all. I was hoping it would show him that he is needs to be much more aware of stuff and involved with practicalities, but it led to him shouting at me for not being more organised!!

NOt sure how much more organised I can be - there are candles on living room window sill, bathroom window sill, on top of kitchen cupboards, in hall, ensuite and downstairs bathroom. Matches and lighters in kitchen drawer. The torches he has taken into loft and not returned (5 now!) Plug in phone in bedroom works and kids portable DVD player was charged in cupboard as normal.

I have told both him and eldest two where everything is its just unfortunate that DS13 has a memory issue that means he doesnt retain information and DD17 was out.

Sorry for the moan - off to drag kids to look at curtains - probably a recipe for disaster but the chills through the dining room are really bothering me.

Big hugs kidcat sounds like you going through rough time of it.
Cant remeber thourght you had 3kids is it more?
Must be so hard can anyone help lighten your load maybe babysit or run errands for you.

You sound like you need a nice glass of wine and soak in bath.

Hair will grow back in time.

What support you getting with the 2 with asd?
As maybe theres something overlooked that you not getting?
My stepson 13 not asd but very naughty now attends special educational unit and his mothers been offered respite foster care.
My brother was severly handicapped and went into respite.
Someone I know has disabled son who says respite such a help she loves him but sometimes she needs a break just to function.
maybe discuss with dh how best he can do to support you.

I get annoyed its always me up in the night.

Hope wages were sorted out

Your dad sounds bit harsh maybe an off day.
Im not that prepared for power cut have 1 xmas candle in lounge.
girls had torches for xmas they obsessed with them.
You sound like good freind.

It was me who mentioned sainsburys basic choc dessrt was 10p must have gone up by 2p hubby cant tell difference between that an angel delight.

Really worried about all value lines rising.

Another cheap but maybe not so healthy dessert is icecream and sprinkles.
farmfoods do pot with 4different sprinkles in choc and coloured ideal for baking too for £1 combined with £1 icecream and I love bananas in mine.

Founbd recipie for choic pears will post later. a good one if you have been given liquer as a present or have some floating about.

ragz/fuddle. Just wanted to say after 3rd baby was unhappy with weight was 12/14. started slimmiubg world in june and lost 1half stone have half stone to lose as december been bad month but 7lb left to target im now size 8-10 depending where I shop and much happier.
used the youngest 2baptism as date to aim for which was august.

Sammy k- Lovley to see you back.
wondered how you were did check your blog few months back.
See you been extreme couponing
sorry you not well

you always seem so busy and have huge lists try not overwhelm yourselves.

Maybe delegate to owen and give him deadlines as think men need pushing to do things at times know mine does.
Must be lovley to have big new house and space
Hope nasty hv kept away
hows your sister now is she better and taking better care of her kids?
Does stepson live with you?
cant believe baby is 17months old already.
my baby boy is now nearly 9months old.
My baby girl now 2years 3months
my eldest is 6 in feb.

re comps I do them on and off but never win so give up.
sometimes enter hundreds and nothing so think im jixed and give up.
How many you enter?
im going to try enter 10 a day in new year.
well done on bargains.

Im being strict on grocery challange this month as totally skint after xmas.

update on gailey household

Its raining here.
hubbys gone dentist to have tooth pulled out offered to go with him but he said no.

Been shopping this morning

went to local spar 1st got £6.20 reductions including 4chicken fillets for tonight 14p milk, bread, family size trifle 38p!

Then went lidls hubby and kids stayed in car.

Got few bits fruit, coffee, yogurts just the essentials.

Got orange juice to mix with free vodka we got given so thats new year sorted.

Few good deals in there food and non food.

some of xmas ranges had money off would have tempted if had spare cash.

Nice table and stools for 39.99!
sadly no room.

brought 13pints of milk dont know how long last amnaged to get through 10pints in last 2days!:eek:

Ahh went in boots some xmas stuff half price so going back next week in hope some stuff still be there to get some pressies for eldests birthday next month.

