Daughters Dissapearance.

crazyguy

gazza0210 wrote: »

I think you are right Crazyguy, I dont think they want to be found. This is where it becomes so complex because I have no guarantees that she has even come back to england .

Personaly I would look at her extended family route and take it from there.

Good luck.

marywooyeah

gazza0210 wrote: »

Sorry guys, maybe I wasnt clear in my first post. When I say dissapearance I mean that she and her mum and stepdad seems to have upped sticks and moved somewhere without telling me.

oh ok I got the impression she was a teenager and had gone away with friends or something. do you have a Contact Order in place or is there an informal agreeement between yourself and your ex in respect of contact with your daughter? if not, I'd go to see a family law solicitor and they will refer both of you to mediation to try to reach an agreement before deciding whether you need to go to court to get a contact order. If they can't find her they will instruct a process server to trace her. This, I imagine, would kick start your ex to contact you (even if it is to shout at you asking why you want to go to court) and you'd find out where your daughter is living too. most do free half hour advice, and depending on your income you could qualify for public funding so you wouldnt have to pay yourself. x

jackyann

I would contact other family members / friends if poss.
I would try sending an "international signed for" letter to her mum, saying how worried you are and need contact (because with such a letter the relevant PO may use a foreading address, or will at least return it to you).
If no joy, contact the National Parenting & Family Institute who have some information about this stuff.
I wouldn't withhold maintenance as that could work against you.
But you could consider another "signed for" letter stating that you intend paying the maintenance money into a separate account until contact is established. Beware that mum may, if she can manage without the money, just tell your daughter that contact has been severed.
Another recourse is to write letters to your daughter - just telling her bits of news and sending your love, and lodge them with a relative until she makes contact herself.

SWALLOW

Hello

Do you have any contact details for your daughters friends ? I cannot imagine an 8 year old being able to keep a holiday/move a secret from her friends.
Have you spoken to the school? perhaps one of the teachers knows where they are heading?

Stopping the payments is an idea to see if there is a reaction.

If you think they have moved back to the UK try a site like Finder Monkey or the Electoral roll. Finder Monkey find the person you are looking for and if they cannot they do not charge.

Try and get some better advice from the Salvation Army 'look4them.org.uk' and the National Missing persons helpline.

Hope this useful

Swallow

puddy

do you have PR, is there a british contact order in place for her?

was she given permission to remove the child from the jurisdiction when she originally moved?

Seanymph

Do you know who the step dad works for? Stalking adults is usually much easier than stalking an 8 year old.

Google is a friend - and facebook even more so - if you find the adults, you'll find the child.

BitterAndTwisted

She told you several weeks back that they were going on holiday for a couple of weeks, so that's most likely where they are. I really don't think it's time to start panicking, hiring private detectives or withholding maintenance payments just yet.

lottiedottie

http://www.reunite.org/ may be able to help, hth x

Mrs_P_Pincher

1. whereabouts in the world are they? Are they within the EU?
2. do you have parental responsibility and/or a contact order?
3. useful suggestions about extended family but that will depend on how you get along with them and/or whether they have been told stuff about you that is not true.
4. is your daughter a British citizen?
4. if she is a British citizen, I would start by speaking to the Foreign and Commonwealth Office

Be aware, as someone has already said, that if this is deliberate, then you may be in for the long haul.

Mrs P P

rachelhen

I can't help but hope the situation sorts out it must be upsetting to say the least.