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My Sister.. Grrrrrrrrr
Dasa
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Anyone else got a sister like mine? She has got the best tv, the best dishwasher the best of anything. If you are getting a new one of anything then you should get the same as she has because its the best.
She goes to the best holidays and gets the best deal. She has the closest relationship out of everyone with everyone in the family.
She tells me over and over again how so and so confides in her, only wants her to do so and so for them over everyone else.
I can only put this down to her being insecure, but it really drives me to distraction. I came close today saying something to her about it and asking her why she does it but managed to keep it in because we are going through a bit of a family trauma right now.Anyone else with this problem?
She goes to the best holidays and gets the best deal. She has the closest relationship out of everyone with everyone in the family.
She tells me over and over again how so and so confides in her, only wants her to do so and so for them over everyone else.
I can only put this down to her being insecure, but it really drives me to distraction. I came close today saying something to her about it and asking her why she does it but managed to keep it in because we are going through a bit of a family trauma right now.Anyone else with this problem?
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I don't my sister is normal.0
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If you think you know what she's doing and why she has to do it I don't understand why you let it get to you. I don't have a sister like this but I do have a "friend" who behaves in exactly the same way. I just ignore her pontificating and oneupmanship because I really don't care what she thinks.0
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No.
My sisters are the two of the most wonderful women in the world and I'm privileged to have them in my life. They probably do have better dishwashers and holidays than me, but quite frankly, it's nothing in the big scheme of things."One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
Yes, to the point of when we got a new car went and bought a newer and better one. She stopped speaking to us as we had a baby and money cannot buy babies.
She is a stuck up pompous cow and if she had been someone I work with I would have no time whatsoever for her. So I don't. My life is so much easier.
I've always been seen as 'the black sheep' because my ex hit me and I obviosuly shamed the family, heaven help of the black sheep had something better than her. And she took constant pride in rubbing my face in it. You have to ask yourself if you would be happier without being subject to this kind of mental abuse from her - and if so, just cut her out of your life and get on with your's. Ignore the comments, she will soon get bored. It's relatively easy tbh and I leave them all to it now, I really have got my own life to be getting on with. My dad is exactly the same, I know full well where she get's it from. Do not speak to him either.
Saves me a fortune at Xmas. 0 -
BitterAndTwisted wrote: »If you think you know what she's doing and why she has to do it I don't understand why you let it get to you. I don't have a sister like this but I do have a "friend" who behaves in exactly the same way. I just ignore her pontificating and oneupmanship because I really don't care what she thinks.
I just find it so irritating.And today I feel she overstepped the mark when speaking to another member of the family.0 -
I have a family member who buys the same telly, phone, clothes, ipod, handbag, kitchen stuff as me. I just think that she doesn't have enough confidence to make up her own mind.Support your local community. Buy British.0
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No.
My sisters are the two of the most wonderful women in the world and I'm privileged to have them in my life. They probably do have better dishwashers and holidays than me, but quite frankly, it's nothing in the big scheme of things.
I am glad for you that you have such good sisters.
It's not she has better anything than me its the fact that she thinks everything she has is the best.0 -
Clearly she has such little self esteem 'things' have to make her feel important.
Maybe think of this the next time she starts and just say 'I do not need things to make me feel better than everyone else' and walk away.0 -
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I am glad for you that you have such good sisters.
It's not she has better anything than me its the fact that she thinks everything she has is the best.
I'm just being sensitve
My younger sister has been very unwell this year and it tends to focus your priorities quite sharply. My sisters both have the potential to drive me up the wall, but isn't that what they are there for? 
"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
blue_monkey wrote: »Yes, to the point of when we got a new car went and bought a newer and better one. She stopped speaking to us as we had a baby and money cannot buy babies.
She is a stuck up pompous cow and if she had been someone I work with I would have no time whatsoever for her. So I don't. My life is so much easier.
I've always been seen as 'the black sheep' because my ex hit me and I obviosuly shamed the family, heaven help of the black sheep had something better than her. And she took constant pride in rubbing my face in it. You have to ask yourself if you would be happier without being subject to this kind of mental abuse from her - and if so, just cut her out of your life and get on with your's. Ignore the comments, she will soon get bored. It's relatively easy tbh and I leave them all to it now, I really have got my own life to be getting on with. My dad is exactly the same, I know full well where she get's it from. Do not speak to him either.
Saves me a fortune at Xmas.
I must admit over the years I have seen less and less of her because of this.She really does not seem to realize what she is doing.
I am so tempted to pull her up on the latest one but unlike her I am aware of the bit of an fragile emotional state we are all in right now.0
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