Saving the Date - what to include?

Torry_Quine

lisajane8482 wrote: »

Some people book holidays in advance so by sending save the dates you are, in effect, prebooking the date since invites are usually sent a few months before the wedding

If someone sent me something to save the date when the wedding isn't happening until for instance 2013 I wouldn't be rushing to mark it in my diary so that I keep it clear. Have no idea what I will be doing that far ahead and think it very self-centred to assume that I will put your day as my priority. If it falls about the time that I have to take my holidays then sorry but my time away comes first and no amount of advance notice would have made a difference.

I just think it makes little sense to me, then again I don't understand why people have such long engagements!

lisajane8482

Like I said I'm not posting mine until Christmas next year (7 months before our wedding), with the exception of the invites I'm sending to America after christmas as I have been requested to send them before April 2012.

lisajane8482

Torry_Quine wrote: »

If someone sent me something to save the date when the wedding isn't happening until for instance 2013 I wouldn't be rushing to mark it in my diary so that I keep it clear. Have no idea what I will be doing that far ahead and think it very self-centred to assume that I will put your day as my priority. If it falls about the time that I have to take my holidays then sorry but my time away comes first and no amount of advance notice would have made a difference.

I just think it makes little sense to me, then again I don't understand why people have such long engagements!

The guests that are invited to our wedding are family who I know would "keep it clear" and I really don't know how asking my family who I want to share my day is self centred and as I said I'm not actually sending them until next Christmas next year and TBH they all know we're getting married I just thought it would be nice to send them all a little reminder, but that's my choice.

Plus my family like stuff like that, they're a sentimental lot who like to keep keepsakes from weddings, birthdays etc

SaLoGo

I think it's down to each individual person to decide if or when they are sent out, it's all down to personal preference. I see mine more as an announcement than a 'I'm getting married on this date, don't book it for anything else'!

anmarj

we only sent ours to the day guests, only very immediate family knew of our plans to get married (sister and her hubby were having loads of trips to do with work and mum need to save), so we used the save the dates to let the "outer family" memebers know of our plans:p

NoAngel

I agree, only to day guests. Let them know the date. I've also put the venue on mine, to make people aware whether or not it's a long journey and whether they feel they'd need an overnight stay. It's just handy to know!

74jax

I think if I received a save the date, I would have thought it was for the wedding itself. So if it isn't then I think you should stipulate this, to avoid confusion.

findingmyownway

I wouldn't expect someone I was just inviting to the evening do to bother 'saving the date' particularly. Fair enough if you'd like them to keep the whole day free, but IMO holidays and other things in THEIR lives come before an 'evening do'.

74jax

findingmyownway wrote: »

I wouldn't expect someone I was just inviting to the evening do to bother 'saving the date' particularly. Fair enough if you'd like them to keep the whole day free, but IMO holidays and other things in THEIR lives come before an 'evening do'.

This is what I was meaning, but you put it so much better than me

Dekazer

We sent to both day and evening, as our date is very close to Xmas and I expect it to get booked up. We gave many out by hand over summer, as and when we saw people, and emailed the remainder (a photo of the paper version) in early September.

Wording for all day guests was

We hope that you can save the date to join us on our Wedding Day on Saturday 17th December in [area], West London.

Full invitation and venue details to follow. In the meantime, if you have any questions about travel or accommodation please don't hesitate to get in touch.

As number are limited we would be grateful if you could let us know if you are unable to come. Thank you.

Deks and Mr Deks xxx

Wording for evening guests was:

We hope you can save the date to join us for our Wedding Reception on Saturday 17th December 2011 in [area], West London.

Full invitation and venue details to follow. In the meantime, if you have any questions about travel or accommodation please don't hesitate to get in touch.


Deks and Mr Deks xxx


So far the only slight drawback has been that a few people RSVPed to the Save the Date and then not to the subsequent invitation, but it's no biggie.

Hope that helps!