Sat here in tears at the thought of work...

Keeping_Positive

Are you paid sick pay? I think a week or two off work would help and give you time to speak to the union and occupational health if you have that. I recently broke down and it happened a few years ago both times I needed a short amount of time off to be able to refocus.

lilac_lady

The next time she belittles you or treats you differently from the other staff, ask her if she could find out more about the bullying and harrassment policies of your workplace.

Don't explain why, just leave her to think about why you asked this.

patman99

You are never alone. There will always be support from your fellow MSE'ers. I knowhat it is like to be bullied at work. Luckily, my union was very good at backing me up.

CFC

Your very first step is to ask for a meeting with her. In that meeting tell her the way you feel. Don't argue about the facts - even if you are wrong on every single factual point of policy or procedure, that's not the point. The point is the way you feel. Tell her it makes you feel belittled when she criticises you in public, and that you feel that you don't have a very good working relationship and ask how it could be improved between the two of you.

If that doesn't work, then keep your notes and go down a grievance procedure. If you have never indicated that you don't like it, she is never going to stop it.

top_drawer_2

You poor thing; this women has erroded your confidence to such a stage that she has made you feel that your opinions and feelings are not valid.

Please embark on a be nice to yourself strategy - 30 mins for you at least every other day. I was bullied by a housemate for a long period of time in a similar way you are describing; by the end I was so tied up in knots that I couldnt express myself properly and she exprtly made it look like I was the problem.

Building self-esteem and confidence is a long road but it suddenly clicks and the effects are like a ripple.

Jen

Sublime_2

Nothing much to add, but wish you well with this. I had this once in my early 20's. Nothing concrete, just constant criticism. Things came to a head one day, and I literally saw red for the first time in my life. It took a lot of will-power to remain seated, instead of grabbing hold of the woman and.... I succeeded though, just!

Speak to your union. Its your supervisor who's at fault, not you, no matter how inadequate she makes you feel. You'll be able to smile when matters are dealt with officially. x

Savvy_Sue

nottslass wrote: »

The latest thing was allocation of AL over the xmas period - everyone else had all their requests granted,except me !!
She sent a email asking for xmas AL requests, I replied 19 min later with my request,a week later everyone received an email saying that it had all been allocated and hey presto everyone else got theirs except me - the excuse being that it was on a first come first served basis and mine apparently didn't constitute a request because I put "I'd like xyz off,if possible"

added my own emphasis - I know some think that your 'if possible' gave her an out, but how could that NOT be understood as a request? I'd say that that, and the public reprimands, were well enough to raise a grievance.

brightonman123

reading OP at first go, made me think it was the Border Force guy...

heretolearn_2

You are not being pathetic at all.

I was bullied at work by a supervisor (not even MY supervisor!) for 2 years and the management refused to do anything, although they agreed there was a problem but told me to just 'ignore it'. It made my life hell and dragged me down terribly. I had no confidence to get another job so you are coping with it better than I did - keep applying and trying and you'll get there.

In the end I was made redundant and got a job within a couple of months and never looked back.

It's not you, you don't deserve this, some people are just mean.

One little thing that helped me a bit was something a friend told me on the situation - it's mind over matter, you don't mind because they don't matter! and that helped me keep my chin up a little bit some days, thinking that 'they don't matter!'.

j.e.j.

I think Jen is right, - this person seems to have got you to the stage where you're doubting the validity of your own feelings and judgement. Reprimanding you in front of patients is pretty unprofessional, and I think it might be worth registering a comment higher up (but maybe not with her own boss if they think she can 'do no wrong'). Mention that even the patients are commenting that she is rude to you. They might be more inclined to address a 'customer care' issue than a bullying issue, which they might just try and dismiss as a personality clash.
Just my thoughts