The Compers Inn part 33

grannybiker

Grey & foggy here too, but heart considerably lightened by prospect of visit to adored ones . I know we were only there last weekend, but the baby changes so quickly & the older 2 are always so pleased to see us .
(Reckon daughter's glad of the break in routine too as hubby's away in Afghanistan and they only moved earlier this year- very little time to develop support networks )

sheils6

Morning all,

Shame you have to work Becks!

Not nice here either. Just won a Tassimo Brewer so really chuffed - been doing this comp so often I nearly missed the message saying I had won!
Enjoy your visit GB - my 2 older boys are coming home for Xmas so I am getting excited about that as I haven't seen them since last Xmas.

Have a lucky day everyone.

sheils x

princessmoneysaver

Morning all, it's so cold & foggy here this morning!

Amilucky?

Good Day all! :hello:

don't have time to read back - but hugs and kisses to those that need them

Oh what a night! I am soooo tired (click on the blue links for a few tunes)

just hand a nightmare of a night with Alice (Alice who the **** is Alice) as Chubby Brown might say :rotfl: she's my wife who I have been married to for 32 years who has Alzheimer's

the memory clinic said that with the clocks going back an hour and the dark nights setting in that I might have a few problems as the sundowners syndrome (not a music link) will start to kick in a lot earlier and boy where they right

she wanted to go to bed at 9:20pm last night said she was tired, I thought oh good I'll get some comping done put her to bed but 15 minutes later she said that she wanted to get up again as she wasn't tired

so we both sat up watching telly until about 11:30 pm when she said she was tired again I said I'm feeling a bit tired myself I'll come with you she said I'm not sleeping with you my son wouldnt like it if he knew that I was sleeping with other men!

so I put her to bed and had to sleep on the sofa again (3rd time this week) it must have been hours before I nodded off as I was so uncomfortable (too tired to comp but too awake to sleep)

about 3am she came into the front room and said that I had kidnapped her and was holding her against her will and that I should let her go home! she also said that there had been somebody walking about in her room and that they where trying to steal her money and that she had phoned the police (I knew she hadn't as she can't use the phone)

I made her a cup of tea and made myself a strong cup of coffee fired up the computer and started looking at single beds on the Argos website sat up with her until 3:30 am trying to calm her down and finally she said she wanted to go to bed

as she was getting back into bed I said where do you want me to sleep? she said in bed with me of course like you always do (she remembered who I was and called me by my first name)

6:00am was woken up again she was sat up rooting through her beside draws so I let her have a good root (as this seems to calm her down) until 6:30 and got her back in bed again for an couple of hours

8:30am back up got Alice showered and dressed and the day starts again at least during the day things calm down a bit and there is a sense of normality about the place

Alice is fast asleep in her chair now and therein lies the problem she sleeps to much during the day but as she is losing all sense of time I just let her sleep whenever she wants to, but I know the more she sleeps during the daytime will cause potential problems at night

sorry about the long post and maybe putting a downer on your day but for some reason getting things of my chest and telling someone seems to help me cope

nobody told me there would be day's "or" nights like these when I made my vows but I remember the lines "I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, and in sickness and in health"

having said the above I'm not quite sure who long I will be able to cope as it's getting a lot harder now as her illness is progressing quite quickly, may god give me strength so that I can carry on

gonna try and do some comping now so my apologies if I'm not back in the inn for a while but I wish you all the very

Best of Luck

bishopsgirl

Amilucky? I feel for you.

I am sure everyone in the Inn is happy for you to come in here and get things "off your chest" - glad it helps a little,

Take care.

sheils6

Really feel for you Amilucky? - don't often give hugs but heres a special one for you now. Good luck with the comping anyway and hope you continue to cope. Could some of your family not give you a little break and let you have a nice day out or something?

Amilucky?

sheils6 wrote: »

Really feel for you Amilucky? - don't often give hugs but heres a special one for you now. Good luck with the comping anyway and hope you continue to cope. Could some of your family not give you a little break and let you have a nice day out or something?

Thanks for the hugs bishopsgirl and sheils :A

I have lost touch with my side of the family but Alice dose have a son who comes down for a couple of hours a week on Thursday, we go out have a few drinks and shoot some pool while his girlfriend looks after Alice, she does her hair and they watch the soaps together

so I do get a bit of respite for a couple of hours a week they both work but they have both volunteered to help without being asked which is very good of them

Alice's son phoned last night to ask if we would like to go out for a meal on Christmas day which I gladly accepted

and they have both offered to stay with Alice for a week next year while I go gallivanting in China on the holiday that I won to Beijing which I'm still thinking about

we live in sheltered housing and the estate manger has said that if and when things get too bad she will arrange for some day care for Alice

so peeps are being supportive and helpful which is very nice

SavingJane

Big hugs to you, must be so hard, maybe someone could help within your family give you a break

Mrsd_2

Amilucky? had to respond to your post. The way you have written clearly show how much you love your wife. I can't even begin to comprehend how hard it must be, emotionally, mentally and physically. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job and I pray that when you need more support, it comes along. Don't ever feel discouraged from posting how you are feeling. We all need somewhere we can let out our feelings without fear of being judged. I'm always grateful for the fellowship I have at church but many times, internet forums have been the only thing between me and utter despair. I know it's not much consolation but please know that I have you and your wife in my thoughts x *~*~*~ There's a little sprinkling of comping dust x

Amilucky?

Mrsd wrote: »

Amilucky? had to respond to your post. The way you have written clearly show how much you love your wife. I can't even begin to comprehend how hard it must be, emotionally, mentally and physically. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job and I pray that when you need more support, it comes along. Don't ever feel discouraged from posting how you are feeling. We all need somewhere we can let out our feelings without fear of being judged. I'm always grateful for the fellowship I have at church but many times, internet forums have been the only thing between me and utter despair. I know it's not much consolation but please know that I have you and your wife in my thoughts x *~*~*~ There's a little sprinkling of comping dust x

Many thanks for your sentiments and for your lovely message mrsd they are very much appreciated

god bless you!