So angry and upset about bridesmaid

wanchai_2

Just tell her that you want *her* to feel comfortable on the day and you would rather exchange it for a perfect, shop-fresh size 14 than spend even more money on alterations which might not turn out well! Hopefully she will see sense and agree.

You've already spent £100, why should you spend more because of your BM's vanity?

I can imagine how stressful this is, so close to the wedding x

Good luck

VICSH

OP, massive sympathy I am in excatly the same boat with my BM who asked me to order a 12 of a very expensive dress £180 I ordered it it fitted. She has gained a significant amount of weight and now the dress is 2 sizes too small and I cant find the dresses anywhere (the dress sold out, I have even contacted the designer).

I am really worried about it fitting her, and her feeling uncomfortable when she tried it on in front of me 2 weeks ago after putting it off for AGES (I'm talking months) and it didnt fit she was almost in tears. I didnt make her feel bad at all and tried to suggest 30 day shred, diet etc but her head is in the sand. I have made the decision to let it be I dont want to upset her or add to the pressure but if it doesnt fit by the day then I'm afriad there is nothing I can do.

In regards to your friend I strongly recommend getting her to try it on in front of you, my friend eventually agreed after me saying the shoes I had brought had to be returned by X date and she has to try them on with the dress to check. I think she was putting it off becasue she knew it wouldnt fit.

My wedding is in 7 weeks so it is going ot be hard going for her, but if I was your friend I would jsut ask to swap the dress but if she wont I would say let it be dont buy another dress and if it doesnt fit then she will miss out.

I know this doesnt really answer your question but I was jsut sharing you are not the only one in this situation!! Sending you hugs!!!

VICSH

P.s forgot to add try not to let it stress you out, there is nothing you can do if she wont have the dress swapped for a larger size, dont let it ruin a friendship xxx

MaggieBaking

VICSH wrote: »

OP, massive sympathy I am in excatly the same boat with my BM who asked me to order a 12 of a very expensive dress £180 I ordered it it fitted. She has gained a significant amount of weight and now the dress is 2 sizes too small and I cant find the dresses anywhere (the dress sold out, I have even contacted the designer).

I am really worried about it fitting her, and her feeling uncomfortable when she tried it on in front of me 2 weeks ago after putting it off for AGES (I'm talking months) and it didnt fit she was almost in tears. I didnt make her feel bad at all and tried to suggest 30 day shred, diet etc but her head is in the sand. I have made the decision to let it be I dont want to upset her or add to the pressure but if it doesnt fit by the day then I'm afriad there is nothing I can do.

In regards to your friend I strongly recommend getting her to try it on in front of you, my friend eventually agreed after me saying the shoes I had brought had to be returned by X date and she has to try them on with the dress to check. I think she was putting it off becasue she knew it wouldnt fit.

My wedding is in 7 weeks so it is going ot be hard going for her, but if I was your friend I would jsut ask to swap the dress but if she wont I would say let it be dont buy another dress and if it doesnt fit then she will miss out.

I know this doesnt really answer your question but I was jsut sharing you are not the only one in this situation!! Sending you hugs!!!

Can you take it to a seamstress and get some extra panels put in?

Kaye1

OP, I think some of the posters are being harsh on you! Wedding to organise, food, guests etc etc etc and THEN this on top! Your BM should be doing everything to make your time easier and stress free.

Me- I would say nothing and do nothing as it is her responsibility now. You really have done everything possible to help. Hope you have a fabulous day.

74jax

Did you manage to get this sorted over the weekend? Some very good advice on here and nothing I can add, but I hope things are improving on the run up to your wedding day. Not long to go now, hope you're excited about it and this isn't putting a dampener on it.

Blackpool_Saver

How ridiculous, well if looks bad she is out, that would be how I would handle it, silly girl

jonty1970

Have you actually seen the dress lately?
I would want to see it and make sure I could take it back for an exchange. There is no reason why she won't accept a 14, so close to the wedding. It's not a big size.

Maybe she let someone else do the alterations and it's gone wrong

melancholly

losingpatience wrote: »

Not yet, I tried to organise something but she didn't get back to me until Sunday night so it was too late by then. We've sorted out so she's coming round Thursday along with the other 2 bridesmaids to have a try on so I'll see what it looks like then.

have some spanx (or cheaper version!) ready on hand...... good luck! this does seem like a lot of stress - but it's her job to sort it out after leaving it this late.

Big_Alf

This seems a ridiculous situation to be stressing over. All seems very selfish of your friend, its your day, not hers.

Like the abover poster, I personally would just let it be. If she packs into it and looks ridiculous it is her own fault. I very much doubt it will in anyway reflect on you or your wedding, let it be her own problem.

If she cannot get into the dress at all and doesnt raise this in suitable time to exchange before the wedding then again, her own problem. I would let her turn up in her own dress and tell her she's more than welcome to still be a bridesmaid, but she might look a bit out of place.

I dont know how good a friend she is meant to be but she doesnt come across as great from what you say. Hang her out to dry!