Ex missus wants to claim CSA off me

BARGAINHUNTER!

You play with fire there is a risk you will get burnt. Wait till the baby is born, get a test and if its yours pay up. If not - consider this a lesson well learn't and stick to girls your own age.

Shedo-kuru

Graham_Devon wrote:

No ones taking delight.

You tripped yourself over so many times its like watching a lemming on speed

If you had said 'My ex partner is trying to claim CSA off me, I think shes slept with others, where do I go from here' instead of saying you were raped while you were in a deep sleep, think paracetamol is the pill, had slept with a girl over 16, didnt want to 'pay' these fake adopters to take it all away etc I'm sure the thread would have been a bit different.

Fact is, your still digging away with that trowel at a mighty impressive speed.

Yes okay point taken, i should think before i speak more..

But i didnt say anything about not wanting to pay, atleast i dont believe i did.

My problem is with the child being raised by them.. oh i've confused myself now..i just want some help :sad:

Pink_butterfly_3

Bargainhunter - i couldn't of put it better myself.

robby-01

op are you a perve

Pink_butterfly_3

Shedo - have you spoken to your family about this? What do they say?

Shedo-kuru

Pink_butterfly wrote:

Shedo - have you spoken to your family about this? What do they say?

My father tells me not to pay Benefit..

My mother is too busy with her boyfriend to give much of a !!!!

My parents divorced years ago

seven-day-weekend

Pink_butterfly wrote:

Hes been given all the best advice we can possibly give in the first few pages. He needs to speak to his family or maybe the CAB.

What else can any one say?

Yes, he has been given good advice, there isn't a lot more to say, I agree.

I just didn't think it was right for people to keep poking fun at him.

Shedo, wait until the baby's born, get a DNA test and take it from there. If it's yours you'll have to pay and either way you'll have learned a lesson.

Rikki

Debt_Free_Chick wrote:

Cut the guy a little slack, eh?

He's only 19. I dread to recall how naive I was at that age ... sigh ... I can barely remember.

I agree.

Ignore her family and comments until the babys born. Then request a DNA test and take it from there.

You maybe worrying needlessly.

Graham_Devon

Shedo-kuru wrote:

Yes okay point taken, i should think before i speak more..

But i didnt say anything about not wanting to pay, atleast i dont believe i did.

My problem is with the child being raised by them.. oh i've confused myself now..i just want some help :sad:

Wait till the baby is born. Get a DNA test (it's your right). Go from there. If the baby is yours, pay for it and try to get access, take it to court if you feel that she is not up to bringing the child up in a proper manner. If it's considered that she can't, put the baby up for adoption (I would suggest in this case).

If you don't want to pay £120 for the blood test, ring Jeremy Kyle.

In either case, do what's right for the baby. The baby cannot be used to fuel the fued between you two. The baby did not ask to be born into this world and make sure you do the best you can for it, in every respect, even if that is fighting to put it up for adoption if you genuinely feel that there would be a case for it.

newcook

Shedo-kuru wrote:

your all sick taking delight in my pain!!

whoops! pressed wrong button so have a free thanks!

TBH you haven't made this easy on yourself:
- calling the girl and her family all sorts of names
- showing her details for website
- having sex with a minor (which should actually class you as a paedophile)
- making out that you are hard done by because you have to lose £1600 of your wage a year - this girl has lost the rest of her teen years (wether through choice or not)
- trying to make us believe you were asleep!

sorry but I really cant see your pain apart from where you think your wallet has been hurt