But self service omg took me half an hour to buy soluable aspirin for hubbys baadey teeth as medicinbes couldent go through teh new self serve! go pharamacy huge queue as everyone hates self serve go photo bit try persuade photo lady im not on suicide mission still refused me went back waited 15mins at pharmacy to be asked where did i get it this aspirins contraband and shouldent be on shelf!:rotfl:

So trying to sort out my messy house.
washing dirty im on top of agree drying it the problem.
luckily I have drier.

This maybe weird idea but you can get those pully saucepan rails that hang from ceiling maybe use them to hand laundry?
I hang on doors.
in uni loved the close hangers that hung off radiater might get myself some.

Anyone have any idea how expensive or difficult it would be if got new shed and put it directly nect to house at back to get electric to it?
Have to do something with dump of kitchen.
landlords coming round next week!

Have lots plan for house but sadly no money
so made a list what we need and hopefully by end 2012 we have it.
Bidding on new well used tv table on ebay:D

Sorted baby boys nursery out yesterday as hubby laid laminate as was £2 a pack as end of line and staff discount.
Our rooms done
just girls room and kitchen next.


last 2things

hubby drilled into wall and lost electrics in kitchen cost me £70 Sparkey.
cant remember if power went up or down?

cleaning as im on a mission.

latest lidls leaflet has something called

oven brite
sink brite

both on offer at £1.39 will go back in week and get some
my ovens mignin.

spinningsheep

GreyQueen that story about the pudding actually made me guffaw out loud! Priceless!

kidcat

Gailey- sheds are easy enough to put up, but need a good base, and it can be as expensive to put base down as to buy the shed. Also you need to consider whether landlord will be happy you digging up his garden for a shed base. We had a patio area at bottom of garden we have used, with new shed and another off freecycle. So not too bad cost wise. Downside is that we have to wander down garden in dark to get stuff.

lizzyb1812

Sammy-kaye - your youngest is how old? 17 months? Where the heck did that go? Welcome back by the way.

Re drills - I've got a Black & Decker cordless that is a drill/screwdriver/jigsaw/sander kit and I get on very well using it. My last use was to attach my lean-to greenhouse to the side of my house - me and a drill up a ladder :eek: Very proud of myself afterwards.

I wouldn't think cables would be running across the top of window frames so curtain rails etc should be OK to fix - I've not had any problems doing mine in the past.

EstherH

Sammy_kaye, lovely to see you back again.

I hadn't managed to read for a while and then when I came back read something about evoo. So a question - how much do I need to use? Do I need to massage it in for ages or will a quick rub in do?

Would be great if all I needed to do was rub a little olive oil in and wipe off with a warm damp flannel. No extras. Sounds too good to be true. Have I got it wrong?

Hugs to everyone having a hard time. Have quickly skimmed through so cant remember names, sorry.

Esther x

greenbee

EstherH wrote: »

I hadn't managed to read for a while and then when I came back read something about evoo. So a question - how much do I need to use? Do I need to massage it in for ages or will a quick rub in do?

Would be great if all I needed to do was rub a little olive oil in and wipe off with a warm damp flannel. No extras. Sounds too good to be true. Have I got it wrong?

That's all I do (well, I'm using flaxseed oil right now, as I'm not fussy) although I use very hot water on a muslin cloth.

dizzypink

Hi 7 week, hope your feeling better now. I think I may have had the same nasty little burger of a virus. Went on for 7 days before I went to the Dr. Got told not to bother with immodium, that it traps the virus. She said to force myself to eat little and often and that it is something to do with the good bacteria in the gut having been stripped out.

Nasty little thing has now left me low so I have caught hubbys cold, turned into a chest infection and n ow on antibiotics. Donating myself to the nearest glue factory, but hear even they are getting choosey.

GEt well soon

Dizzy