A Year of Living Frugabulously

taxi73

you definitely know how to pick them Lula...staying single and having more shoes sounds best for sanity

Karmacat

Oh my word, Lula! Single with sexy shoes is definitely the way to go ... its not that bloke thats just contacted you again, is it? _pale_

With internet dating, even if I've been chatting beforehand, I'd *never* go to someone's house for a first date. And frankly, if they ask you to, they've got so little awareness they're a write-off anyway

You *are* fabulous :j:j:j

vasseur

OMG never a dull moment in Lula Land! All part of life's rich tapestry. It's stories like these that put me off internet dating even though I know there are lots of success stories.

My Dad always says that any experience is good experience even if it doesn't feel like it at the time.

Pippilongstocking

Oh dear lula - poor you!

Have a frugaltastic day today in fab shoes hun.

ZTD

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Eventually I had to tell myself that I'd never know for sure about anything during that time we were together & to just let go of it & move on.

Dark times indeed, but I remain standing; older, wiser & now even richer too .

:T

Lula-Hula wrote: »

I'll put up with stuff, but I won't take any form of abuse, I wont put up with lies & I sure as eggs is eggs, wont ever mix money & men again.

Well it's not just men, but you probably haven't seen the other side of that equation...

My problem is that I tell the truth too much, the questions like "Does my bum look big in this?" leads to some difficult moments...

"It's nuuuuu... It's nuuuuu..." :rotfl:

Lula-Hula wrote: »

I'd rather stay single & have more shoes :rotfl:

And a camper van...

taxi73 wrote: »

you definitely know how to pick them Lula...staying single and having more shoes sounds best for sanity

Well there seem to be so many people like that, and the thing is that they're very rarely single, so they must fulfil some need.

Karmacat wrote: »

With internet dating, even if I've been chatting beforehand, I'd *never* go to someone's house for a first date. And frankly, if they ask you to, they've got so little awareness they're a write-off anyway

One date I went on, I did say:
"You *have* told someone you're here haven't you?"
"YES!"
"Just checking..."

Karmacat wrote: »

You *are* fabulous :j:j:j

:T

Memory_Girl

Souk08 wrote: »

I do like a bit of eyeliner myself..but with the short hair and long lashes I can look a bit like Liza!

and your point would be a caller??? No-one more fabulous than her:D

MG

freshair_2

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Marty - how's your weekend been hon ? Goodness NO to hats :eek:. I was stunned the guy got in touch because there was some history attached & as I'm tucked up with a hottie I'll tell you a bedtime story all about it ...

It must be nearly 3 years ago now that I had this brief foray into the weird world of free internet dating. This particular guy approached me on the site & while I wasn't initially interested in him at all, he was very funny & a good writer.

Having already met up with the sweet but still grief stricken widower , the coked up artist who made me cook the dinner he'd invited me to & been sent pictures of the campervan man erm 'standing to attention' , my enthusiasm for internet dating was waning fast until 'The Doctor' started chatting. He was clearly intelligent & educated & although I wasn't convinced about him being an actual doctor, he was amusing enough to keep in touch with.

We exchanged numbers, had a few chats & eventually arranged to meet half way ( about 70 miles apart) for a meal. He'd expressed a love of fast cars & I admit I was curious as to what he had. A few hours before the date was due, he got in touch & admitted that in fact he didn't have a car as he was banned from driving but if I was willing to drive to his place, then he'd cook me a seafood meal.

Now, I love driving & it was an easy journey, BUT I'm not a fan of sea food, certainly not enough to do a 150 round trip on a friday night & most definitely not to meet up with a stranger who's already lied to me.

I said I wasn't interested after he'd lied to me & he got very vexed, sending me ranting texts telling me not to be so prim & perfect & to go F myself.

I wasn't that bothered & withdrew from the site not long after & soon forgot all about him.

Until yesterday. I googled him & wow does this guy have history & some issues :eek:.

In short, he's a predatory player; scans the dating sites for women who are 35+, gives out the dedicated Doctor with no time to meet women' spiel & then takes them for every penny. There are pages of twittering about him, he has desperate & slightly deranged women uploading stuff on youtube & other sites, declaring love for him. He's also a serious political animal with some very extreme views.

Why he would have kept my number I have no idea, but I'm glad I trusted my initial instinct not to have anything to do with a weasel who lied before the first date & I suspect his rage when I turned him down, was because he's not used to rejection & is actually a particularly nasty type of misogynist.


So, there you have it; yet another cautionary tale from Auntie Lula's big book of Lessons Learned the hard way :rotfl:.

This is why i am petrified of the internet dating thing, I am sure that there are no normal people on them, i tried briefly before meeting exOH and just ended up with a stalker, an odd one, and one who quite frankly had more baggage than an airport....

Sorry that was from a while back, going to catch up now, the server is down at work so can't log on and have done all i can without it. what a shame :rotfl:

RosaBernicia

Agree with not mixing men and money... but hoping can find a way to not be single (and don't care about shoes - though campervan is a different matter altogether).

Clearly you are all trying to put me off internet dating! I was just debating whether to try it properly now that I have some free time again. Perhaps I'll just try going out more instead!

Z that clip is marvellous :rotfl:

Rosa xx

kerri_dfw

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Agree with not mixing men and money... but hoping can find a way to not be single (and don't care about shoes - though campervan is a different matter altogether).

Clearly you are all trying to put me off internet dating! I was just debating whether to try it properly now that I have some free time again. Perhaps I'll just try going out more instead!

Z that clip is marvellous :rotfl:

Rosa xx

I technically got to know my OH through the interweb and we've been together over a year. I say technically, as I met him for 30 seconds when he was on a night out with some mutual friends. Then we got flirting on fakebook, and now look at us the most wonderful long distance welsh/english relationship. So don't give up!!!

ZTD

freshair wrote: »

This is why i am petrified of the internet dating thing, I am sure that there are no normal people on them, i tried briefly before meeting exOH and just ended up with a stalker, an odd one, and one who quite frankly had more baggage than an airport...

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Agree with not mixing men and money... but hoping can find a way to not be single (and don't care about shoes - though campervan is a different matter altogether).

Clearly you are all trying to put me off internet dating! I was just debating whether to try it properly now that I have some free time again. Perhaps I'll just try going out more instead!

It shouldn't be that bad, provided you're sensible about it.

• Talk to them *a lot* beforehand. See what they're like when you don't agree with them.
• Set up a disposible email, or learn to use mail rules.
• Exchange emails - the police can trace back quite a way should the worst happen.
• Don't give them your one and only mobile phone number. Free SIMS are cheap enough, and you can always use the credit you stick on them to phone other weirdos.
• Meet somewhere public, and let someone know where you're going.
• Arrange someone to phone you about an hour in, so you can say "Oh my God! My hamster has died! I've got to go back immediately!" if it's not going well.

I must admit, I'm not as good with personal safety as I could be, but I'm a reasonably big bloke, which tends to crimp some of the funny business.

Just be sensible...

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Z that clip is marvellous :rotfl:

So if you ask "Is my bum big in this?" and I start going "It's nuuuurrrrr..." you know what's happening...