At the end of my tether with work...but can I leave?

gallygirl

chrisvaldez wrote: »

In the meantime I am formulating a plan to get out; plan is to line up employment and then hand my notice in, with a 3 month deadline. If I don't have work after 3 months I'm quitting anyway (unless by some miracle all the bullies leave first!)

That's the way to do it :T. Good luck

j.e.j.

gallygirl wrote: »

I was in a similar situation a number of years ago OP but with the difference I was a single parent.

It was becoming unbearable so something had to give. In the end I gave myself four months - in that time I would do what I could to get another job, but if I had no luck I would leave anyway. It totally transformed how I felt - I had control back again, I was choosing to be there and there was a way out. That in its' turn helped me cope with the stress and I could probably have stayed there for longer, IYSWIM. Luckily I got another job after a month, still there 12 years later :T.

Take control back - you are CHOOSING to work there, short term, till you find something else. Now get out there and find something else .

Good luck :beer:

This is excellent advice, and can be applied to any situation where someone feels trapped, not just in a job.

OP just a thought, but the arthritis might have been brought on by chronic stress (stress hormones running through the body 24/7 over a long period of time can have serious detrimental effects on health)

But on the plus side, you are still young and there WILL be other jobs out there for you when you leave this one.

Good luck with things.

belfastgirl23

The other thing apart from the excellent advice offered here already, is could you consider very actively what you leaving work might do to make her life easier? Could you say that you will take on all of the household chores meaning that when she comes home she is free to relax and destress? Of course you would have to mean it.....