What time is reasonable for a 15yr old to be home in the evening

rev229

Any opinions on this. my nearly 15yr old has to be home 8.30 weeknight, 9pm school holidays and weekends extented to 9.30 then if at a friends house. Both DH and I get up a 5am every day so are in bed at 10pm. Are we unreasonable. DS comes home from school, dumps bag and goes refused to come back for dinner but hets it in the microwave later. He is hanging out with his mates, some undesirable!!!:eek: Thanks

lilac_lady

I'd give him another 30 minutes on each curfew. 9pm weekdays and 10pm for the rest. As far as the other stuff, it's because he's a teenager!

HappyMJ

9pm is a bit late for a school night. I'd leave it at 8.30pm but no punishment if he's in before 9pm.

angelil

My curfew at that age was 10pm at the weekends. Didn't really have a curfew in the week per se - I was always involved in so many school activities that I was quite often at rehearsals etc until 6pm or so anyway. After that I would come home for dinner and homework - but then again I also didn't have much choice as school was a 10-15 minute car ride away and public transport links weren't great. I would be inclined to agree with the others and say 8.30 in the week is ideal, 9pm should be the absolute latest. Out of interest, does he get his homework done?

milliebear00001

When I was 15, i had to be in at 9pm on a schoolnight and could stay out without a curfew at weekends, provided I rang my mum for a lift home (which meant no later than 1130!)

We didn't get up to much - mostly sat around in somebody's bedroom - until I discovered drinking and clubbing - but then I just stayed over at a friend's house and my parents were none the wiser!

Seanymph

My 15 year old lad is in bed for 9.30 - 10 (LATEST) weekdays. In that he knows he should be there for 9.30, but generally he starts heading just before and muddles around for half an hour! If he was out school nights I'd want him in by 9.

Weekends and holidays I'd want him in at 10 unless I knew he was at something particular - he went to fireworks with his sisters the other night, then around a friends with them so they stayed out until 11, but I knew where they were and they were all together.

POPPYOSCAR

I think to be out after that time on a regular basis is not a good thing, especially as at that age GCSEs are being taken.My Daughter comes home later if she is doing something in particular.

Weekends are a different thing, but he has to work around the needs of others in the family.

Try and work out a compromise with him.

rachbc

I would let him stay out later (9ish for school nights - 10/10.30 weekends) but only on condition he does homework before going out

Jinx

My daughter when 15 had to be in at 9.30 on a school night or a 'reasonable' time if doing something special. At the weekend it was 11pm or if she was being collected from somewhere it was midnight (eg a party). She did always have to text when she was leaving so I knew when she was expected in so I didn't stress. I might add she was always trustworthy and didn't stretch the boundaries so far so I was quite laid back...

BitterAndTwisted

How about giving an inch and extending the curfew by half an hour as long as he get his homework done? Add a couple of other conditions if you think it's fair.

moomoomama27

It all depends on what she's doing, if it's wandering the shops then by the time they close! I don't like kids wandering the streets hanging about for no reason.

If it's a planned thing on a school night I'd go to about 9-9.30pm as long as she's at a friends house or cinema. I would expect any homework done before she went out. Weekends again depends on where she is, but I wouldn't have a problem with 10.30pm.