Worried about friend's drinking

ada1988

what she frinks usual.you may talk to her for this thing.
I think you need tell her the shortcomings for drinking.
But if it's too commom it is fine.

Silaqui

I was in this situation myself.
During 6th Form, my friends and I used to go out and get hammered (yeah, I know...) before we knew our limits. I went to Uni, but the rest of my group stayed local and started work. As weI all grew up, the nights became still heavy, but less messy - as it tends to do when you only have the weekend off and you don't want to waste the whole of Sunday in bed!
It was clear that one girl was always the one that needed looking after. As your daughter has said, it spoilt the night every time - she would need dragging home, wet herself, etc etc. Gradually people stopped inviting her, and now we rarely see her on a friendship basis (aged 27ish now) although we still live in the same area. She does (IMO) have a problem, as she is often to be found in local pubs and has to be taken home by one person or another - it's fair enough to be down the pub for one after work every night, quite another to be blind drunk every night.
I often do feel guilty for 'abandoning' her, and I know one of my other friends who I'm still close to does too, but I honestly feel that we had no choice as she wouldn't help herself and there is only so much you can do.

It is early and they are still young - by the time we were 18/19 we'd been going out drinking for a while and knew our limits (to a certain extent!) - has your daughters friend maybe only just started to be allowed to drink? She could just be finding her feet. It's worth getting your daughter to talk to her and say how embarrassing it is, and how it has spoiled her night - chances are she'll be mortified and curb it a bit. If she doesn't, that might be the time to perhaps speak to parents.

I know the time when I realised my friend was beyond help was at about 9pm on a Wednesday night in the local pub when she staggered out of the toilets into the bar area with her knickers round her ankles shouting that there was no toilet paper... then couldn't remember it in the morning, shrugged when I told her,and went back there the next night.

Sugardonut

I think most people go through a phase in teens or twenties where they drink to excess, but the novelty soon wears off. She's young, at uni and enjoying the benefits of going out. Like most people she'll grow out of it, i'd keep an eye on it but i think it's too early to get her parents involved.

property.advert

Some people go off the rails a bit when they are first let off the parental leash and most sort themselves out. The first year of uni is a doddle and counts for nothing really so let her get on with it. Her peer group and your daughter will decide whether they want to keep her as a friend.