Best way to ask for honeymoon money?

lisajane8482

This is the poem

"when thinking of a gift for us we ask if you'd please consider, contributing to our honeymoon to make it all the sweeter.
Our house is full of all the things a couple would require, and so a holiday away is what we most desire.
Then while we're relaxing on the beach or by the pool so blue, we'll sit back and know that it is truly thanks to you"

I was an evening guest to the wedding and it was in with the invitation.

littlemissnau41

I've seen http://www.zankyou.com/uk on a few of the wedding sites (Brides mag, etc) and am thinking of building our own honeymoon list, x amount towards flight, meal, trip, etc. The handling fee is 2.85% - A LOT cheaper than Paypal!! And if you only make 1 withdrawal, it's free - though if you make multiple withdrawals it can get expensive. Don't know if any brides on here have used it and can give some review/advice?

For me I think it is the way to go, I don't feel comfortable asking for cash but at the same time, don't want to make a list at JL or Debs for a load of stuff I don't want/need so I don't offend anyone.

NoAngel

I have the same question. I recently went to a wedding where the invite said 'no boxed gifts' which seemed quite abrupt. However some friends of ours asked for money towards their honeymoon which was fine and meant we knew the money that we gave went to good use.

Personally we're not mentioning it on the invites in the hope that people will ask us/parents and give money anyway. We don't really need anything else so want the money for our honeymoon ( as spending money as we will have already paid for the holiday as we leave 2 days later!)

tinker15

I haven't read every post on this thread but thought that I would put my experience here. I got married 19 years ago after living together for 4 years. I would have preferred to ask for money but it was frowned upon by the inlaws so we done a gift list for our guests. As of today I still have a Royal Doulton dinner set part complete & many other items that were on the list that to be honest have never been used. They sit in our loft as I do not want to be ungrateful and get rid of them.
If I were to do it again then it would definately be a lovely poem with perhaps a small list of items to keep the older relatives happy. I have given money at weddings and have always given a cheque rather than cash.

The most important part is that people attend rather than the value of money or gifts that they give and hopefully the majority of people realise this when they receive their invitation.

wanchai_2

kmmr wrote: »

I know. It's funny that we are ok with giving money, but don't like seeing it spent like that!

Worse was that there was no record being kept at the time of who gave what amount.

Thats even worse. What a terrible way to behave.

As I said, we give money unless there is a gift list. Where possible, I call to the bride's house with our card a few days before the wedding so that it doesn't get lost on the day.

At our wedding, I will want to know who gives what so that we can thank them properly. We certainly will not be opening any envelopes at the reception, we'll have paid for everything up front!!! :eek:

SaLoGo

My personal opinion is that I wouldn't like to ask for money with the invite and I wouldn't like to do a gift list. I would rather guests bring (if anything) whatever they see fit, be it a gift, vouchers or cash. To be honest, I'd just be grateful that they turn up at all... I have a fear my evening do will be a little sparse!

However, I wouldn't be offended if I received an invite that requested it. My cousin recently sent her invites out and they have put the details of a savings account into which guests can pay as much or as little as they wish towards their honeymoon.

wanchai_2

lisajane8482 wrote: »

This is the poem

"when thinking of a gift for us we ask if you'd please consider, contributing to our honeymoon to make it all the sweeter.
Our house is full of all the things a couple would require, and so a holiday away is what we most desire.
Then while we're relaxing on the beach or by the pool so blue, we'll sit back and know that it is truly thanks to you"

I was an evening guest to the wedding and it was in with the invitation.

You received a request for cash as an EVENING guest????????????????????

*goes for a little lie down*

MaggieBaking

wanchai wrote: »

You received a request for cash as an EVENING guest????????????????????

*goes for a little lie down*

I have been asked as well. I was pretty unimpressed and we bought them a personalised present instead.

lisajane8482

MaggieBaking wrote: »

I have been asked as well. I was pretty unimpressed and we bought them a personalised present instead.

I never really thought about it really, I know I personally wouldn't ask evening guests for a gift but everyones different. To be honest I'm not that bothered about gifts/money from even the day guests, I'll just be happy if everyone turns up on the day and night. I'll be even happier if my family abroad make it to the wedding (including my difficult aunt).

Jewelleryfan

MaggieBaking wrote: »

I have been asked as well. I was pretty unimpressed and we bought them a personalised present instead.

I've been asked for money as an evening guest and didn't really thibk anything of it so I wasn't sure if it was supposed to be done or not we have about 30 people coming in the evening and most are family so not sure about asking them or not, it's so tricky I might leave the evening invites with nothing and see what they say or ask