church problems- really disappointed

MaggieBaking

Fen1 wrote: »

Why not get married in a mosque or synagogue if you just want a pretty photo? Or is it only Christians that you feel like insulting?

How is it insulting christians?

Broadwood

split_second wrote: »

... and our church isnt the sort where you can just speak to the vicar directly (hope that makes sense)

.......Really? :eek:

Having spent the first 17 years of my life living in vicarages I can understand why you and others might think that. But believe me vicars and all clergy are human and subject to the same rules and laws as the rest of us peasants. Many of them, especially those ordained back in the old days just assume they are above us in the social order. Don't fall for that old trick.

Weddings are money spinners for cash-strapped churches so it would be odd nowadays for them not to welcome you with open arms wherever you live in or out of the parish.

P.S. Having been brainwashed as a youngster, I saw the scientific light and declared myself an atheist.;)

74jax

74jax wrote: »

And did you then get Christened, when you decided to in this church out of your parish or the one which you don't want to be married in but in your parish?

Sorry i'm just a bit confused.

I'd maybe have a word with the vicar at the church where you did get christened as an adult and see if he will marry you? I know it won't be the 'pretty' church you wanted, but would be less hypocritical maybe?

MaggieBaking wrote: »

I feel like a lot of people are being cruel here.

I can't help but wonder about the validity of certain choices, but I don't think it's my place to make snide comments on them.

Sorry I didn't mean to come across this way, I genuinely got a little bit lost with the posts from the OP and couldn't work out if she had been christened in the church they wanted or the church they lived closest too. I think I was confused because she said she'd been going regularly to church and just assumed (wrongly) it was because she had got christened. I didn't mean for it to be read as a snide comment, just I didn't actually know which church was which.

bubbles0169

She is a he, i don't understand why people think they are abusing the church, in this day and age its another building the same as any other, I chose my venue over my local town hall because of aesthetics I'm not abusing the town hal, as its been mentioned the church welcomes weddings they equal money which equal upkeep